Still winning

Mason, so pleased for you NOPEing and just doing it!! I know it can be tough around smokers but yet another quitter proving it absolutely can be done!! Massive congrats to you!! xx

Really pleased to be reading this. A number of us have a few quits before "the one" and you're right, you learn from each failure and it makes this attempt really powerful!! Junkie thinking, yeah defo, it's a big struggle. The connection that smoking doesn't do anything, even though you may have thought differently in the past is the key thing I've read here from you. Absolutely right and I think that's a big turning point and you should be proud for getting here. Every day (sometimes hour by hour) is a win for you and a better life. Make sure you are treating yourself, especially on milestones. You really are doing great!! But don't be proud, post for support on the main board or to think things through in writing. We love to hear from others and oftentimes these good folks have some helpful hints and tips. xx

No more guilt for spending too much money. No more panic at the thought of running out No more being controlled No more smelling or making my family smell!

Aww Babe, some bits of the quit just plain suck and others feel like you;re surfing a wave. When it feels tough just remember "this too shall pass", I try and think it if I feel really great, to ensure I enjoy the moment and also when things feel plain awful, so I know it will go. Exercise, shhhhh, but it's not as bad as it sounds!! I know right, dead weird but it's ok :) Do you have fitness tv channels? I just recorded some yoga and toning type programs and engage in 20 mins here and there. And upped my walking. Would consider the gym thing but visions of having to take the kids and them pegging it round like nutters rule it out lol. Do be greatful though and mindful of yourself and what you need. This is an amazing gift you are giving yourself and it's alright to take it one step at a time. xx

Petra you made it to 1 year, that's fantastic!!! I am really happy for you, this celebration was fought for at times and you've completely owned it. Hope you have something special planned. Massive congrats. xx

Those are positively the worst dreams! They can be very realistic and it's not a nice feeling. I'm glad you "woke up" in so many ways. The post makes a lot of sense and I'm glad you are free of the connection to smoking helping, that's a big part of understanding so thanks for sharing, it helped me this morning.

I'll stand with you Mr ELB the winner and non smoker! NOPE.

I am real sorry for your family frez. It sounds really hard work and I genuinely feel for you all. xx

Hey this is the closest I ever come to whinging :) I'm an ex pub landlady though, actually am pretty tough lol. Was more a weaver then a wrestler ;) Mind you, bit fatter since the quit haha. I'm thinking of actually just creating my own swearing thread!!

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I hope you find a solution that works for you :) I hope the sea was fabulous! x

Completely fu cking weirded out! A guy who quit on the voldemort site, 2 days before me has spent the weekend just gone smoking. We connected and added on facebook etc. I was still trying to pep talk him when my mum was well ill, I didn't want to let him down. Now I've had to cancel my plans for the weekend with my old smokes and the little ceremony I'd planned and give them away and ask a friend to burn them for me as I keep over thinking! Why the ******* hell this has made me think again I don't know! I was/am fine not smoking. stupid bastard of an addiction! I just get better and then something comes along and knocks me again. But hey I can't be tempted cause de nada here :) I'm happier with that at least and gonna go out for dinner with my man. Our official anniversary yesterday. F U C K you smoking, never ever again!!!

Gabby!! This is fabulous darling, doing so well :) I am genuinely ridiculously excited for you lol. How you feeling now?? xx

15 minute power walk (wondered round shops, collected a child, my own - it's ok) and 25 minute walk home again.

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BOOM!! Good work my lovely. All ya gotta do is not smoke, you can literally do ANYTHING else that you like!! I have faith that you want this, you absolutely CAN keep going, it's always a choice - hint, choose nope (not one puff ever, just for today) and keep running with that. The days stack up and do their thing while you just concentrate on taking smoking off the table for today. xx

Of course there's a possibility we're both nutters and not energy workers ;) I hope not, I quit within 4 days of a full moon, with crystals and intention work - seems to be working, touch wood! Cry-vings - how true! It's got much calmer now I think, only really kicks in when people get on my nerves now so it does get easier. Meditation is wonderful but can take some time to settle to it, and there's no right or wrong. Try and keep at it though as it honestly is so worthwhile. Babs also meditates I have seen :) xx

Standing strong beside you, NOPE!!

Hey Tiff, Associations, yep! It's setting off triggers. Girls above have covered it, get yourself a good plan and pronto!! Totally ok, totally normal, still really sucks doesn't it!! What I want tosay in addition to that is that craves will come and go. For some reason we half expect the power of us not wanting to smoke will make them go away...but that's a timings thing hun. The positive thinking just takes us past them. Get mad, tell em to go f themselves. Also my biggest and quickest way of getting past a crave after a couple of weeks was to remember how many I had smoked a day (for me 30-40). So I'd kinda say, I may want one but I don't want the other 39 and then 40 a day from then on!! Which of course is true! It kinda made me baulk enough that the crave lost it's strength as I really didn't want the health loss and financial loss of that again. Also Doreen used to say smoking is not on the table. I used that and NOPE a lot to move past craves. And hard candies. And junk food lol. You are doing AMAZING!! Have a "atta girl" from me :) xx

Just being fabulous for 9 months and inspiring others en route! Congrats MQ. x

Hi Susana, I read your post and wondered if it would be ok to offer some thoughts. I hope so, we have some similar traits I think and maybe something will resonate with you :) Quit date by 15th via the moon. I'm assuming you refer to the full moon on sat 12th and the strength from that being 3 days, thus taking you up to the 15th? It's a capricorn moon and I see your taurus, so it's in an earth sign like you are and should flow nicely. However the energy lends itself 3-5 days either way, so if you feel ready, you would still be within the energy of this influence :) I get some people think it nonsense, but the same people believe in the power of positive thingking/mind over matter etc and ultimately, it's all the same thing anyway - just using energy to help an existing will you have. Private - yes! Apart from here. These guys know more than my family and t start with that didn't sit right at all. How can they help me, or you if they don't know us though, we have to let people support us when we're down and our own brain is being a bit crazy. Lows - yes! A fellow emotional yo yo right here. Hugs to you, it's so hard when you're fighting yourself. Have you considered meditation? I see you have exercise already and you're right, that's fab for craves but for calming my brain I used cigs - now I sob like a baby lol. Less often though. I think your onto something with understanding the craves. When we smoke, we have craves all day, like every 20 mins or so it starts until we smoke and then it dies down. There are honestly far less craves when you take smoking off the table. Mindset is powerful, as is understand and education of addiction. I don't think we actually quit until we accept we are an addict to nicotine. I know very few people who would willingly accept being an addict and saying "oh yes, see you in 5 because I'm off to fulfill my nicotine addiction". It kinda sticks in the throat - like smoking! Too much rambling haha. Maybe something will help you. Regardless of anything else, you absolutely can do this. Quitting smoking is the single biggest gift you can give to yourself on so many levels. Even when you crave, just hold on, post, cry, suck candies, sleep and wait and you will always be glad to be a non smoker. Welcome! xx

Aww Doreen, 11 months my scouser friend :) Absolutely inspirational work and I'm so pleased you have both feet my lovely. Massive congrats. x

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