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5 pointsG’day NOPE .....Not One Puff Ever.... (replace Ever with Min,Hour, Day as required.)
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5 points5 points5 points4 points4 points4 points4 points4 points3 points3 pointsG’day NOPE .....Not One Puff Ever.... (replace Ever with Min,Hour, Day as required.)
3 points3 points3 points2 points2 pointsI know when I was a smoker, anything that reminded me of the ill health effects of my addiction scared me. That fear came out as anger, and I'd often lash out at the people speaking truth to me, regardless of how kind they were about it. Without any further context, I'd say their anger toward you likely isn't personal, but a result of the fear they feel. The most I think any person can do is to remember empathy and do their level best to speak the truth as they understand it in as kindly a way as possible, without sacrificing the truth for the sake of being nice.2 points2 points1 pointI agree with @DenaliBlues and @Penguin that it was probably contextual. Maybe if you had of added something like it being just another reason to keep your quit and if you're not quit then to quit. Maybe it wouldn't have sounded as negative?1 point1 pointHi, @Kdad. Each forum a has it’s own culture and each comment has a context. Your remark has a factual basis (it’s from a long term UK study published in the 1990s). So that’s not the question. The question is whether it was contextually appropriate on that forum and at that time and place. Is there a moderator or someone else in that forum you could ask for feedback? Or does that the community have any published ground-rules that you can look at?1 point1 point1 point1 point1 point1 point1 point1 point1 point1 point1 pointThis leaderboard is set to New York/GMT-04:00
