Kris

I am about 9 months out and I still have those feelings. Had a really bad day this weekend, lucky for me the car decided not to start. Have to get it towed in for service. I could have taken that a couple of ways, God is helping me out and making sure I save the money for car repairs. Double Win LOL. I can only tell you it will pass, you will have those days. The one thing I remind my self is that I did not think I would get past the first day. I did, as long as I remember I have come so far and I will never have to start over.

I am sure you will do fine, just take your time. Just remember the old saying "measure twice, cut once". Be prepared to have sore arms after grouting and clean up.

I am guessing you are using loose tiles, not the ones that come in sheets with the mesh backer? I would google and see if you can find a way to make it work. You might be able find a pattern that might work. If not, I would take back the tile and choose something else.

I adore you! You make me laugh every time.

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I know you already do it but spoil Sugar Britches. It is really uncomfortable right now. Get or make her favorite food and snacks. Rub her feet, shoulders and back. Make a list of things you may have forgotten to be ready for Jackson. Make sure you are stocked with toilet paper, tissues, paper towels, trash bags, cleaning supplies. Make sure the pantry, fridge and freezer are full. You have done this before, you a have a good idea of what is needed. Thing is this time, you have Maddie, newborn Jackson and Mom to look after. The more prepared you are, the smoother things will go when Jackson arrives. Last thing is to get some special things for Maddie. Just little things you can bring out to her, she needs to feel special as well, while adjusting to being a big sister.

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Some where there is a post by me, pretty much the same thing. I have worn the couch out, I have been searching on line but have not found it yet. I have watched everything on Netflix. I have also done a lot of home maintenance type things. I have spent a lot of time here just reading, what others have been through, things they have done to keep their quit. Most recently I have enjoyed spending the money I have saved from the quit. I am old, so clothes and things no longer excite me. I will be out shopping for new comfy shoes for the spring and summer. I have ordered and received a new steam mop (for the tile floors), a handy carpet cleaner, (one of my dogs has decided he should pee in my bedroom to keep his 80# pound brother out of my room). New cookie sheets, as I love to bake. A new toaster, the old one had started to burn things. Some days I am a good girl, I cook healthy well balance meals. When I crave junk I go with that too. We are doing a big thing here. We have to accept that our emotions are running wild. Accept it for what it is, embrace the change, the bad parts will recede to the back as we grow stronger. We are addicted to a drug and should expect we will have to be strong for a long time. The truth is we can do it, we can win, we can be healthy and happy, if we just keep going and are patient while we get past the hard parts.

I have 3 dogs. I do not have to worry about crumbs on my shirt and they are happy to make sure my fingers are clean. Life is grand with the pups, they clean up the floor in the kitchen as well. LOL

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I know it is hard, you are exhausted, that is how it is for a while. The longer you keep going the easier it will get. The struggle will be on going but you will get better at handling it. I will not sugar coat it, I know it is hard as I do it every day, but I have found that if I accept it for what it is I do not struggle as much. You have got this, just keep going.

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@catloverMay I please have your home address, I think I should be there to help you hold and kiss those boys. I am available when there are babies involved. For anyone else out there I am also available when there are puppies involved.

@notsmokinjoHappiness is not having to put one on in the first place!

Good Lord, will you people just leave it alone. I eat when I want to eat. I eat what I want to eat. Sometimes I eat healthy well balanced meals, sometimes I eat trash junk foods. The thing is most of us are that way, we will eat well, healthy food when we have the energy and desire to do so. Sometimes we are so tired we just stuff in anything available. There is no need to stress about it unless it is causing a health problem. In the long run it is better to have some nacho cheese doritos than to light up a smoke. All things in moderation are okay except smoking. Please pardon me, I most go take a shot of tequila. LOL Enjoy life, that is why we quit smokingl 1

I think Hank the Tank lives at my house. If it is not him, I have a dog named bear that looks the same. Have you been to Lake Tahoe @Boo one of the most beautiful places. Went in the winter so the Hub could ski, I spent most of that time on the snow on my ass. Our goal was to retire there, alas we did not make it, he passed. It still holds a special place in my heart.. New goal is to have our son spread out ashes there. I think we can get that done.

Being able to breath without coughing up a lung. Being able to sleep without coughing. Being able to make a phone call without coughing. Being able to take a walk without coughing. Ddoes anyone see a pattern, I am not coughing, hear that, of course you did, I am not coughing.

Sorry, I have been away a week or so. I am happy you have joined us! The first thing I will say, is that I am sorry that you were ill and that your pregnancy was a loss. That is just a heartbreak. That does not mean it will not happen and when it does, now that you have quit, it will be so much more joyful. You will not be faced with the smoking issue, you can relax and enjoy the great gift you have been given. We are often given the signs that now is the time to quit. You have received that and accepted it with an open heart, I feel confident you will reach your goal. This time next year, I hope we will be celebrating your year smoke free and the birth of your child. We want the best for you and your future family. It is in your hands now, create what you dream, you can do it all!

I actually had a surprise drop off this morning. I was needed for Grandma duty! I will speak to my son about it the fact I have not been to their home. My DIL does not want my help. Even when they lived here, she did want my help. She made it clear she could do their laundry, cook their meals. I backed off of everything to make her feel secure in her role as my son's wife. I love and respect her, I am lucky that my son found her. I could not ask for a better DIL. She was and is glad for my help with my grandson. I have great neighbors but the older ones have passed. I have a widow across the street that lost her husband last July. She is a very private person. I do pick up things that I know she likes when I shop. I started doing that when her husband became ill. It was hard for her to get out and about. I hope now that spring is here I can get motivated to do more. I have joined our senior center. Hopefully they will have more events now that Covid is slowing down.

@LindaThey may have done that here too, so sad I do not go out to eat enough to know. I sure do live an exciting life. I don't have a clue anymore. Thanks for letting me know. It would be silly of me to ask for the no smoking section to avoid a wait when there was no such thing. I am trying to take advice, get out there and quit living in a bubble. This may be harder than I thought, I am still going to try even if I do fall flat on my face. It won't be the first time and not the last. LOL

another night of sleeping escapes me, I am headed off to bed. I hope for a good few hours of sleep. If that happens, I am going to take myself out for some good tex-mex or seafood. We all need a treat every now and then. It is so fun now when they ask smoking or nonsmoking. I don't mind waiting, not a problem anymore.

Should I do the trolls or the yoopers? LOL

I will agree that after we quit we are forced to deal with a lot of different emotions. Things that we never had to confront are now in the path, they can throw us off course if we let them. So now we have to deal with it. We have to have good, productive discussions with the people in our lives. There is no hiding of our feelings. That means we can't blame our smoking on anyone else. The sooner we do this, accept it is our problem, no one else is responsible. It is very important that we do not let our emotions do not give us leave to hurt others.