October 5, 201510 yr God made you responsible for a reason. Do your job and protect the people involved. You must go through and give to your nieces what YOU determine to be appropriate. What is that? Anything that makes your sister look good. What do you delete? Every else. All things might tell truth but it's not theirs to have. They do not need anything bad or hurtful. How to determine? Simple. If it makes you wonder,cry or embarrassed it is gone. THAT IS YOUR JOB. All good things stay even if it's just pieces that don't make sense. Let them build their own puzzle. As for five year man with no ring... Tough shit. You again delete all things without a thought of him. "Sorry beanbead " is all you say. Don't justify it to him. Don't take his input. You decide if the picture or email got back to family and friends because he let it out would it shed one ounce of negative light...then it's deleted and he don't get it. No promises. None. Your job is her reputation. Nobody else has a more important job right now And your not allowed to share or judge anything you read or see. Somethings can be so out of context or just a wild thought. I would hate to have people read my stuff. So you have to just do it as a job, with no emotion or judgement. God will lead you. You will be guided by him and your natural ability and love for family. This is not hard. Just private and important.
October 5, 201510 yr God made you responsible for a reason. Do your job and protect the people involved. You must go through and give to your nieces what YOU determine to be appropriate. What is that? Anything that makes your sister look good. What do you delete? Every else. All things might tell truth but it's not theirs to have. They do not need anything bad or hurtful. How to determine? Simple. If it makes you wonder,cry or embarrassed it is gone. THAT IS YOUR JOB. All good things stay even if it's just pieces that don't make sense. Let them build their own puzzle. As for five year man with no ring... Tough shit. You again delete all things without a thought of him. "Sorry beanbead " is all you say. Don't justify it to him. Don't take his input. You decide if the picture or email got back to family and friends because he let it out would it shed one ounce of negative light...then it's deleted and he don't get it. No promises. None. Your job is her reputation. Nobody else has a more important job right now And your not allowed to share or judge anything you read or see. Somethings can be so out of context or just a wild thought. I would hate to have people read my stuff. So you have to just do it as a job, with no emotion or judgement. God will lead you. You will be guided by him and your natural ability and love for family. This is not hard. Just private and important. Agree 100% with this. Nothing more to add except that I think you are incredibly strong and brave. xx
October 6, 201510 yr I also agree with bakon. My heart goes out to you Tracey. It's not easy, you are made of tough stuff.
October 6, 201510 yr God made you responsible for a reason. Do your job and protect the people involved. You must go through and give to your nieces what YOU determine to be appropriate. What is that? Anything that makes your sister look good. What do you delete? Every else. All things might tell truth but it's not theirs to have. They do not need anything bad or hurtful. How to determine? Simple. If it makes you wonder,cry or embarrassed it is gone. THAT IS YOUR JOB. All good things stay even if it's just pieces that don't make sense. Let them build their own puzzle. As for five year man with no ring... Tough shit. You again delete all things without a thought of him. "Sorry beanbead " is all you say. Don't justify it to him. Don't take his input. You decide if the picture or email got back to family and friends because he let it out would it shed one ounce of negative light...then it's deleted and he don't get it. No promises. None. Your job is her reputation. Nobody else has a more important job right now And your not allowed to share or judge anything you read or see. Somethings can be so out of context or just a wild thought. I would hate to have people read my stuff. So you have to just do it as a job, with no emotion or judgement. God will lead you. You will be guided by him and your natural ability and love for family. This is not hard. Just private and important. Amen
October 6, 201510 yr For me, I would prefer my sisters to vet rather then anyone else, including my partner and defo my children. I too agree you have to check first. I think anything suspect should be deleted and she put you in charge for a reason hun, she could have named her fiance, that said, I feel 5 years is a long time and not everyone wants to marry, he deserves some nice memories. So I don't think you need to delete anything not incriminating tbh. My heart goes out to you that there's still more work to do but we older sisters were born with a very big job and I know you will have the strength to do this. Sending healing and reiki to you my lovely. xx
October 6, 201510 yr And your not allowed to share or judge anything you read or see. Somethings can be so out of context or just a wild thought. I would hate to have people read my stuff. So you have to just do it as a job, with no emotion or judgement. God will lead you. You will be guided by him and your natural ability and love for family. This is not hard. Just private and important. Remaining unbiased will be paramount. It could be so easy to add more value to something that may have meant nothing to your sister, or meant very little. We humans are strange in our thoughts at times as we try to figure out life. Prayers, warm hugs and good juju being sent your way Tracey. **really nice advice Bakon. thank you.
October 6, 201510 yr Author Thank you all for your honest responses, it's good to type out loud sometimes when the fog comes down, I really appreciate it,as you Can imagine it's not something I can discuss with family over tea and cake Bless You all xx
October 6, 201510 yr Author Post regret = deleted. lol no regrets, just a bit sensitive to leave up :)
October 12, 201510 yr I missed this whole thing but based on the pieces I'm putting together. Hugs Tracey. Xo
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