MarylandQuitter

Today I love knowing my body is healing. :)

"The Hunter"

Oh Yay!! Let's put Buffy on debit cards! Whoop. :read:

NOPE

Happy birthday, Tracey!!!!

Welcome, Gypsy! Smoking doesn't relieve stress, it causes it. Whether it's a pack a week or a pack a day, it's too much. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qVEyGdqwjmQ I Smoke Because I Like Smoking Video discusses how people who often say the smoke because they like smoking can come to realize that they really smoke because they don't like not smoking https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nCkt_ajgTQE

I love that I don't have to clean up all those little ashes in my car!!!!

Not having smoke in my eyes! :blink:

Really?

I love that I have much more energy!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=56TbE8a3QMA

NOPE!!

Awesome, Tiffany!!!! One month!!!! Can I get a woot-woot? Great job!! :D

NOPE!!

Indeed I do. My story is in my profile. I threw away a 9 month quit because I still believed that smoking calmed me down when I was in crisis mode. As it turned out, it didn't. It was the last lie of smoking that I still believed...until I lit that first cigarette and it did nothing to relieve stress. Anyway, Jess, I made and so can you. I know this and most importantly, YOU know this! As time goes on and you remain smoke-free, a 1 month celebration will mean more to you and feel better than reaching that 9 month mark! This quit will be different and you know it will. Stay active on this train and as always, the coffee is free (don't let Ava charge you for it because she pockets the money for books). :)

http://quittrainblog.com/video/sex-lies-and-cigarettes/

Video produced by Kuch Khaas, a group of young artists in Pakistan. http://www.quittrain.com/topic/4753-videos-addressing-issues-early-in-your-quit/?p=152081

Banning smoking inside of course. Have a designated smoking area outside for those who wish to smoke but also, encourage participation, offer education about smoking have available quit smoking clinics, NRT etc. People have a right to smoke and like the article stated, it's not prison. I think they would have much less resistance this way and they'd actually be able to get more of the patients to quit smoking vs. making them abstain and then as soon as they leave the first thing they'll do is light up. Education is the way. Offer the services and do it the right way, the first time. :)

The kitchen is where it begins and ends. :) Hopefully begins and maintains is more like it. Everything we eat should serve a purpose, even if it's a treat to reward ourselves.

Love this!!

Yes! Smokes are assholes!!! lol Actually, the word asshole used to describe these monsters is too nice of a word to be quite honest about it. I like "emotional terrorist" better and that often times is used in clinical settings to describe what somebody with NPD does to their CHOSEN ones. My gosh, it's just indescribable what some of these people are capable of! No conscience, no empathy, no intimacy and no emotional attachments to anybody. Scary. Terrifying because it's people like this who are capable of the most atrocious crimes and even if most are not criminals, they certainly destroy other human beings from the inside and leave no fingerprints as they slide on over to the new supply which was carefully chosen long before their victims were tossed out with the trash. I'm still here and I'm smoke-free!!! Woot-woot!! :gamer1:

Time lost, energies spent etc. cannot be given back but the hurt can be mended and love found with someone who loves you the way you love, with all of your heart. One thing is for sure, our lives will NEVER be the same again and that is a good thing in the sense that you sure can spot one a mile away and know to go in the other direction. I posted another article by the same author and part of it talks about children who are raised by a parent with NPD. In that case I agree that it would be very, very difficult to help that child because like the parent(s), they too will not realize they have such a serious and disastrous disorder. A child that has been supply that was otherwise raised in a healthy environment I think can be helped. It's a battle, I'm quite sure, but they can overcome it if the parents catch it, like Petra and her family did. Her child will overcome this for several different reasons but the child who was raised by a NPD parent, not likely. I'll go as far to say that an adult with true NPD is incapable of change; at least change to the point that we would ever allow them to be in our lives ever again. People like this simply can't change and there are not enough years in a single life to be able to make these changes. This is not just my opinion but also experts on the matter who have far more experience than I. Sure, I suppose there are those rare individuals who can change, but I don't think one has ever been spotted. The disorder is one like none other that I've studied. It's scary when you realize how you were conned and what all you gave up for this person. A normal, intelligent person can be conned and become supply and then tossed out with the garbage and then you're left wondering what the hell happened. Once you realize what truly was happening (some never do!!!!!!!), it's downright scary that another human being is capable of this kind of behavior. Reminds me of some characters in history that I care not to mention. This is the just sad truth about these adults; change is not going to happen; they're just not capable of making these changes for many reasons. "There is life, light and love" afterwards. Sadly not for everybody because for some, they will never know what happened to them and why. Awareness and education is key. Then there are some who have this awareness and education who are still unable to fully recover. The damage can be that deep!!!! Like previously stated, this isn't some "theory", it's very real, very damaging and should not ever be brushed off. Ria, you're a wise and strong woman who lives in reality. You're a blessing here and I bet you never imagined that when you joined a quit smoking support group that you'd be able to share your valuable insight into such a serious topic. It's life-changing. Here's the link to the other article in the same thread. http://www.quittrain.com/topic/5742-after-narcissistic-abuse-there-is-light-life-love/?p=151396