November 21, 201510 yr Hi everyone. My mum died on Tuesday from lung cancer (although it spread pretty much everywhere). I've been an on/off smoker for 16 years but it's got really bad in the last 7 months whilst my mum was fighting this illness. She would have been horrified to know that I'm a smoker. I absolutely have to quit, not just for me, but for her. But I'm grieving and I know it's going to be hard. I'm going to do it though! Tomorrow is the day
November 21, 201510 yr Welcome Cookie36! I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Many of us here have lost our parent to cancer. Read read read and watch the videos. The stickies have a wealth of good information and shared experiences. More information will give you more tools to use to overcome this addiction. Please keep in mind that the thought of quitting holds way too much power, more than is warranted. Just stay close to the Quit Train, post your questions, concerns, we have an SOS thread if it gets really bad....just know you have a team of folks willing to support you through the BEST decision you will have made for your health. Remember....Smoking is NOT an option. NOPE - Not One Puff EVER.
November 21, 201510 yr Hi and welcome cookie.. My sincere condolences on the sad loss of your mum..... You CAN do this....you just need the desire bad enough... I smoked 5 decades and I did it.... Read all you can about this addiction...it will be your biggest tool.... Try reading Allen Carr ..the easy way...this book has helped millions...I think you can down load it for free... We have a slogan...smoking is not on the table ...ever....this helped me so much ... Stay close to the board... Do a daily pledge..... You can do it....if I did....you can....
November 21, 201510 yr Welcome to the board, Cookie. I am so very, very, sorry for your loss. You can give yourself a wonderful gift and honor your Mom with your quit...dedicate the quit to her. There is a lot of wonderful information, here, and even more wonderful people. Congratulations on your decision to quit!!
November 21, 201510 yr Hi Cookie, I'm sorry for you recent loss. I am sure that your mum will be proud of you for quitting. You can do this!
November 21, 201510 yr So quit, then, right? And no - it ain't hard unless you make it hard. Easy Peasy
November 21, 201510 yr So sorry for your loss. You have made such a great decision. We are all here as proof it can be done. For some it was easy for some hard.stay close to the board. Talk about anything you want. We are here for you. If you have an urge to smoke, come here first. Post on the sos thread. Don't smoke before coming here. Ok? Welcome!!!! You're going to love your freedom - especially not having to hide from your kids to go smoke. I totally get that, I was a closet smoker too.
November 22, 201510 yr This is the best place there is Cookie,,,, you will love yourself for quitting,, an you can,, no question about that- our mind is a very powerful thing,,, I lost my Mom as well,,, I feel your pain,,,, come here all the time,, these people are honest, earnest and helpful,,,, peace to you friend,, RC
November 22, 201510 yr Your kids know you smoke. Your mom did too. Smokers think they got everyone fooled, when really the stink gives them away and everyone just doesn't say anything about it. SO.... I love cookies. I could be the cookie monster.... Just quit now and be one of us that minute. NOPE and "A puff away from a pack a day." were my two sayings. Said NOPE about 15,000 times the first week. Just muttered it the entire time I was awake. ANd I made it.
November 22, 201510 yr Hey Cookie. I'm a newbie. I quit 4 weeks (and 2 days) ago. Best thing I ever ever did. I was like you. So afraid I couldn't do it. So convinced I couldn't do it. I admit to using an app which totally changed my outlook on smoking but having come here I realise the app does the same as Allan CARR's book and the same as these forums. However you do it, just grasp that smoking is not your friend. Read, read, read as others have said and post post post. There's so much I want to share with you that I have learned already but I won't overload too quickly. I'm so sorry you've lost your mum and for all you've been through. Make yourself proud. X
November 22, 201510 yr Hi Cookie, You have to quit but more important is that you WANT to quit! Wanting to quit will give you that extra strength you will need. It won't be easy but reading and posting here and with us behind you, you will quit. Congratulations on your new way of life!
November 22, 201510 yr Today's, the day your a beautiful non smoker....congratulations... Stay close and post,post,post....
November 22, 201510 yr hey cookie i lost both parents from lungcancer :( they both smoked. Welcome and take off asap.
November 22, 201510 yr Author Thanks so much for the support!! So far so good...4pm here and no cigarettes all day...although huge pangs of jealousy when driving past pubs and seeing people smoking outside...although what am I jealous of really?! Them being freezing and miserable like I used to be?! :)
November 22, 201510 yr Hey Cookie Sorry for your loss. Welcome. You can absolutely quit. Keep reading, keep posting.
November 22, 201510 yr Well done cookie...your so right...they are not to be envied....feel sorry for the poor smokers... Don't forget ...your little treats...reward yourself...so important.... It doesn't matter how small....as long as if is a reward... I'm proud of you....
November 22, 201510 yr Thanks so much for the support!! So far so good...4pm here and no cigarettes all day...although huge pangs of jealousy when driving past pubs and seeing people smoking outside...although what am I jealous of really?! Them being freezing and miserable like I used to be?! :) Trust that one day soon, you will have zero jealously, an honest relief and you'll feel genuine pride that you're not one of them.
November 23, 201510 yr Hi cookie welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss lean on us post loads, education and support are key, how are you today?
November 23, 201510 yr Hi cookie, very sorry for your loss but good for you making the best decision you'll ever make. I think you're heading into day 3 now, and it can be a beast sometimes - make sure to have fruit juices and snacks around as your blood sugar can get a bit wonky and make you crave, and be gentle with yourself. Read and post as much as you can, it really helps. Welcome to the board.
November 24, 201510 yr A couple of my crave fighters were shelled peanuts and chips and hot salsa. Kept my hand and my mouth busy and while not particularly healthy - there are worse things one could eat. :)
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