May 19, 201412 yr Hey Evelyn. Relapse is a setback. It is annoying for the person who relapses. Statistically - most people who quit suffer relapses before they quit. I don't think anyone is annoyed. We all want you to succeed. You will succeed.
May 19, 201412 yr But I just smoked - again! Well - that's not a good thing Evelyn is it? Right now - you know and I know that there are no silver bullets. So - get rid of all cigarettes, commit and quit. Yes - you will crave. Yes you can beat the crave. You just had two weeks done - so you have proved that it can be done. There are no shortcuts, no magic potions. You relapsed. that's done. Now quit again. If you want to win - you will win.
May 19, 201412 yr Get serious and committ. QUIT F*CKING AROUND...AFTER ALL THIS IS YOUR LIFE WE ARE TALKING ABOUT!!!
May 19, 201412 yr Evelyn...please stay. As long as you want to quit, then stay. Why don't you tell us what is your biggest triggers and maybe we can help come up with a plan.
May 19, 201412 yr Stay, Please Evelyn. I don't know when you'll have a quit that lasts but I can tell you that it's not likely without support. We want to help.
May 19, 201412 yr ok, you're on this board so I'm in. I absolutely want you to stay...and quit!! We could all relapse a millions time baby girl, we CHOOSE not too, you can choose too but you don't - why?! Why not post an sos? I would stop my entire day to answer it for YOU, I mean that, absolutely for you I would tell all I love to hold fire while I help you. That should matter evelyn. You simply stop smoking. I wish there were a magic wand, there's not. You just have to go through the crap, it absolutely sucks, I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but if you traipse through it and hold on, the quit gets more secure!! YOU literally secure your own quit. Do it!! You can do it, anyone can do it. Please Evelyn, please just when it feels utterly shite - hold on! xx
May 19, 201412 yr Yes Evelyn, you smoked, again. More annoying to yourself than us. But phrase be honest with yourself, do you think you have more chance of quitting and staying quit with or without the board? I think the answer is with the board, so I urge you to reconsider leaving.
May 20, 201412 yr Evelyn, please stay! We all want to help you get your sticky quit! I agree with Action, it is more annoying to you than to us when you light one up! I know you can do it so please stay and keep trying!
May 20, 201412 yr Author I want it to stick... But when I switch between different personalities that's when I don't have control. It's not meant as an excuse it is what it is. I dunno how to communicate better, that smoking is not done
May 20, 201412 yr would writing notes to the other personalities help? educating them and telling them not to smoke as its slowly killing you?
May 21, 201412 yr would writing notes to the other personalities help? educating them and telling them not to smoke as its slowly killing you? yep....and post them...everywhere....NOPE...Not one Puff Ever....Take Deep breaths...do not smoke..this crave will pass and i'll be stronger....post them everywhere....
May 21, 201412 yr I am not annoyed with your relapses Evelyn. I'm upset that you're continuously torturing yourself and prolonging the TEMPORARY withdrawals unnecessarily. There is NO benefits to smoking. Smoking will not fix any of your problems! What has smoking ever done for you, other than make you feel miserable about yourself? Please reconsider leaving. I really think you need the board. Regardless of how many times you relapse, you've got to keep trying until it finally clicks.
May 21, 201412 yr After Bakon post? Yes after Bakon post. Bakon wants you to succeed Evelyn. Everyone here does. Bakon has respect for you and so tells you straight what he thinks. He doesn't try to 'modify' or to treat you differently. You might agree with him, you might not - that is your right. The personalities thing is way beyond my experience or capability - and beyond that of anyone here I think. You have a team of Pros to help you with that in the Netherlands. It would be dangerous of us to try to help in an area that we do not understand. We do understand a bit about quitting. We understand that at times it can be tough. We understand that you get frustrated. We understand that stopping and starting all the time is hard for you. But we believe that you can do it. We believe that you will do it. To keep getting knocked down and standing straight back up is inspirational Evelyn. You show us what determination is. Thank you for that. If you disagree with Bakon, or me or anyone else - that's OK. Don't get upset, don't be hurt - just disagree. We all have opinions and they are all equally valid. Yours, mine - everyone's opinion is valid. So - no more talking of leaving, no more talking of relapsing - lets get this quit done Evelyn. You quit. We will support You got this Evelyn! :D
May 21, 201412 yr bakon post? what was so bad, I wish I didn't work, my friends are over rated, my wife is a handful and you smoke cuz you want to. I didn't tell you to go screw yourself or your obnoxious, you said it to me. don't worry, I have thick skin and those are not so bad. what I see from you is more excuses than a third grade class trying to get out of homework. you didn't invent misfortune and you aren't the only one here who has suffered, you also don't know our problems. all points are mute, don't matter your problems or ours.... if you smoke, you smoke. don't smoke and you quit. cant be any plainer or easier. blame anything you want, but every ex-smoker knows you have to want it first. want to quit more than want to smoke.
May 21, 201412 yr Yes after Bakon post. Bakon wants you to succeed Evelyn. Everyone here does. Bakon has respect for you and so tells you straight what he thinks. He doesn't try to 'modify' or to treat you differently. You might agree with him, you might not - that is your right. The personalities thing is way beyond my experience or capability - and beyond that of anyone here I think. You have a team of Pros to help you with that in the Netherlands. It would be dangerous of us to try to help in an area that we do not understand. We do understand a bit about quitting. We understand that at times it can be tough. We understand that you get frustrated. We understand that stopping and starting all the time is hard for you. But we believe that you can do it. We believe that you will do it. To keep getting knocked down and standing straight back up is inspirational Evelyn. You show us what determination is. Thank you for that. If you disagree with Bakon, or me or anyone else - that's OK. Don't get upset, don't be hurt - just disagree. We all have opinions and they are all equally valid. Yours, mine - everyone's opinion is valid. So - no more talking of leaving, no more talking of relapsing - lets get this quit done Evelyn. You quit. We will support You got this Evelyn! :D Wow what an awesome post!
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