Bassman

Thanks much Doreen, great to hear from you too. While yes it is sad family news, I hope it can help someone else to not get to this point…..Bassman

You got it Kris…..each have our own reason or reasons. Many give their own reason for not quitting is they don’t care about their own health but no one starts out smoking for the sole reason to destroy their health, it’s a common misconception for a reason to continue smoking……it’s due to the addiction.

Thanks jillar, my daughter is aware of the help available but says she needs to do this on her own. I will support her on that though this support community would be a good asset for her. I hope she’ll change her mind if needed…..Bassman

The end of last October my son in law’s dad had a seizure while my daughter and her husband Derek were visiting him and Derek’s mom. They called an ambulance and after several hours, Derek’s dad was diagnosed with stage 4 bone cancer. After a few days of test, it was determined he had quite a few bones with cracks and the doctor could not understand why he hadn’t complained let alone been able to walk around and go to work. Derek’s dad’s response was that he didn’t want to take any attention away from his mother who’s life was deteriorating. Derek’s dad was a compulsive chain smoker. I know every time I saw him he spent more time outside smoking than indoor not smoking. They set up the time frame to start his chemotherapy and radiation. It was during this time Derek’s grandmother was placed in hospice. It was no big surprise because she had been deteriorating for some time. Two days after his grandmother was in hospice, Derek’s dad’s had the seizure and was rushed to the hospital with his wife, Derek and my daughter following the ambulance. By the end of the day, the doctor said there was no hope for him and he was place in hospice two rooms down from his mother. Two days later Derek’s grand mother passed away. The next day my daughter called and said if I wanted to see Derek’s dad before he passes, I had better come now so my wife and I went to the hospice for a last visit. He was sleeping. Derek’s mother, his sister and older brother were there. We visited for an hour and left, three hours later Derek’s dad passed away, only two days after his grandmother. It was a terrible time for their family. The next day Derek’s 42 year old brother went to the hospital for stomach pains and by the next day he was diagnosed with stage 4 rectal cancer and they also found it in his liver, he too was a smoker. Needless to say it put the family in triple shock. Loosing a grandmother, Dad/ husband within two days and now a son/brother with cancer in his body. Just now my daughter texted me reminding me it was 10 years ago today I started my chemotherapy from my cancer, and Derek’s brother started his chemotherapy today………..which is his birthday. The day Derek’s dad passed away, my daughter quit her smoking, she had been smoking for 17 years, and her husband Derek quit his tobacco chewing. They have both been nicotine free about two months now. It hasn’t been easy for my daughter but she knows she can’t smoke again. To help with her quit smoking emotions, I got her a tee shirt for Christmas that says, “I’m only talking to my dog today”…She loved it. Last year my dad passed away at 88 years old, he too was a smoker too but quit when he was 40. My mother passed away at age 47 from cancer while she was a smoker….. Next week I will be 8 years smoke free after 37 years of smoking. It has been a blessing since I quit, though I didn’t quit till two years after my cancer operation. I have made a difference in my future as well as my wife’s and daughters future by quitting….. My daughter’s two girls are so happy their mom and Derek quit smoking/chewing, we can make a difference and change our own future as well as others…… Let 2022 be the year that made a difference in your and others lives………Bassman

Thanks much.....very much. I browse through here time to time and yes, celebrating my smoke freedom is important to me. Not a single puff in 5 years. I do miss writing the songs as they are just as important to me. Tks much Johnny5 for remembering. I miss many of you.... I have saved over $13,000 USD by quitting, and greatly improved my health. I will hit the big 65 this summer so another smoke free celebrating coming up. You all take care and keep NOPE in your life....Bassman :)

Hi DD....Huge congratulations for your year smoke free......I wanted to say thanks for your support in helping with my quit, it was important to me and meant a lot.......... It indeed was a strange year with so much going on and you survived smoke free.....I am very happy for you. Enjoy a smoke free 2015........Bassman xxoo

We are there with you ((((((((Bonnie)))))))) holding your hand, hugging, and consulting you........We will not leave your side...We cannot feel as much as you do about it, but we do feel for you and your daughter.....Prayers and waiting for further updates......Bassman

Some people cannot go through something without having to put something on it or tag something to it. That makes it justified for what is going on. When I started smoking there was no one week, 2 week, monthly celebration for the start, no woopie I have been smoking for 6 months......But during many yearly anniversaries from the start of my smoking, I wished I had never started....But there is no name for that situation, just a wish that I had the power to fulfill but didn't for 35 years. When I finally did the needful and quit, I was filled with excitement and extreme joy that I finally quit. I fulfilled something I wished for for 35 years....now that is something to be proud of.....In fact so proud and happy, I let that emotion over cloud the craves, urges, or trigger, then and now. I wanted and needed to stop so I did and with that being my goal, I never saw a need to question any part of my quit. Yes the urges, temptations, craves, addiction, taste in the mouth, subconscious smoking habits, all were and sometimes still here. I have to live with it because I myself alone brought the addiction to me..... But I don't have to accept it, I only need to protect and stay vigilant to my quit.....I just have to make sure I don't get a cigarette and smoke it......ane the more I do that, the more stronger my quit becomes. Point here is to continue to accept your quit from your decision to stop smoking. Just don't smoke, ............ because you no longer smoke for your own reasons. Don't worry about how you are going through it because you will come out the winner....you will come surfing out of that perfect 15 foot wave hole free and clear with joy in your soul. You are accomplishing what you set out to do and that accomplishment is filled with health, money, and self confidence, not to mention what it means to family, friends and loved ones. Enjoy your quit, embrace it, let your quit be your shield ..............Bassman

Hi Tracy....Tks for responding but I was very concerned for you from your post here......I know they are taking good care of you here....We all go through life changes and smoking changes for us is an added part of it. I am glad you are doing better, and I have decided to do my final retirement from working to help get me through my time....My retired military will be enough and keep me going till I'm 66.....But I have to retire from my current company 18 years was way to long with them........anyway, tks for responding and I decided to go ahead and post here.....take care.............Bassman

...I do everything, write and record the songs, play all the instruments, and do all the singing......

so let me know baffled, does the new song have any Pink Floyd in it??????????

interesting. Never heard of him so I checked him out on youtube.......

New no smoking Song, HonorAmoungstThieves wrote the words, I did the music and singing. Song name: At The End Of The Day I hope you all like this one, HAT did excellent job on words, very grateful to you........ Song is also posted in the pinned section of the movie book, and music section http://youtu.be/lf4npDRJg18

Nope, I'm just goint to bed with NOPE for the day.........

Machine messes up and squirts it in your face...edited...squirts me in the face... insert sandles

Want to go to Hawaii but in 2 weeks I'll be going to Louisiana for 10 days......Yea...just need to get away for a while..... where do you want to go?

Very good, and educational Markus....tks

Coming To Terms The First Full Year As A Nonsmoker Note: FANS = First year As Non Smoker If no one else has seen reference to FANS before, then I just made it up and will adopt it as a new nosmoking acronym. ----------------------- We've Heard about going through the first full year of nonsmoking and greeting triggers on certain events through out that first year. While we were smokers these events triggered our smoking. We associate the first year because it includes all four seasons, holidays, and events for the first time as a NOPE smoke quitter. The most common trigger of course is the addiction, "time for another smoke" simply to feed the addiction. It didn't matter when you satisfied that one because many times it was not uncommon to chain smoke right to another one with a simple deduction of "because I can", or I might as well smoke two now because I can't get away for another one for at least an hour. During the winter and because of the cold, we stayed inside most the time. Now spring is here where a lot of us enjoy the outdoors, fishing, boating, gardening, yard work, swimming, hiking and so on, time for smokes. Now we are outside in the wide open warmer air and when we were smokers, there was no reason to not smoke outdoors. The triggers are now there; starting the grill, time to smoke, starting the lawn mower, time to smoke, opening a beer, time to smoke, cast the line out into the lake, time for a smoke. There are millions and millions of self made and addiction triggers that are used every second of the day. Summer is now here - summer vacation, time to smoke, kids home all day, time to smoke, jump in the pool, time to smoke, get out of the pool, time to smoke, friends and family out back, time to smoke, dog pooped on your freshly cleaned patio, time to smoke. Fall is creeping in - go for long walks, time to smoke, go to the mountains, time to smoke, enjoy the pumpkin patches, time to smoke. Winter is now here with the holidays, time to smoke, and another year done, time to smoke. Some of the others celebrations not mentioned during the year like all the major and minor holidays and some you never heard of. My oh my, don't forget John and Mary's birthdays, cousins, brothers, sisters birthdays, mom and dad, aunt uncle, husband, wife, time to smoke.....you get the idea. Then there are the anniversaries to celebrate, all call for a smoke. Lets add all the accomplishments of John and Mary, cousins, brothers and sisters, mom and dad, aunt uncle, husband, wife, time to smoke....you get the idea. Then we have all the bad and tragedy things that happen that we thought gave us reasons to smoke. With all this going on, when was there time for sex???? ?.......But after sex, you know the drill, time for a smoke....... So we go year after year after year using all these reasons and celebrations and millions more just to give a reason to light up again. But being the good educated nonsmoker we are now, we know all those smokes were nothing more that the addiction tricking us and making us believe we needed it when in reality it was the addiction that needed it. So now that the previous year is up, time to start a new one as a nonsmoker because we finally did the BIG QUIT......., yea, time for The NOPE Shuffle......... All those triggers are still going to be there as a yearly anniversary but this is the first time we go through them as a nonsmoker. And you can bet your sweet bippy that when each of these recurring things come up, while you may not think about it, the addiction will and even be dumb enough to bring it to your attention because it is the first time for a full year each these things are happening that you will not smoke at these events. So now we must be vigilant in our quit, to not dwell on the urge, time to come to terms , completing our first full year as a non smoker. I have only completed one quarter of my first year as a nonsmoker so I have so much more to go through, but you can bet my sweet bippy that I am aware and taking evasive action to not let the first year FANS take me prisioner during any event. Happy NOPEing and keep on truckin..............Bassman

Welcome over DJ, great to see you here. I bet MQ wouldn't even mind if you put your feet on the couch..... Looking forward to your post.........Bassman

Welcome over here soul, great to see you here.........

yes and I'm waiting for more words for all of ours song........

Self explanatory, I play the bass guitar and I bass fish. So it fits just looking at the name either way, but to say it is for the bass guitar. I learned the 6 string guitar first, but they were a dime a dozen and cheaper to find to play in bands. Bass players weren't as plentiful and found it easier to play in bands. No one tells me how to play so if they wanted me to play a certain way, I'd leave and go find another band...... Why did I like playing in bands.............for the girls silly..........................Bassman

You stop by not having a desire to smoke anymore. you stop by having support from others who stopped but asked that same question as your friend. You stop by getting educated not only on the bad effects of smoking, but also the good. Tell him he'll have support facing the addiction. Tell your friend it's not so mucn how to stop as it is when to stop. When is now, how is to want to and not do it again....NOPE..............Bassman

Hi Carly, welcome... Chantix assisted in my quit and helped make it pretty solid for me. Let us know if you need anything......Bassman

Hi Lynn, so good to see you here, enjoy your stay and looking forward to your post.