September 20, 201610 yr I don't know if I can do this......... I'm not going to smoke. But my anxiety is off the roof today. I really need words of encouragement. please. I hate asking but I have to get through this........ People telling me "I don't know how your doing this. I tried and I couldn't do it". THIS is what is going through my mind. Maybe I'm one of those people.
September 20, 201610 yr Tiff. You can absolutely do this. People that I have not seen in years say to me "Wait. Where are your cigarettes? YOU quit? YOU? I thought you would never quit." 3 packs a day, thirty years - people found it tough to imagine me without a cigarette. I don't miss it one little bit. You can do this Tiff. Don't be anxious, be happy. You have got this.
September 20, 201610 yr No such thing as 'those people' Tiff - we all have the ability to quit smoking and stay quit; there is nothing stopping you from doing it too! You can do it! :good:
September 20, 201610 yr People telling me "I don't know how your doing this. I tried and I couldn't do it". THIS is what is going through my mind. Maybe I'm one of those people. Those people are obedient addicts. You have quit smoking. End of discussion, I'd say. Go have some FUN. Animals don't smoke either.
September 20, 201610 yr Author I'm just going to barrel through today, head first, eyes shut. I'm going to do this.
September 20, 201610 yr Who are these wise peeps.. Your talking to the wrong people..we say you can..because we have done it... 52 years here TIFF..and I'm telling you..you can..if I did..you can.. You have to believe...when you believe you can...you will..
September 20, 201610 yr Hell, if I can do it with overwhelming crappy memories, anxiety attacks, flashbacks, dissociating and not lighting one, or anything else destructive... then SO CAN YOU!!!! Get you act together, lighting one is never an option; it's an excuse.!!! Believing you're not one of those people who can do it... is ONE BIG LIE and an EXCUSE!
September 20, 201610 yr You didn't read my stop lying to yourself blog did you: I'll post th link with some adjustments
September 20, 201610 yr http://www.quittrain.com/blog/8/entry-751-you-are-in-control-chose-either-nope-without-the-lies-or-lie-and-die/
September 20, 201610 yr You can do this. The nicotine is already out of your system and your body is starting to heal.
September 20, 201610 yr Of course you can do it. The discomfort..hell yes, crap! However if you just push through, which you are more than capable of, you'll only ever have to do it once. Plus you only have this damm discomfort because you started smoking in the first place..head down, crack on.
September 20, 201610 yr Don't listen to the smokers Even though they are lovely people...they are addicts and can't bear to believe that you have the "willpower" and they don't. This isn't about will power. It's about being smarter than your addiction. Even though they love you...they want you to fail so they say stuff to make you doubt yourself because lets face it....addicts love others to stay addicted with them Stay in your lane.....you got this TIFFANY!!
September 20, 201610 yr Can you do this? Absolutely. And, don't listen to those people. Most every quitter has to deal with a bit of the crab mentality from those they know that continue to smoke. Crabs in a barrel will expend more energy pulling escaping crabs back into the barrel than they will in attempting to free themselves. Any doubts or disbelief others heap on you is not about you, it's about them. Prove them wrong and set the example.
September 20, 201610 yr Maybe I'm one of those people. Those people are idiots. They could do it if they wanted to. They just wanted to smoke instead. Don't be like them. Easy Peasy
September 21, 201610 yr Author I am still quit. It's been a weird, anxiety filled, non smoking day. There would be times that I would be like "I"M DOING THIS. YIPPEE !! I FEEL SO GOOD" to "OMG, I want a cigarette so freaking bad" and these thoughts/ emotions would flip in a matter of seconds....... contradicting each other. And then I would get busy doing something until the next thought of "look at me, I rock !" and then "what the hell am I doing ?" would come again. I have also realized I use cigarettes as time management. I have 15 minutes to spare........ I can smoke a cigarette and that'll make the time go by faster. So I just listened to the radio instead. I'm trying not to focus too much on this quit. Just keep enjoying life as it comes....... Onto day 3 !!! Thank you everyone for your support. I did read them. Repeatedly...... throughout the day. And it does help.
September 21, 201610 yr Tiff, what you are describing is exactly how it was for me. For most of us. Just when I would feel "I got this!!" ..I would immediately get restless. But as long as you know it's normal...you just accept the roller coaster as is and eventually it does get less and less flip floppish. I promise. Great job on day 2!! Woo hoo!!
September 21, 201610 yr All that bullshit goes away if you just hold out long enough. Gone away. Never to come back again. Just keep markin' time ... Easy Peasy
September 21, 201610 yr Tiff.. it's crap in that one minute you think got this...the next you think, crap I haven't. You have if you just accept that those feeling do not last forever...of course, very intense when experiencing them, but they do go. If I had just trusted that they do go, I didn't, I honestly could have cracked it on my first attempt..instead of what felt like the million. Time management...did exactly the same, again that feeling goes too..in time. You can get through any discomfort...as crap as it feels, if you do then you will look back and think thank goodness I did! I do now, repeatedly...so can you.
September 21, 201610 yr Rewards are important. They re-establish pleasure pathways that were gangstered by nicotine. It's a special time that you get full permission to spoil yourself ! Spend some time daydreaming about wondrous places...beautiful things....special people. Get yourself on the good foot.
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