October 11, 20196 yr @Lilly I'm sure they would have loved to be able to do that. Hopefully one day they'll get it!!
October 11, 20196 yr 7 minutes ago, abbynormal said: Smoking is a selfish habit. No doubt. I think you were well within your rights to be irritated. Conversely, I can remember when I was still in the throes of addiction. I probably could not have waited 90 minutes to smoke. I would have had to go out at least once. Or I would have cut the dinner short in order to get my fix. (The ultimate in selfishness.) So at least your friend didn't do that. It's sometimes easy for us former smokers to forget how constant the cravings really were when we still smoked. Your friend probably waited as long as they possibly could before getting their fix. It's sad, but it's the reality of an addict. I hope you enjoyed the dinner in spite of the interruptions! Thanks Abby. You're right - I have forgotten how hard it can be and it's not really their fault. Dinner was great and the company was even better. They did ask me a lot about my quit and kept saying how proud they were x
October 11, 20196 yr 3 minutes ago, Lilly said: They did ask me a lot about my quit and kept saying how proud they were x Hopefully you helped plant a seed in their mind that will one day grow into a fabulous quit!
October 11, 20196 yr 1 hour ago, abbynormal said: It's sometimes easy for us former smokers to forget how constant the cravings really were when we still smoked. Your friend probably waited as long as they possibly could before getting their fix. It's sad, but it's the reality of an addict. Yep. Not only did I consistently leave in the middle of conversations when I was a smoker, I was often thinking about getting my next fix while I was in the middle of a conversation. Evaluating the situation, only half listening to what was being said, waiting for the perfect opportunity to skip out and get my fix. When I was smoking, the cigarette called the shots. I was just along for the ride. Good riddance.
October 11, 20196 yr 6 hours ago, catlover said: Playing with my new fur babies Kizzy and Bertie. They are a bundle of fun climbing all over me. I feel like a pincushion, there tiny claws have punctured me lol.. Awwwww. Love your new babies. Your life wouldn't be complete without a cat!
October 12, 20196 yr 8 hours ago, abbynormal said: Smoking is a selfish habit. No doubt. I think you were well within your rights to be irritated. Conversely, I can remember when I was still in the throes of addiction. I probably could not have waited 90 minutes to smoke. I would have had to go out at least once. Or I would have cut the dinner short in order to get my fix. (The ultimate in selfishness.) So at least your friend didn't do that. It's sometimes easy for us former smokers to forget how constant the cravings really were when we still smoked. Your friend probably waited as long as they possibly could before getting their fix. It's sad, but it's the reality of an addict. I hope you enjoyed the dinner in spite of the interruptions! ^+1 Well said Abby! Edited October 12, 20196 yr by Vivianne
October 12, 20196 yr I agree Abby.... How soon we forget.... We are addicts ....we needed our fix ...on a regular basis ...no matter where we are ,or what we are doing .. I remember hanging out a Turkish hospital window to calm the beast ... It goes with the addiction ... Feel sorry for him Lilly...he's,still in the throws of his addiction....
October 12, 20196 yr Watching tobacco wars series... I notice how emotional it makes me.. the manipulation, the lies... it's just all so sad! 2 hours ago, Doreensfree said: I remember hanging out a Turkish hospital window to calm the beast ... It goes with the addiction ... Feel sorry for him Lilly...he's,still in the throws of his addiction.... I am gonna actively chance my inner dialog from jealousy (which is the addiction talking) to empathy/feeling sorry for the addict. And with that have more patience with my quit. It's gonna take time and it's gonna take a lot of hard work (self-reflection fi.). If I feel to safe, I am probably not...
October 12, 20196 yr AH ! Temps are under 90, 32c for the first time since May. it is only 67f, 19c this morning ! and only climbing to 75f, 23c today. What BLISS ! Windows open and work to be done in the courtyard
October 12, 20196 yr 2 minutes ago, Vivianne said: Watching tobacco wars series... I notice how emotional it makes me.. the manipulation, the lies... it's just all so sad! I am gonna actively chance my inner dialog from jealousy (which is the addiction talking) to empathy/feeling sorry for the addict. And with that have more patience with my quit. It's gonna take time and it's gonna take a lot of hard work (self-reflection fi.). If I feel to safe, I am probably not... You got it, Ms V. Compassion will replace envy before long. I remember well the addiction yanking my chain every 20 or less minutes and I obeyed immediately, groveling then grateful for the hit.
October 12, 20196 yr Author Sitting in the coffee lounge at the Marriott having a flat white and a chat to the Premier while I wait for my taxi home after watching Come From Away. Edited October 12, 20196 yr by notsmokinjo
October 12, 20196 yr Author 18 hours ago, reciprocity said: Is this @notsmokinjo talk? Nope...my knitting days are doneski....I'm stuck with crochet now...lots of chains n trebles...got love a long chain.
October 12, 20196 yr Thinking about dinner... everything tastes so good at the moment that I am having a hard time picking what to eat lol
October 12, 20196 yr Author 4 hours ago, Vivianne said: Thinking about dinner... everything tastes so good at the moment that I am having a hard time picking what to eat lol Vegemite toast? (I had pork belly on a fennel, daikon and radish slaw)
October 12, 20196 yr On the road in the RV again. On my way to @Boosville. Hoping he will come to our rescue when we get stuck going in circles in Nashville. My husband thinks the lady in the box (gps) will get us through. I think the lady in the box always sends us the longest most complicated route.
October 12, 20196 yr 1 minute ago, abbynormal said: Packing for a camping trip. A lot of friggin' work for one night! You need an RV. All you have to do is pack food and clothes. Have a great time. You will think it is worth it when you are sitting around the fire.
October 12, 20196 yr 1 minute ago, Linda Thomas said: You need an RV. All you have to do is pack food and clothes. Have a great time. You will think it is worth it when you are sitting around the fire. We just got a trailer. It's our first time out, so loading up the RV is part of the process. Next time it'll be much easier!
October 12, 20196 yr 3 minutes ago, abbynormal said: We just got a trailer. It's our first time out, so loading up the RV is part of the process. Next time it'll be much easier! You will love your new trailer. I especially love the potty! Once you have it stocked, it is so easy to go. Have a great time.
October 12, 20196 yr Thank you, @Linda Thomas!!! I intend to do much relaxing once all this work is done.
October 12, 20196 yr 41 minutes ago, abbynormal said: Packing for a camping trip. A lot of friggin' work for one night! 54 minutes ago, Linda Thomas said: On the road in the RV again. On my way to @Boosville. Hoping he will come to our rescue when we get stuck going in circles in Nashville. My husband thinks the lady in the box (gps) will get us through. I think the lady in the box always sends us the longest most complicated route. Have fun!! Don't get lost, and if you do, enjoy the heck out of it!
October 12, 20196 yr 2 hours ago, Linda Thomas said: On the road in the RV again. On my way to @Boosville. Hoping he will come to our rescue when we get stuck going in circles in Nashville. Now's probably not a good time to bring up that road trip to Nashville I took with some friends back in the day. We were supposed to get on 24 East but ended up on 65 South. When you're traveling home from Nashville to Chattanooga, the last thing you want to hear the driver say is: How the **** did we end up in Alabama?
October 13, 20196 yr Well we are on 65 South right now. It is nice to know we weren't the only ones lost in Nashville.
October 13, 20196 yr Just got done watching the Banana Splits movie, pretty good and definitely gorey. Perfect for Halloween month.
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