April 17, 20224 yr Hello everyone! I am just over 100 days smoke free. My wife has relapsed I'm afraid. She is being sneaky about it, but I smell it. How does one deal with a smoking partner? Don't worry, I'm not turning back now when my health is looking good. Please, need advice. Thanks, and Happy Easter!
April 17, 20224 yr Hi Sal... First Huge Congratulations on your 100 day smoke free ...this is great ... Sorry to hear Mrs Sal has smoked ,she hiding for either of two reasons or both ...1 Shame 2 She doesn't want to spoil your Quit ... As sad as this is ..we can only quit for ourselves Sal....who knows ...she could soon join you again ,once she see,s how great your doing ...I hope so..... The most important thing is getting you to Freedom ... Stay Strong 💪.🐸
April 17, 20224 yr Author Thanks. I totally agree. I have to do it for me this time, but it would be nice to go it together. The journey has just started for me as a Non-smoker and it feels great.
April 17, 20224 yr Sorry to hear that Mrs Sal has gone back to it. Completely agree with Doreen, and pleased to hear that you are staying on course. My partner still smokes, I would love him to stop with me. But he still believes it dose something for him and that he enjoys it. All you can do is do this for you, show others the way and hope one day they follow. Nearly forgot. Congratulations on hitting 100 days smoke free!!
April 17, 20224 yr Happy Easter @Sal. Congrats on your 100+ day quit. Sorry to hear Mrs. Sal relapsed but you have my respect for staying strong. Passing the 100 day mark does give one a great sense of accomplishment.
April 17, 20224 yr Hi, @Sal. Glad you are feeling good! 100+ days is something to be very proud of, and it's worth protecting. I'm sorry to hear that Anita has started to smoke again. For what it's worth, my advice is to acknowledge that openly and nonjudgmentally. You cannot control your spouse's smoking. (Having been "the smoking spouse" for a long time, myself, I can attest to that!) But you CAN find out what's up with her choice, and you can make sure she knows where you stand about keeping your own quit. Talking about it also prevents the silence around it from getting weird. Stay strong and positive about your own quit along the way. We want to celebrate all those future milestones together with you, Sal!
April 17, 20224 yr Hi Sal Congratulations on the 100+ days quit. That is truly awesome. Hopefully she will soon come around and find in herself her own reasons to quit again.
April 17, 20224 yr Hi Sal, Congratulations on keeping your quit in spite of Anita smoking again. I stop short of calling her relapsed because she only quit to help you quit. As we all know we have to quit for ourselves so she was more refraining than quitting imo. I would mention to her when you smell smoke, especially if it causes you to crave. She may be more careful about it for you. Please reach out to us if you feel yourself caving, we want to keep you quit!😊
April 17, 20224 yr Congratulations Sal. 100 days smoke free is a huge accomplishment. Sorry about your wife's relapse but hopefully your success in quitting will inspire her to quit again.
April 20, 20224 yr Sal you're doing awesome- never feel guilty for your quit or responsible for anyone else's Some struggle more than others and we love & support them just the same 100 smoke free days deserves something special for yourself Edited April 20, 20224 yr by AceWhite
April 22, 20224 yr Author On 4/20/2022 at 6:10 PM, AceWhite said: Sal you're doing awesome- never feel guilty for your quit or responsible for anyone else's Some struggle more than others and we love & support them just the same 100 smoke free days deserves something special for yourself Thanks !! Tell that to my wife. LOL I struggle about 2-3 times a day still but look at the benefits of quitting.
April 22, 20224 yr Stay strong Sal ...this is your quit ... Nurture it with Love ...It's Special....🐸
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