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,Those clear plastic bags at the grocery store in the produce area (that refuse to open when you have a couple of apples or potatoes in one hand). I swear they were invented to turn a short shopping trip into an all day affair 🤬

Good Job! Carry on @tocevoD.

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Spot on @Sandi149 😘

Not sure I really had any strategy or rational for quitting. Perhaps my rational was suddenly realizing that I was doing great damage to myself & had been for decades so it was now or never to make a change. That realization happened one morning as I stood in a cold damp parking lot loading groceries into my car and reaching for a cig. Lighting up I coughed and coughed, as I had been doing all month due to having had yet another episode of bronchitis. I suppose it was an epiphany of sorts. I just suddenly knew I HAD to quit! Had my last smoke next morning at 8:00 AM then went about distracting myself and keeping as busy as possible though that first day (a Sunday) Took the next two days off work and just sheltered in place like a hermit. Somehow made it through those days that seemed like one giant urge to smoke. Went to work in a haze of brain fog the next day and somehow made it through. The experience had become so horrible and so overwhelming to me that it became a challenge. Who would win the war of wills? Me or my addiction to nicotine? The longer things went on the more determined I became to win this war no matter how long it took. Before I know it, although at the time it seemed like a very long time, I knew I had the upper hand and those urges became less frequent, less intense and less bothersome. Now today, I rarely think of smoking and when I do, it's not fondly at all! I pity people I see still smoking or vaping and I regret not having made the decision to quit earlier in life. Nothing I can do to change that now but I'm absolutely sure I will never smoke again!!

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I know that YOU know; that wouldn't help this or any other stressful/emotional situation. In fact, smoking would only deepen your regret over the events. No one is worth throwing away a precious quit for - no one! Quitting is about YOU and your better future and that needs to be your primary focus right now. If there's some wreckage left behind ... so be it but I expect this will resolve at some point.

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Oh my! Don't understand why her husband is livid when none of what went on was about him. He was just a bystander - WOW! Seems extreme to me. Hopefully they settle down at some point? Probably no point in calling the husband to wish him a Happy BD 🤐

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I have a feeling it'll work out for you. I certainly hope so anyway!

You have found out yourself that having an occasional smoke doesn't work for a nicotine addict and you seem determined this time to guard your young quit so you don't make mistakes of the past. All you need to do now is put that knowledge into action and let your determination guide you through when those urges threaten to wash over you. From the sound of your post, I think you'll be fine!

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Well there you go! Surely they will understand what you're going through and forgive and forget at some point, I would think. Perhaps they're just giving you some space for a bit. I'd be hopeful that they'll come around at some point

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Yes! I was an absolute A-hole of months 😆 Surprised the wife is still around!

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