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  1. Alcohol can unsettle our brains. Take a moment to ditch the thoughts about smoking for a second and think back to previous drunken moments. I won't speak for you lol, but for me I can name pointless arguments, some suspicious choices of partner, un-natural levels of upset, over reactions and the list could go on. So the point is alcohol changes our perceptions that our sober mind would dismiss. Be careful of it. For the smoking bit. Yes, there will come a time when a skinfull won't associate with smoking, at all. It's a nice feeling, you'll like it. x
  2. I'm not sure how to answer this one. Of course, good job jumping back on. And I was on/off quitting for almost a year so I understand the temptation of relapse but there's a couple of red flags for me. 1)You kept the tobacco, why? I mean really ask yourself why - not to answer me. I don't think you'll much like the answer when you understand it, it's because you are addicted to nicotine and you were mentally still giving yourself a way back in. 2)You've occasionally been drinking and felt some small craves - so went onto whiskey and then smoked. Ask yourself why on this one too. You'll get the same answer as a heads up to help you out. Now I want to raise these not to bash you with them but to tell you unless you face those down your journey will be a tough one and open to the danger of falling off. I get it, I really do. I think the first 6 weeks of my quit was me abstaining and then when the horrible choice came (and in my experience it does come) then I chose no (the last time, umpteen times before I would smoke and restart). The difference was an SOS here, it was my last line of defence against making the wrong choice. So my advice to you is if you take nothing new to this quit that you promise yourself you will do an SOS - BEFORE you smoke and wait for at least 3 responses. Hopefully our minds will not be clouded by alcohol and we can at least help you see the choice. So moving on. Congratulations on day 1! x
  3. Hi Karen, I had to separate things for it to make sense. I am a whatever works kind of quitter. The most powerful tool you have is to choose, daily, to not be a smoker. Don't think too big or too far, there's time enough for that later. The way to quit is simply to not smoke the next time the addiction tries to urge you to do it. Each battle is unique and each win gives the next thought less of a chance. Fingers crossed you got first class seating :) xx
  4. Have you tried resetting your body since quitting. I know a few people, me included, who had very different reactions to food and drink after quitting. Went natural eating (no junk, processed etc) for a week and now as long as I don't go overboard I can eat ok. My stomach will grumble about having bread but if I don't eat to many other processed options the same day then I'm not too bad and it's not painful, just bloat a little (but sometimes for a steak or bacon sandwich I am prepared to suffer lol). Fairly sure the key was the clearing our systems as other people I know had better results too. I do buy gluten free where I can. Overly processed seems as bad as gluten as a heads up. Don't know if that helps. xx
  5. For me, smoking is such a red alert that I wouldn't touch anything, nicotine or not. No point reawakening the beast! I see no drama with eating cake, of any kind :) x
  6. A very clever chap then! :) How wonderful to have those languages, it must make travelling so amazing! x
  7. Watched lots of documentaries last night. You forget what a disaster 92 was don't you, don't think I connected it all happened in one year even back then. Woman of steel, g'wan Liz!! Love her :)
  8. Very cool! Looks a little "dark" but if that's what you're going for then great. You're amazing at those banners by the way, great job! Do you do those sort of designs as a job or just because you're a clever chap?
  9. Part of the process is really breaking down those regular times and triggers that it causes. What we once called a treat or reward, was realistically our addiction to nicotine demanding to be fed. I found it helped to write a list of distractions that I could engage. Maybe you could treat yourself to some magazines that interest you and read the articles when you are ready to have a small breather? x
  10. What happens to the 19 year old that are currently addicted? I wondered this when they raised Englands age limit too (from 16 to 18). There are a few years of addicts that they legally created who are now no longer able to legally purchase a product they inadvertantly got addicted to?! Sloping shoulders....
  11. whats appenin here? Bring the white coats back peoples, the natives are restless!
  12. I was just commenting about having more time since we all quit smoking and it got me to thinking. Did anyone take up any new hobbies or projects? My quit journey started in earnest after taking a healing course (Reiki 1) and thanks to the extra time and money by next month I will be qualified to teach. I also took an Indian Head Massage qualification and have studied loads and loads of things. I have more time to write now so I have a group page on facebook where I do write ups about how the planetry energy will affect us and how best to use that. Weirdly my house is much cleaner now I don't stop at the end of each and every job to smoke haha, I can't believe I used to do that as a congratulatory thing, sounds weird now. So what did you do with all your extra time?
  13. You will find wonderful things to do with your time, I have no doubt. A day in nature sounds like the prefect antidote to spare time, it always wipes time away :) One day you'll be whining to someone in a general conversation about how little time you have and you'll stop and smile for a second because you will remember you have more then you've ever had :) I totally relate to wanting to get out and do stuff versus the smoker who wants to just be in a safe place to enable smoking. Trust this journey even if it wobbles from time to time. You are doing perfectly and you will soon have a very full and happier life. xx
  14. You geek away! You expect to just be a non smoker. The reality is you gain a ton of insight which will support you throughout life. Not in the woe is me way we suspect of quitting - but it's almost like our minds have time to process things differently. Actually having lots more time available means you have time to try new things too :) So geek away, love it! x
  15. Living in the moment, and here too :)
  16. Exactly that. Nope, just for today. xx
  17. I love this! Totally spot on. You can change so many aspects of your life (including reinforcing being a happier non smoker) in the morning. Upon waking to be think of how thankful you are, even if it's just one thing. Just doing this one thing can seriously transform your day and eventually it becomes habit and you can lift your moods very naturally to face each day with a positive mindset. x
  18. Well done staying strong in every sense of the word. xx
  19. Thank you for your lovely comments. I'm happier that somehow it helped you to connect some dots. I always believed that was the power of a quit forum, you can take a little bit from everyone and simply leave what doesn't work for you. Some things can be real deal breakers for relapsing and I'm pleased these guys could share them. By choosing nope, sometimes in a dance fueled craze lol, and realizing I was simply addicted to nicotine I stopped giving myself the choice to relapse. Being a non smoker is easier, you just don't put anything in your mouth and set it on fire :) Welcome. My advice is keep reading, keep posting. xx
  20. Welcome. How you feeling? Hope all is good for you. I just wanted to explain something I learnt here. Stress causes all the nicotine to drain from your system (I imagine a blood thing but am not a scientist lol). So in essence, you instantly crave nicotine, you smoke and that craving is eased. When you are a non smoker, that physical craving does not happen! Because all the nicotine is already gone. To start, you might "think" I want to smoke because it was your habit, but the physical push to do so is gone. In time, the thought of "oh I would have smoked under these conditions" has gone too. Meaning non smokers, actually seem to handle stress MUCH BETTER then smokers. I mention this as it really got on my nerves that I'd told myself for years that smoking "eased my stress levels" and truly believed it when in reality, I am far calmer as a non smoker anyway as those peaks and troughs of nicotine in and out simply don't happen. x
  21. Happy to see you, nothing major to add except to agree. The before was also far worse for me, quitting was easier then all the epic planning to quit. Not smoking was quite straightforward in comparison and some days felt easy, some I had more thoughts bt the board and people talked me through things and it helped it to make sense for me. It's really great to post a lot. xx

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