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I am not going to smoke today. NOPE.

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I am saying NOPE to smoking for today.

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G’day NOPE .....Not One Puff Ever.

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NOPE for today!

...my dear, you don't smoke! so, lighten up...read something funny, BREATHE - AGAIN , AGIAN, AGAIN and again, again, again nothing could be worth going back to a fear based life filled with all manner of nastiness (self-concept~loathing, smelling of ashtray, brazening out what can't be hidden while judging yourself constantly, and knowing people in positions of authority with power to change your life will act based on their perceptions of smoking~You). YOU GET NOTHIING FROM SMOKING THAT YOU DESIRE IN YOUR LIFE. DO NOT BELIEVE WHATEVER YOUR HEAD IS TELLING YOU. ALL YOU GET FROM SMOKING IS REMORSE, DYING SLOWLY, SELFLOATHING, REGRET, SHAME, DISCOMFORT AND A SENSE OF FAILING ...yourself and everyone you care deeply about. keep breathing... LIFE YOU DESIRE IS happening with FREEDOM.... you have more endurance and walk joyfully and easily with the cats daily.... you have confidence walking into business meetings, trainings - sans smoke scent you are not a slave to addiction YOU ARE FREE you like & enjoy who you are and how you spend your resources (time, attention, intention, money) Thank you, thank you , thank you for BEing and staying FREE. Always all ways, just, darcy* * FYI QT People - darcy is my given name. Kendra is a character in a book ... I admire the book, character and writer, so chose to emulate Kendra here. B) :)

It won't just not taste good, it won't feel good - nothing like the way you remember. You'll have to smoke a whole bunch in succession to reestablish the addiction to the point where you can "enjoy" the relief a cigarette will again provide. But certainly not the first one. You hear about people that have had amputations, and have "phantom" pains and "ghost" itches in parts that are no longer there. I think that's us. Each one of us carries a memory of an itch we can no longer scratch, not without becoming actively addicted again. Which is a lot like cutting off your nose to spite your face, if you see what I mean.

Nic, Come on. Really?!? Quitting this time wasn't painful enough? Seriously, think about how GOOD you feel not being a smoker. No more wheezing, no more shit breath, no being embarrassed all the time about how you smell, about strangers looking at you and judging. Do you really want to go back to worrying about a stroke or heart attack all the time? Did you forget how it sounded when the respiratory therapist was suctioning dad while he was intubated? How the therapist said he could tell dad was a long time smoker even though he's been quit FOR 25 YEARS??? How about when dad couldn't walk fast enough to get to the boat because of his emphysema. His pained, red face and raspy breathing. Why would you throw in the towel when you've made it so far?? Been through the hardest part? Just remember. If you smoke, it will not be just 1. You. Are. A. Freaking. Addict. And if you smoke, you will not enjoy it because you don't smoke. It will not taste good. You will probably cough. It will feel repulsive. You will not enjoy it!!! Please don't smoke. PLEASE DONT SMOKE! Love yourself enough for the first time in your life to respect your body. Think about Sydney crying the last time you relapsed. NOPE!

Thank you and I will! You all are truly wonderful. Reaching my 2 month is my current goal.. then 3 , 4,5....... :-

Jess..Jess..Jess... so you're having a hard day..are you craving and romancing that smoke? Are you thinking just one little puff would calm you make it all better. You know better think hard about this. How many times have you said if you have one Puff you might as well buy a carton? You have some friends that can socially smoke and then be done..you wish you could too but you can't ..Get over it! You can't ever smoke again. You have said this is your last attempt to quit.. if you're unsuccessful you will never attempt again... so don't quit noping. You are a non smoker. You've made it do far girl..be proud. You have your children and two beautiful grand dtrs who love and need you. Remember saying you dont ever want those babies to know you as a smoker! Keep that thought going. Stay close to your QT family and if reading this doesn't work SOS now... you dont have to always be strong and struggle alone.. let others help hold you up when you don't have the strength.. You are stronger than you know....You got this!

Kristin, You got this thing woman! How many times did you think it would never be you who managed to quit? Remember how it felt to believe you were the only one who couldn't do it? Guess what? YOU DID IT! Don't you dare let a hard day or bad mood drag you back into that pit of shame and death. Think about being a little girl watching grandpa die from lung cancer, think about listening to mom cough and gag all night long and take the burnt tobacco from other people's butts to have a rollie in the morning. Think about grandma smoking with emphyzema and now on oxygen, unable to travel to see her great granddaughter. Think about dad and his strength to quit, all though not soon enough to prevent his emphyzema. Think of the pain on his face when he can't walk to the park with the kids because for him life is like breathing through a straw. Think of the pride on your sons face when he says mommy doesn't smoke anymore. Think about 30 years from now playing with your grandchildren. Make Damn sure you can be there with them and play!! If none of that works think about the money you save, the nice clean car, the smell of your shampoo and perfume. Think about clean teeth and improved gum health. Get pissed off at these horrible companies that trick people into giving up not only quantity but quality of life by selling cigarettes. GET REALLY PISSED! Then say no Kristin. Just don't smoke. You don't do that anymore. You won't let them take anymore health and happiness out of your life.

Hey Karen, Remember why you quit? Remember the cold you got this past summer, that showed you you weren't invincible? Remember how you couldn't breathe and how scary that suffocating feeling was? Remember that your worst nightmare is claustrophobia and suffocation? Well, sweetie, that is where you are headed if you go back to smoking. We all will die, but let's not suffocate to death, okay? Just take a deep breath and ...one....day....at....a.....time. Love from, K

Hey Tom - this is your healthier self - remember me and how happy I made you. There is no reason or excuse big enough to throw away your quit. Do you remember how bad your clothes smelled and the time and money you wasted - can you even remember the promise you made to yourself about not letting your children down. Do you recall your first post on this site..... here let me remind you "25 July 2014 - 09:39 PM Hi guys! My name is Tom and I am 39 years old and have been smoking for 25 years. I have 3 amazing children who have been asking my to quit smoking for a while now. They are coming back from vacation next week. I have set my quit date for Sunday morning so that they will never see me smoke again. I am truly humbled by everything I have read on this site and I am finally ready to become a non-smoker. I quit for over 1 year at one point but did so for the wrong reasons. Now my goals are very clear and my desire to be smoke-free is not in question. I hope that it is ok that I am 1 1/2 days away and that I do not offend anyone that I am still a smoker for this moment and yet I am on here sharing my intentions. I just felt like this was the place for that kind of support. I have told my closest friends over the last week that they will no longer have to out up with my bad habit after tomorrow night and they are waiting to see if I can follow through. I know I will and I look forward to sharing ,y 1st hour, week, month and year etc in doing so. Anyway, that is who I am and this is what I have decided to do. I admire all of you and look forward to being where you are soon enough!' There you go - do you ever want to go back and start over - no I didn't think so - be proud of your accomplishments and rely on your QT family to pull your head out of your arse if you find yourself in a bad way.

There is no such thing as one ciggerette, if you smoke yr back in the situation you want to be rid off, sort yrself out no matter how hard it gets remember you want to see yr children get married and have familys, if you continue to smoke this is not likely to happen. When u smoke yr depressed smell like shit and cant breath.do this for yourself and your family stop being selfish.

S, You have been here before. The moment when you think that the fag will make everything go away, remember the cig can only perpetuate the problem or cause it to begin with. Remember how disgusted you felt when you actually light the vial thing in the first place? You deserve better... You owe it to yourself and the people you care about. Remember... It is an addiction, the addiction which made you feel like a slave. WAKE UP! Life is better as a non-smoker.♥

LOL!! Good self-talk, Holski (and, of course, El Bandito, too). Read this thread and especially your post often. Let the lessons sink in! PS-- the first thing I did when I saw your SOS was to check if you had written a Pre-response. That would have helped me know what approach would work for you. Unfortunately, you did not then have a Pre-response. Now you do. Excellent!

Jodi, I know you are struggling and a cigarette sounds good right now but you know you can't have one cigarette. You have no control and one will turn into 1000's. You are like an alcoholic, you can't have just one. If you do go back to smoking,you will be wishing you we're quit again. Remember how you felt before you quit? If not I will remind you. You wished you had the courage to quit and you worried everyday that you'd smoke yourself to death. You worried your kids would have to bury you before they graduated or that you'd never see them get married or have kids. You were also embarrassed that you smoked. You hid it from people that didn't know and you always thought strangers were judging you for it. Imagine how embarrassing it will be to tell everyone you failed and you are smoking again. Plus, don't forget the headaches you always got and blamed on sinuses. Well guess what? You haven't had a signal one since you quit and you don't cough anymore and your teeth are whiter. You ARE quit now and if for some idiotic reason you did go back to smoking then you may never be able to quit again and all your fears you wrote about above WILL come true. DONT MESS THIS UP. You will be back to wish and hoping and wanting you could quit and that you weren't smoking again. P.s. You also like the extra money you have since you don't have to buy cigarettes and all the free time you have since you don't waste it smoking yourself sick. Also, your family has a history of dying young from smoking. Do you want to die before age 60 like your grandma and uncle? Remember, dying young was a huge fear of yours too. If you do then you only have around 20 to 25 years left to live. That really isn't that many more years if you think about it. You know you want to live longer than that and you just may as long as you don't go back to smoking. Key words to remember: lung and throat cancer, copd, oxygen tank. You know how suffocating has always been a fear of yours? Well, you will S L O W L Y suffocate if you get some of the diseases smoking can cause. Another good thing about not smoking is that won't have to go through to whole quit process ever again as long as you don't smoke. You know these feelings/craves/bad days go away even though it feels like they are never ending and you know you will have good days so just buck up and do whatever you need to get through this without smoking because those good days make you feel so good about your decision to quit. This note may seem all over the place but that's because you are writing your thoughts and feelings as they pop in your head.

If you have forgotten about the first week of withdrawal, let me remind you. You didn't sleep more than 3 hours the first 3 days. You cried constantly and felt more depressed than you ever have in your life. The night before your daughter started kindergarten, you didn't sleep at all. You just stayed awake, tired and crying because you were so tired, but the nicotine withdrawal was at its peak and refused to let you sleep. Do you think you could do it again? Because if you can't, you may not see her even graduate high school. What will she do without you? That "one" cigarette will not be just one. It will open the junkie brain back up and by tomorrow you are already back to a pack a day. Your feelings to smoke are temporary. The effects of giving in are permanent. Do whatever you have to do to not smoke!! Chew a bag of gum. Eat 20 bags of sunflower seeds. Whatever you need to!!!! You never want to go back!!!!

Wow! You're really having a tough time with the smoking today, aren't you??!! I'm so sorry, honey, I know it's tough sometimes. Here, come over here so I can give you a big hug... ((( :wub: HUG!! :wub: ))) Hang in there, honey, you're doing great! You're going continue to do great! You trust me on this, don't you? Yes? Good. OK. Now calm down.... Breathe deeply and slowly for a couple of minutes.... Relax your shoulders and rotate your neck.... Just relax....shhhhh.... Now-- let's fix this: 1. You know that you do NOT want to go back to smoking. No how no way. Never. Right?! 2. Remind yourself of why you wanted to quit in the first place-- you really want to be fit and vigorous in your old age. You want to bicycle, hike, dance, explore, walk dogs, feel good, feel energetic! No rocking chair, no wheel chair, no oxygen tank. You don't want to plague your family with second hand smoke (you felt so guilty!). You want to be financially secure in your senior years--it feels good to know that you stopped wasting all that money on cigarettes. 3. DISTRACT YOURSELF!!! For a temporary (1 day) "crave" do what you know works to relieve stress and/or boredom (the two most common causes of your short-term craves)--Get some exercise, listen to a relaxation tape, call a friend, play with the cat, do some artwork, watch a Netflix, plan your next vacation, play with your financial investments, look up a new recipe, order Spring bulbs online, look at Nonsmoking Cats, Dogs and Animals or funny Youtube videos. 4. Give yourself some tough love as in: "Come on, stop indulging this crave. Stop feeling sorry for yourself--you know that this feeling is temporary. So get up off your sorry a** and DO something!" 5. Repeat your mantra to yourself until it sinks in. Remember this?-- Note to self: Even if I do smoke ONE cigarette and that ONE cigarette gives me relief from these AWFUL feelings, how long will that relief last? Forever? No, of course not. All day? No. An hour? Unlikely. I know perfectly well that the relief I feel, such as it is, will only last about 15 minutes before I'm right back to where I am now-- NEEDING just ONE cigarette to deal with these AWFUL feelings. All right-- forget it! Forget the d*** cigarette! 6. N.O.P.E. If you find yourself going through a phase of several days of constant craves and obsessing about smoking, sit down and think carefully about WHY you keep fantasizing about cigarettes. What is wrong in your life? What feelings are you trying to suppress with cigarettes? Anxiety? Weight gain? Boredom? If there is some underlying problem in your life that is triggering frequent thoughts about smoking, fix the underlying problem! Don't hide from it. Don't deny its existence. Don't be too lazy to address it. FIX IT!! Now get a grip, girl! You don't want to smoke. You are not going to smoke! Do something else with your life! Got it? Good!

Seriously you wanna go back there, back to when you were miserable, Kids heartbroken seing you smoke,james crying his heart out begging you to quit, Erin copying you holding pencils up and pretending to smoke, poor lucas asthma would be worse coz he would insist on wanting to sit beside you outside while smoking. Do you really want that shortness of breath and cough again. Yucky vile yellow teeth that of course had to have severe gum disease. Smoking magnified your fibromyalgia pain by 100. Ye sure look go on have that smoke, your kids will be delighted to sit at the side of your hospital death bed watching you struggling to breath saying thanks mam for choosing cigarettes over us, oh and forget about seing them start or finish college, get married, hmmmmm maybe it was pointless to have kids if you won't plan on being there for them because they will need you soo bad when they experience heart break for the first time. Do you really not want to get to meet your grandkids and be the nana that spoils them rotten. Come Sue cop the fcuk on, you hate smoking, all it does is rob you of life, No sue you choose life...

Sandy-Stop right here. You know damn well you do not want to smoke. So what if you are feeling sappy, we already know smoking doesn't help that shit. It makes it worse! Remember your relapse? How you hated yourself? Remember how awful it was working up the courage to quit again? Remember what the dr said about your health if you continued to smoke? Remember those sad stories of people suffering from copd? Remember how wonderful it felt to be able to breathe deep again? You may not be so lucky next time - that cig you are romancing could be the one to kill you. Suck it up, post an sos, message or call someone. Just do not smoke for ANY reason. Smoking is the biggest lie ever. You get absolutely nothing but the next craving for another. Vicious circle. Don't put yourself through it again.