June 14, 20215 yr Author Now we’re talking @d2e8b8 day 7. Acknowledge the negative but dwell on the positive First week almost in the pocket, after my stupid relapse. I’ve been happy for the most part of it, there was one moment were I really had a tough time. I make sure I get my daily dose of Joel Spitzer, it helps me to binge his messages again. Straightforward education, simple. On to week two 💪
June 15, 20215 yr Interesting thinking about relapses; as MLMR pointed out, being a smoker is a whole lifestyle. There's the worrying about running out of cigarettes, the ashtrays, the lighters (I can't imagine how much time I wasted searching for lighters in my handbags!) the smell EVERYWHERE, looking for opportunities to smoke etc. I used to move away from people who didn't smoke because I knew that I smelled bad and I was embarrassed. Always emptying ashtrays...phew! I am 70 days quit today woo hoo! Someone asked me why I was still counting the days; well at this point it's because I am proud of my achievement and adding and extra day or week to my quit gives me encouragement to keep going. Whatever gets you through! All the best MLMR, it's worth doing again.
June 15, 20215 yr You should by still counting the days and celebrating small milestones @Robbie At least you realized that you smelled awful after having a smoke. I never did until I stopped smoking then smelled others who had just finished one - lol
June 15, 20215 yr 23 minutes ago, reciprocity said: At least you realized that you smelled awful after having a smoke. I never did until I stopped smoking then smelled others who had just finished on This was me too! Heck yea you guys should celebrate! Everyday is one step closer to the one year mark 😊
June 15, 20215 yr Every day IS a Celebration ....What are you achieving is AMAZING.....😀 It's what every smoker deep down wants .... Talking of stink ... Wow....I feel sorry for all the Hugs I gave over the decades.....
June 15, 20215 yr Author 8 hours ago, Robbie said: I am 70 days quit today woo hoo! Someone asked me why I was still counting the days; well at this point it's because I am proud of my achievement and adding and extra day or week to my quit gives me encouragement to keep going. Keep counting. I wish I’d done the same, nearing my three years! It doesn’t mean you still spend every minute thinking of smoking, it doesn’t mean you hang on to the misery.. Counting means making your quit the important, life saving thing it is.
June 16, 20215 yr Author Oh! How appropriate, on counting (@Robbie) For former smokers not celebrating a major milestone today So, Wednesday. Week 2 I feel steady in quitting. I consider myself lucky, I know it could’ve easily been a totally different experience. Imagine if I’d continued smoking, making quitting harder every day. Iehw iehw iehw. The slavery! oh man, I’ve really done such a stupid thing (not mad at myself here, to be clear). Just the realization that I really actually truly lit up after all that time. I thought I knew what it was all about. And yet.... so... ignorant. Stupid friggin' addiction. Edited June 16, 20215 yr by MLMR
June 16, 20215 yr @MLMR, you're doing well. Glad you went right back to quit. Why not create a ticker to help count the days and cigs not smoked.
June 16, 20215 yr On 6/14/2021 at 9:01 PM, Robbie said: Interesting thinking about relapses; as MLMR pointed out, being a smoker is a whole lifestyle. There's the worrying about running out of cigarettes, the ashtrays, the lighters (I can't imagine how much time I wasted searching for lighters in my handbags!) the smell EVERYWHERE, looking for opportunities to smoke etc. The thing I hated most about the early days of my quit was obsessing over cigarettes and smoking. Now I'm thankful for those obsessive thoughts. They were a pain in the ass but also forced me to realize how my addiction had come to be front-and-center in my life.. The truth will set you free. It might smack you on the side of the head a few times, but will eventually set you free.
June 18, 20215 yr 3 hours ago, MLMR said: Note to self: I’ve relapsed and I hate it Come on MLMR! I know you have it in you. Buckle down and get in the driver seat. You can do this!
June 18, 20215 yr 7 hours ago, MLMR said: Note to self: I’ve relapsed and I hate it Assume you didn't actually relapse and the link is a note to self for your previous relapse ... in which case it's all good. I think the post may be interpreted different ways.
June 18, 20215 yr 11 hours ago, MLMR said: Didnt mean to give that impression no - Im all good here. @Mee no worries! Oh thank goodness. Glad you are still rocking that quit!
June 21, 20215 yr Author When I post video's from Joel Spitzer, I usually write the title as an underlined link. Its clickable and lets you open the video in another screen. It seems to give some confusion here and there. Anyway. Week two is in the pocket. I had two tough moments and like I said before: when all is good I’m totally fine, but when the urge hits.. pfiew. It helps to reach out and talk to someone when it happens. video: The urge hits
June 22, 20215 yr Author Smoking crosses my mind often today. Not in any danger of giving up, but it’s annoying and what is there to say about it, not much. Every time I have a thought about one smoke, I imagine all the other things that come with that one cigarette. Video: will I ever stop thinking of cigarettes? Bwegh.
June 22, 20215 yr @MLMR I knew you were kiddin us lol . I also think you are on to something . Writing the "I relapsed and I hate it " might actually be a really good pre tool to help someone stay quit before a slip/relapse happens . A slip is sometimes a quick impulse . But we must always remember we do have time to change our thoughts because smoking takes many steps , from opening the package , to taking it out , to finding the lighter , to putting it to our mouth , to lighting it , then inhaling . Stop and think "or halt " I relapsed and I hate it " is a great mantra to think of before it happens . It may give a person time needed to rethink their direction .
June 22, 20215 yr 6 hours ago, MLMR said: Smoking crosses my mind often today. Not in any danger of giving up, but it’s annoying and what is there to say about it, not much. Every time I have a thought about one smoke, I imagine all the other things that come with that one cigarette. I had many internal debates with myself during the early days of the quit. What's one more cigarette? It'll get you through this rough patch. To get one more, I would need to buy a pack. After the one there's nineteen cigarettes left, you'll smoke the whole pack and vow to quit again. You'll find other excuses and buy another carton when that pack is gone. No, you just need the one and you'll be good to go. Shut up. You can lie to everybody else, but you can't lie to yourself. One leads to one more...and one more...and one more. Fortunately, I had reached a point where my dislike of being a smoker prevailed over any desire to smoke. The debates happened regularly, but I was on a mission.
June 22, 20215 yr Don't ever think of a cigarette any different from these stinky cancer sticks ... How horrible does this look ... There will be never ...Just One .....it doesn't exist ....
June 25, 20215 yr Author Definitely agree with you @Abby. Thanks for adding that. Last Tuesday I decided it was time for a new hobby, so now I’m the proud owner of this hot chick: I went for my second ride this morning and pfieww, did I understimate cycling 😅. Apparantly my cycle shoes and pedals don’t match (yet), super slippery, a tieniewienie bit bruised now but It was quite the ride and I love it. I can’t wait to get better at it. Ive had a few lesser days, quit wise. Can’t find the English words to describe it. Not craving perse, but unrest, addict thinking “over there it’s better”, “I want something I don’t have” etc. Video: breaking free from nicotine’s grip is more doable than most people think Edited June 25, 20215 yr by MLMR
June 25, 20215 yr Wow !!!! ML ..What a great bike ...Well done .... you'll soon get used to it I'm sure .... We have a few Bikers here now ....maybe we need a Bikers club ...x
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