notsmokinjo

And how's that goin for ya?

Oh those early quit days when I lived on 1 to 2 hours shut eye a day...how I miss them, NOT!... I'll take my 3-5hrs and be happy.

Sitting on a bus, heading home from work and it still has that new car smell.

-2 Shouldn't you be at work Andy?

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Down here you would "chuck a u-ie" Invoking the SLOX.... X=5 (The) 5 second rule....the amount of time droped food can remain on the ground and still be picked up and eaten.

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^ ditto

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OMG....defo, dry sherry or medium...sweety sherry not be the way to go...I am frickin doing this.

Tosser A wanker/jerk off, a loser who is a bit of an arsehole.

A Ring in ... Used in reference to sport/competition to denote a player in a team, usually with superior talent, who does not normally play for the team but has just been rung in for the game. Bob: shit Bazza you guys got smashed on Satdee. Bazza: mate, the other side had a couple a ring ins...A graders too, we had no hope.

Perfect - totally, comletely up shit creek without a paddle. Wife: oh darl, me mum's comin down to stay fer a week. Hubby: well that's just bloody perfect isn't it. The sweeter he says these words the further from happy he is.

I knew going into this quit that the mental/emotional side of my addiction was what my issue was and recent posts by another member made me really open that up and look at it. I know there will be others out there who won't get this and will think I'm off with the fairies or have a few roos loose in my top paddock but this is why a quit can be so different from person a to person b to person c... for some of us smoking has just as much to do with nicotine addiction as it has to do with filling an emotional and psychological void. Right so I know some of you are just itching to fire off and rebut the shit out of this but please just read it first then have at it. I'm just sharing my perspective and it might give some of you an insight into some of the more challenging personalities here. So my first smoke was the night my grandad died of emphysema and I was legally an adult adult at the time so shoulda known better. Confession: I've kinda always liked the smell of smokes, right from when I was a kid...because that smell meant my grandad was around, or my aunty and it meant I was safe. So right from the get go that smell meant safety, and warmth, and love and acceptance...so mentally, long before I smoked, I was building associations with smoking that it was part of being safe, and loved, and protected. I know this is bull, and most of those voids are now scars. I mean come on, smoke was never going to fill anything for more than a moment. But you see I could control smoking, it was never going to abandon me, or kick me out, or shut me out, it sure as shit wasn't gunna reject me...it was the safest ( ) relationship I had. It made me feel good and wanted and needed. It was never going to take that away from me I could reject it IF I WANTED to...but it was never going to reject me or find me wanting or lacking. So @hesteralumni23 sweetie, if you're still lurking this post is for you and all the other smokers who have given it an emotional value it doesn't deserve .. see HA23 had a sucky childhood too... Her mum died when she was young (abandonment)...she was the thrown into an unstable and abusive home life (massive list) so here she is trying to navigate the chaos that is her new home life and stay safe, grieve her mum, puberty, her sexuality and then along comes an abusive older girl who takes advantage of a confused, scared, lonely little girl and because she is so starved for love and affection she associates those feelings with smoking because after her abuser (no offence but no 18yo old, male or female, should be anywhere sexually near a 13yo....at that age 5 year gap is huge....5 years down the track not as much) made her feel loved, and touched tenderly, and wanted they smoked... So to feel those things again, she would smoke....it filled the void...and unlike her abuser who would vanish to the other side of the country or her mum who would die the ciggies were never going to abandon her... She controlled that ..they were always going to be there...I get it, because the story might be different but that's me. It's stupid, junky thinking....and where is this all going...right, it's all Bull!... But when your addiction is tied up into such an emotional need you kind of have to deal with that shit as well as all the other quit stuff. So .... Doesn't mean you can't quit you can, I did... It just means the journey is different. 1. Deal with the emotional voids. 2. Realise that your nicotine addiction feeds all those bad thoughts you have about yourself, those nicotine receptors play on all your insecurities and exploit them so that you will have a smoke "to feel better"....smoking does nothing to improve your worth and it certainly doesn't love you. 3. Learn about how nicotine addiction works, how it changes your brain. 4. Love yourself enough to stop the cycle of self abuse. So for all of us it is as simple as committing to the decision to not put something in our mouth and smoking it...but for some of us that includes stripping down the why, looking at it and rebuilding into the person we should be.

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@MichelleDoesntSmokeAnymore um yep the poms probably need extra power to allow for the kettle surge..I know Melbourne allows for power surges at home time for the kettles, aircons/heating Being turned on around the same time. Did you know the water/sewerage people also allow for the 6pm get home dunny rush? Confession: I love that due to our equal saturation of UK and US tv shows I get most ofya slang/terms and take pleasure in how many of mine seem like another language to the lottaya.

Oh well done @Sazerac....that is a huge achievement. I am still far from being caffeine free... Although I am having a beetroot latte every Arvo.

This one is for our Wees wappenschawings

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Rewards....super, dooper important. It doesn't have to be anything big but rewards for all the little milestones are important, you don't just have to detox mate, you need to rewire your whole brain... It's all part of it....so for decades every time you did something you rewarded yourself by having a smoke..so you have conditioned your brain that the way we celebrate an achievement is we have a smoke... When I was Smokin'Jo a game if softball would go..caught a dig, came off nicked behind the dugout for a gasper, had a bat, got home, smoke behind the dugout...you get the idea...so my first season quit every time I would have smoked I had a hard lolly (boiled sweet/candy) but I made it something good...so for me they were these raspberry lollies I had to drive 100km each way to get (62 miles?)...anywho...in my early quit...I'd have one if these for all the milestones...2 hours smoke free...finished that account rec at work, won't go outside for a smoke to congratulate myself...nope I'd have a Sovereign Hill Raspberry Lolly....the thing was every time I did something other than smoke to reward myself a nicotine receptor in my brain was rewired....before I knew it all those habits and rituals I had built around smoking were changed and altered. I now don't need a treat to celebrate the milestones or little achievements but it took time. So reward yourself... It might just be a few minutes outside in the sun deep breathing, or a sit down with a cuppa ....but make sure you give yaself those well done moments.

Fillin that games thread with Boobies while I play with meself....again.