El B, that is one of the saddest things I've ever read. :(
Losing a parent (or anyone you love really) is the most devastating thing a person can go through.
I was so sad, but so angry at my mom because I knew smoking sped up her death substantially. She never took care of herself and refused to go to the doctor's, They did an autopsy on her because she wasn't that old and they found that her arteries were full of plaque. She knew she had an artery disease (they had to amputate her toe because of bad circulation back in 2007) and the doctors warned her to stop smoking, yet she kept on doing it because, you know, smoking is so great. They told her she would probably only make it another 5 years if she continued smoking. She was dead in 7. My brother was 18 when she died; he was (is) a baby. He hadn't even finished high school yet.
Regardless of what you keep telling yourself, smoking leads to death. It leads to devastation and grief and suffering. I don't want my future children to go through what I went through. My mom was my rock and my biggest supporter. Getting out of bed some days is a chore now.
You can do this Tiff. I have faith in you. It's so obvious that you want to quit. Otherwise, you wouldn't keep coming back here. What does smoking have to offer you? Whatever the answer is, it's a lie.
Think about how your kids (and grandkids if you have any) would feel if you got a smoking-related disease. I watched my mom go through agony and pain for years before she died. She was always suffering and always sick. Hearing her cry at night and not being able to fix what hurt was so heartbreaking.
I'm not trying to take over this thread, but your actions don't just impact you -- they impact those who love you dearly. If something happens to you, they suffer.