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Sitting on the first bus on my way home and realised every night I look up so I can see the Australian Bereuo of Meteorology building and say to myself oh I should tell Saz....lol...Guess wot Saz

OMG stop with the spiders!

14.... Morning Britskis

This is if I do what @Sazerac says and let it just be..and this is without humidity...let's just say way worse! And with product..

Idiot box The television.

Well I'll take 1 cos it's all that's left.

13 Omg...I'm doomed...I played bloody 13

Oops...forgot to say in hot weather (over 35) make sure if you go the product route if it's not the good stuff ya hair feels goopy and slimey all day.

So with the record hot temps and humidity our Britskis sisters and misters are living with at the moment I thought I would jump in with some remedies for those afros your kinky hair is turning into. @Sslip you can just move along, this thread isn't for you. Now personally my kinky hair is of the fine, whispy fairy floss variety. ( Um fair floss = cotton candy / Candy floss)...if ya hair is thick an kinky pretty sure these will still help. Oh an if anyone else has tips, don't just sit there twiddling your thumbs, share... 1. Salt Water... So this has some downsides, it will make your hair heavier and you need to like that beach tosselled look...but basically you just need to spray your hair with salt water...you can make your own by dissolving 1 cup salt in 2.5 cups of water OR next time ya at the beach just bring home a container of the stuff (do this)...spray it in ya damp hair and when it dries you get that beach look. 2. If ya hair is long (this is my go to) just do a messy bun. Not sure how the messy bun works if ya hair is thick, so plaits or braids. 3. Hair is short... product ... Hair wax works for the blokes and the super short. 4. Longer hair can go the product route too but if ya do is best to go for a defrizz, curl enhancing cream and embrace the kink. 5. (If you can) leave your conditioner in...yep you read right.. wash ya hair like normal, just don't wash out the conditioner. My sister does this. 6. Shave and wax your head...it's cheaper and much less work.

True...most nights two twice...I cook for the dogs every night... I cook for the people's 5-6 nights a week. (The kid cooks one night, and we get take away or eat out, maybe, one night). TNP hates their own cooking

I see @Boo's Space Cowboy and raise him a ....

False...I think we just bring dead ones in the eat...I have never even seen a live turkey.....well there are a few people I know who are total turkeys but not the avian kind. TNP has had a pet they later ate.

Put ya feet up girls...this could take a while.

Oh oops TNP has had to be evacuated before and it wasn't just a drill.

(O)(O)...naughty naughty... Didn't know they had beaches in Canberra D

2 wonder if Doreen's melting in Liverpool....oh and that weather you mob are having now...that's what we get for Christmas every year.....Merry Christmas in July.

2... Surely it's too hot in Manchester to be online Andy.

Reminds we of a Canadian ad I saw...

Ok story time: Last week, and i have been quit a while now.... Mum: Aren't you going out for a smoke. Me: *deep breath and sigh.* My kid: Grandma you know mum doesn't smoke anymore. Mum: and you should know it won't last she will fail at that. Your mum is useless. Besides she was much nicer when she smoked and she is getting fatter she should smoke. Did I loose my shit: NOPE Did I storm out: NOPE Did I cry: NOPE....well maybe a little bit on the inside. Did the little girl in me who still wants this woman to just accept me as I am want to go and have a smoke...hell to the NOPE!!! So your original post you asked for suggestions of what to do... this is what I did.... 1. I rolled my eyes (which triggered a whole rant to the kid about how rude her mum is and she shouldn't be like that) .... Don't do that...don't roll ya eyes, well maybe but only if noone nasty can see. 2. I took a big, deep breath in and out. 3. I counted to 10 in English, Italian, French and Japanese in my my head 4. I reminded myself that there is something fundamentally wrong with the woman, that is not my fault but because I am such a strong, amazing person she uses me to try and make herself feel better. 5. I said nothing and went back to the conversation with everyone else there as if nothing was said....this gave her fire no oxygen to burn. Sure it hurts but the options are cut her out and loose my family because I know who's side they will fall on or pity her, which takes away a lot of the hurt...how can someone worthy of your pity hurt you.

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Oh mate...trust me it gets better...when we quit it can play havoc with medications, especially mental health ones. Quitting can also effect how our endocrine system works, which often effects our mental health too. I'm only a few years older than you and I know I still deal with issues caused by my mum and her words and actions. I know at the moment you don't trust your psychiatrist and you want to be off the meds, I get it, I really do, but please remember that many people need to have their medications changed when they quit. It plays that much with how our body and mind works. Please don't just stop your meds. You have a whole train of people here who think Ankush is a pretty top bloke. Stay safe my friend.

Wasn't ignoring you, I took a tablet to get some sleep. It's just a figure of speech...like having a negative side not actual warts.... But even that seems a little harsh....basically it means we like you just the way you are. I didn't mean you have negatives .... Just meant you are who you are and that's fine with us. Sometimes I forget that the rest of the world didn't grow up speaking in idioms and slang. Always happy to translate my gibberish.

We do too mate. You're still pretty new in your quit and there you are welcoming every newbie, looking out for everyone else, sharing your thoughts, support, opponions in an open and courteous way. You my friend, are a bloody good egg. You have immense value. You deserve respect because you certainly show it. Now, when we give up smoking some of us don't have to just deal with cravings. Some of us get to face all those insecurities and hurts we have had programmed into us since we were kids. Why, because while we smoked we programmed part of our brain to think that smoking made it all feel better...our brains learnt that when we felt worthless and useless (usually by the people who shouldn't make us feel that way) we'd have a smoke, when your mum would make you feel like shit you'd go have a smoke...so of course those are the buttons our addiction will push in its dying efforts to get you to throw away your quit. You should be proud of yourself for staying true, this is a hard stage, I've been there and it passes. So, on to the family dynamic, especially your mum, here is a thought that helps me cope at times, how sad and miserable must their lives be that they need to get their own happiness by causing someone else's sadness. That is truely sad. People who need to make others feel worthless to make themselves feel superior deserve our pity. You are very much wanted, you are very much worthwhile, and warts and all (even though you keep saying you have them I amyet to see evidence of) we know you are more than just a person with some good. There is a shit load of good in you. We all have things in our pasts we regret, but it's in the past, you can't change it, you can't undo it....all you can go is move forward and try not to repeat it.

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