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  1. I walked, went to the sos board, learned how to make hummus to dip stupid vegetables in when eating something was all that was left, outside causing harm to others. Lol. Then I walked some more. And some more. I would suddenly leap up at work and go walk around some buildings. It helped to know that most craves last around 3 minutes, though they seem to last 3 hours. I just had to beat basically a soft boiled egg. There are are so many jokes I could end with here...
  2. My mother lives with me. I feel ya. I smoked for forty years because nicotine is addictive. It had nothing to do with all the stories I told myself as to why I "needed" to smoke. Nicotine is a stimulant, so it has NO effect on sedating your emotions. All smoking will get you is more guilt than you are already possibly feeling. Hang in there; craves generally pass much more quickly, 3-5 minutes, than I usually think they will.
  3. Aine

    Uh Oh

    The emotions that came to the surface when I quit smoking were numerous, and worked a bit like a pendulum. At first I see sawed back and forth between high intensity interest and then rage. Eventually, and not too long, really, weeks perhaps, they started to settle. I think the emotions that came up when I quit were similar to how I felt during pre periods; it all counts, and its valid, but typically much stronger than usual! I relate. My 85 year old mum lives with us, and my sister lives 175 miles away. She sends money. Monday I have to go and get bank statements and call insurance companies to get documentation for Mom so she can turn it into Medicare or something. She takes care of herself so far; just slow, which is fine with me. Except when I cook. Argh. Oh, and the reminders about cleaning out the dryer vents. WTF? All I know is it goes to outside the house and the dryer still works. All I need. lol. What I put that woman through when I was growing up. Doesn't bear thinking about...
  4. Not Today! WELCOME TO OUR WORLD We are here because There is no refuge, finally, from ourselves. Until we confront ourselves in the eyes and hearts of others, We are running. Until we suffer to share our secrets, We will have no safety from them; Afraid to be known. We will know neither ourselves Nor any others; We will be alone. Where else, but our common grounds, can we find such mirrors? Here We can appear clearly to ourselves. Not as the giants of our dreams nor As the dwarfs of our fears; But as human beings! A part of the whole; With a share in its purpose; Where we can each take root and grow. Not alone anymore as in death, But alive to ourselves and to others... Welcome To Our World- Anonymous
  5. Aine

    Holy crap

    Walk. And then walk more. Beautiful weather here. How about where you are at? Cravings generally pass in a few minutes, and also the first few weeks of withdrawal from nicotine will be tricky physically. It really is withdrawal. Dehydration can be a lot of it, and blood sugar spikes. Water and cranberry juice can help. Find a new hobby. I joined the gym and started using some of the equipment, finally. Lol. This will pass.
  6. I found these videos extremely helpful the first two weeks of my quit. There are many of them, explaining what happens with the nicotine addiction, the effects on the body, etc. I stayed on the quit board and whinged a lot (that's a necessary part of the cure!) and watched Joel. And didn't smoke. And, telling myself over and over, the craving only lasts about 3 minutes, though it seems like hours. I just had to wait out 3 minutes. Daily Quitting Lesson Guide: Joel Spitzer's Stop Smoking Videos.
  7. Aine

    Help again

    For me, I have grieved the "loss" of smoking. It was my habit for 40 years, and retraining the mind to see the reality rather than the lies has taken some time. After about 9 months, I realized that it had been a few days rather than minutes since I had had obsessive thoughts about smoking. That's the question we all ask, right? How long? How long before I can think about something other than smoking and killing myself. That last bit is the thing I need to focus completely when the thoughts come. Aside from the quite real physical withdrawal you are going through, the thought patterns need to be synced again to reality. Lies I told myself: Smoking calms me. Truth: Uh, no. Nicotine actually is a stimulant. The "calming" comes from the fix that happens as soon as I give my body the hit. The adrenal glands go, "Thanks, big hug!" Problem there is that my heart is constantly being exercised while completely stationary, which I guess isn't so healthy. Lie: I'm one of those people who just can't quit. Truth: No. I'm one of those people who will tell myself that in order to keep doing whatever I'm doing that will kill me. I said it about dope, booze, and then the nicotine. And I have quit all of those and stayed quit, just for today. If I stay focused on the real cause and effect, I don't feel quite so bad. And it gets better, trust us. Your day is coming.
  8. Listening to Joel's videos constantly, which helped educate me in nicotine addiction and the things my brain and body tells me, along with becoming obsessed with this board, helped tremendously to get me through the initial rough period. Like you, I walked to help quieten the urges, became an expert in making Hummus; it makes any vegetable edible! I kept asking "when does it get better" also. Just search my posts! I was a four pack a day chain smoker, and I have 4 years now. Everyone is different as far as when the "magical day" comes. That's what we want, right? Waking up free of the thought and urge to smoke, smoke, smoke until we die. I had about 3 months off nicotine in any form when I realized I had had almost an entire day of not wanting a cigarette. The important thing to remember: Everyday it gets better! Interspersed with 3 minutes of an occasional craving. That's what I learned from Joel: cravings generally start to abate after 3 minutes. Weird, huh? Seems a lifetime when I'm having one. Except, it has been a long time since I had any intense cravings. Yeah! One minute at a time, then one day at a time, then weeks....keep doing it. A few uncomfortable months beats the hell out of helping someone smoke a cigarette through the hole in her throat (I did that, years ago, for a patient dying in the hospital of lung cancer. And I hoped desperately that there would be someone to do the same for me, since I was pretty sure I'd get there eventually.) https://www.quittrain.com/topic/9520-greetings-from-joel-spitzer/

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