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NOPE - I don't smoke anymore.

G’day It’s NOPE for me C

First of all Oldy, you are not alone. We are here if ever you need to vent or talk. I will definitely add you to my prayer list. I can not imagine the grief you are feeling over the loss of your God daughter. I hope you and your family can find comfort knowing she is with God. The decision to leave your job may turn out to be the best move you ever made. The conditions your daughters are dealing with can be very debilitating. I pray they find the treatment that they need. You should be so proud that you have been able to keep your quit through all you are dealing with. Take care. Linda

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Smoking will not change any of the crappy things happening in your life, it wont make them better and it will not help you cope. I know times are tough, but look at it this way, at the moment you can't control many of the things in your life... but there is one thing you have total control over, only you can control and no one or nothing can take that control away. You control if you put a smoke in your mouth and set it on fire... only you control that... cling to that control and don't do it... you will feel better and stronger if you don't.

Redemption, it is very difficult to believe you seriously want to quit. You have been on and off the forum for months. You have never taken the Nope pledge in all your attempts. That is all it takes is to pledge nope to smoking and stick to it. It is not going to happen until you truly want it and work toward that goal. Only you can change your life.

J, I will be watching for your posts. You need the support of friends right now. There are times in life that we need friends to help us navigate the difficulties. I can understand you feeling overwhelmed with what you are dealing with. So glad you protected that wonderful quit. Know that we are here for you. Linda

Thank you both.... I suppose I just need to stay in here a little while and find my way around the different places - at least it will give me something to try to concentrate on and help with the distraction techniques!

Hi OBM, Just posted a congratulations on your 1 year quit. I don't think I can even fathom the things going on with you right now. But I know one thing, which everyone before me has also mentioned, that lighting up, will not solve the problem at all. There's nothing that smoking will do to change status quo, absolutely nothing. You've stuck it out for so long inspite of everything life has thrown at you, I can totally believe that you can beat this demon purring inside of you as well. You've fought and won tougher battles, you can win this. We're with you. Stay strong and KTQ.

@Oldybutmouldy.....I'm sorry to be late ... I'm sorry also you having to deal with all these difficulties ..... You really deep down didn't want to go back to smoking ...if you did ,I wouldn't be writing this letter .. Waking the beast wouldn't help in anyway....it would only give you a whole new set of problems .... If you feel you need support ...please stay with us a while ....until you feel strong enough ..... There will always be someone here .....

Hey Oldy first of all congrats on the 1 year quit and there should be your motivation. Having a smoke now may only make things worse. I am so sorry you are going thru this all now especially with the season and everything and it is a tough go. As said above spend the time with family and friends if possible and try and remember the positive -- it is hard but smoking will only make it harder at this time.

Hey oldy, with all that going on its to be expected. You're overwhelmed! But smoking isn't going to change any of that and you know it. Why would you give up that beautiful one year quit only to find that nothing got better because you smoked? Even never smokers would be overwhelmed by the things you have and are going through right now. I'm confident because you posted, that you will not smoke and lose your quit. If you really wanted to smoke you would have never posted this. I'm truly sorry for all the stuff you're dealing with and the death of your goddaughter. Maybe you could spend extra time with her kids, it might be just what you need to feel better?

G’day Not One Puff Ever.... NOPE .... C

I want to take this time to wish everyone here a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! Like Boo... I won't be around for the next few days/ perhaps weeks. Most of the girls will start to come tomorrow. Jodi works at Children's Hospital and it's her year to work the holiday, so she won't be home until the 30th. Most of the girls live 2 - 2 1/2 HR drive away. The weather is supposed to cooperate for thier drive across the state... there are many here that , even though we have never met, I like to think of as friends! Then there are those that have come aboard after my more "active years" that I have really not take the time to get acquainted with, and for that I feel sorry....Everyone here is amazing in different ways! Hopefully in the coming year I will be able to,stop in more often and help offer some support to the newer members, and get to know some of you better. so with that said, ... I really do wish everyone here and their families a happy and safe holiday season!

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Please do come here and post anything you choose to. We have games and a social section and a place 'off the record' that you can post on threads like 'can we just have a friggin' swearing thread'. Feel free to post EVERYWHERE. You will help people out there/in here with your experience. You also may want to start yourself a blog here, where you can keep it private if you wish or not. Please find yourself some Joy this season and be really really really PROUD of your wonderful quit !

Hi oldy, I know how the death of a parent can bring you down around thei anniversary of it. My dad died on Valentines day 2002. For years I didn't buy my husband not even a card as I didn't' see it as anything but the day my dad died. Your mum's death, especially around Christmas is still pretty new and I can understand how when it comes around it's like it just happened all over again ? Venting on here, posting and participating is a great way to get things off your chest. If you don't feel like your quit is in jeopardy we have an Off the Record board that you can post on. Our socializing board has lots of good topics too. Oh and if you're looking for distractions from smoking posts, those two boards and the games board have lots to keep you occupied I'm glad you're spending time with the kids, it must be such a help to their dad. Try to have a Merry Christmas and we'll be here if you need us. xoxo

Let us just be clear. You did not have to smoke, you chose to smoke. Don't do it again!

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Things are hard yes but I find it even harder to believe that someone with a solid year quit would go back to smoking. Even after a year some of us still do get craves but it is not enough to give in. If you pick the cancer sticks back up, you are really gonna feel like crap.

Congratulations @Oldybutmouldy on one year quit! You must be so proud of yourself I hope you do something special to celebrate this huge milestone!

Glad it wasn't too bad, Jillar. Maybe it released some pressure. I am getting dolled up to go to a party. Do you know how long it has been since I went to a party that wasn't mine ? (probably 2 or 3,4,5 years) I have my cab fare in my boot for a quick get away if needed but, I think I will have a good time. Raw Oysters, Grilled Oysters and Gravlax. Champagne ?

Nope! Not at Christmas time!

0 Stay close ....post anywhere on this board....the good folks here will find you ... Playing the games is a good distraction.... Do what you have to do ...to keep that wonderful quit ....and help you through tough times ....

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Thank you all for your responses - I really appreciate them. I guess I am also struggling more with my depressive illness also right now. My mum died on 20th Dec. 2015, so Christmas time is now also not a very easy time for me anymore. I am going over to my goddaughters to help look after the children mostly every other weekend currently, to give their dad and their grandma a bit of a break. I know I will continue to not smoke, as it has cost me a lot to get this far, but as I said at the beginning, I just feel so lost and alone right now. Knowing this community is here where I feel I can at least let a little of that out is very helpful..... so thanks again for that. I used to access QSMB previously to help me when I first quit, but it seems that forum is no longer available. I am really glad I also signed up on this forum. I think maybe I will see if there is a 'pointless' section on here where I can just ramble and release some of my pain rather than on the SOS board. I normally shut myself away from life and most connections with people when I am really struggling like I am currently, but I will try to keep coming in here, if only to just read and maybe react to some posts. I am also spending some time just watching Joel's videos again, and that is helping me. Unfortunately, mainly due to the fibro, but also to some degree to the CFS, going for walks to release some of the stress is no longer a real option for me. Guess I will just have to stick to parking in a field gate and going and sitting in the field whilst throwing a ball for my lovely dog will just have to keep me going on that level. I hope you all have the kind of Christmas you like best. Kind regards..... J

A crave is a signal to your brain that you need nicotine, when you supply the nicotine the crave goes away and you get a shot of endorphins. When you don't supply the nicotine, you don't get the shot of endorphins. This is why rewards are so important, we release the brain from the nicotine trigger and learn to enjoy true rewards. You really need to study more about your addiction, we never can know enough.

What happened when you all of a sudden chose to purchase and light up a cigarette again after 24 days smoke free? You need to understand what happened this time so you can avoid it again this time. What is your quit plan this time? Is it the same as last time? Last time you used nicotine gum to control your cravings. You have been on this site now for awhile yet you did not reach out to anyone here by posting an SOS on the SOS page. You might have been able to get past your situation if you had posted there and waited for at least 3 replies. SOS posts have saved a lot of quits in the past. I wish you the best in your renewed quit attempt. Please read as much as you can here and learn about nicotine addiction. Have you watched any of the Joel Spitzer Videos? There's a whole library of them on a separate page of the forum. They may help you understand much about this addiction and it's affects on us.

OK Kate....great job fighting this off! It sucks!! and we know what you feel right now. I have been struggling this week for what ever reason but all I have to do is think about how I felt the first 4 days and it passes. Stay strong Darlin and you will do fine!

Great work MLMR! You've established a great early quit. 4 months is still early yet in terms of ridding yourself of all the challenges so just keep doing what you have been doing and yes .... your time will come - it's guaranteed!!

Congratulations MLMR!