October 19, 20241 yr Im not even sure where to begin. But please, help 😭. The fact that there were a bunch of men that once figured out how to make quitting smokers feel EXACTLY like this in order to make them relaps… is what pushes me throught right now. I need to make it through this day, step by step. Dont lose connection.
October 19, 20241 yr 3 hours ago, MLMR said: Im not even sure where to begin. But please, help 😭. The fact that there were a bunch of men that once figured out how to make quitting smokers feel EXACTLY like this in order to make them relaps… is what pushes me throught right now. I need to make it through this day, step by step. Don't lose connection. Hello @MLMR... the fact that you came here for help says a lot about your commitment to keep your quit. You have the right idea. Take it one step at a time. You are here because your desire to keep your quit is stronger than your temporary cravng to smoke. Let us know how you are doing buddy. Keep your quit.
October 19, 20241 yr Step by step is how we all quit. We can't walk for you but we can walk this path with you. What can we help you with? Have you read your excellent intro thread lately?
October 19, 20241 yr Hi @MLMR. I am so sorry that you are struggling. We get it. It sucks. Keep in mind that withdrawal exaggerates a lot of things… it distorts your experience of misery… makes it seem like everything is awful and you will never be whole or content without smoking. That’s the addiction having a tantrum. It’s not an accurate view of the world or your destiny. It’s FEAR - false evidence appearing real. Please do not give in to the despair. You do not need smoking to complete you. In fact, smoking will make the wretched feelings worse. The agony of withdrawal passes if you can endure it for long enough. It does not last forever, I promise. Good things await you on the other side if you can make it through the first wacko phase of quitting. Keep writing out your feelings here. Interacting on this forum can keep you grounded and enforce the assurance that you aren’t alone. Get mad, shout, cuss, cry, whatever… just keep smoking off the table!
October 19, 20241 yr 41 minutes ago, DenaliBlues said: Hi @MLMR. I am so sorry that you are struggling. We get it. It sucks. Keep in mind that withdrawal exaggerates a lot of things… it distorts your experience of misery… makes it seem like everything is awful and you will never be whole or content without smoking. That’s the addiction having a tantrum. It’s not an accurate view of the world or your destiny. It’s FEAR - false evidence appearing real. Please do not give in to the despair. You do not need smoking to complete you. In fact, smoking will make the wretched feelings worse. The agony of withdrawal passes if you can endure it for long enough. It does not last forever, I promise. Good things await you on the other side if you can make it through the first wacko phase of quitting. Keep writing out your feelings here. Interacting on this forum can keep you grounded and enforce the assurance that you aren’t alone. Get mad, shout, cuss, cry, whatever… just keep smoking off the table! @DenaliBlues... thank you for reminding us that withdrawl exagerates and distorts any suffering we are experiencing.... @MLMR.. this is good advice. Please let us know how you are doing and hang close to Quittrain. Hope you feel better soon.
October 19, 20241 yr Hi @MLMR We all know how much it sucks when those horrible cravings sneak up on us! I have had many days like that early in my quit. It's great that you came on here because we can help you. You need to distract yourself with anything other than smoking. Read a book, go for a walk, drink a big glass of water, go for a car ride, anything that will get your mind away from the cigs! One day at a time, one hour at a time or even one minute at a time! You can do this, you really can!! The urges don't last forever, I can promise you that, and the longer you stay quit the less frequent they become! Hang in there and come on here and vent to us whenever you want. That's what this board is all about!!! 🙂
October 19, 20241 yr Author I made it through the day. Thanks for your great advice and wisdom. I’m still a bit battered - but thats ok. Thanks again, glad I asked. I’ll be happy when this day is over 🙏
October 19, 20241 yr 24 minutes ago, MLMR said: I made it through the day. Thanks for your great advice and wisdom. I’m still a bit battered - but thats ok. Thanks again, glad I asked. I’ll be happy when this day is over 🙏 Hey @MLMR.... ask yourself emotionally, what do you need right now? Find a way seek some comfort and attend to what is bothering you... or find something that can make you feel a bit better in the moment... we know that smoking never really made anything feel better!!! Smoking only ever made us want to smoke more.. You are doing awesome @MLMR One Day at a Time!!
October 20, 20241 yr Author 16 hours ago, Paul723 said: Have you read your excellent intro thread lately? Not yet, Paul! Too embarassed for messing up, I think. After all the effort many people put in that thread… mmm. You are right though. Thanks for reminding me. Tons of good advice and spirit in there!
October 20, 20241 yr Aww sorry I’m late to help you through this tough time , life got in the way . Great to hear you got past this and are back on track … Good work Quittrain another quit saved 👍🐸
October 22, 20241 yr Author 14 hours ago, jillar said: Hey @MLMR, how are you doing today? Hi Jill, mmm. Had a rough day. I aim for a better one today!
October 23, 20241 yr Darling Dutch Woman, You veer from the path, you might stumble but you pick yourself up, dust yourself off. I've seen you! and I believe in your resolve. Today. Now. Your footsteps follow your footsteps and another minute, another hour, another day of conquering addiction brings power.
October 27, 20241 yr @MLMR Sorry I wasn’t around to help you through your struggle last week. I hope that you are back to being you and stronger than you were before because of it. Next time you will know that you had those men lined up and kicked every one of their behinds. LOL They have no power over you now. See you around.
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