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"But I enjoyed smoking!"

abbynormal

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"But I enjoyed smoking!"

 

I hear that again and again from folks struggling to quit. (I've heard my own inner addict's voice whisper it a thousand times.) And so I ask this question:

 

Was smoking ever REALLY enjoyable?

 

One of the keys to my success this time around has been to remind myself that smoking was never really something I enjoyed. Not really. Remember that very first cigarette--the burning sensation in your throat, the acrid smell of the smoke, the cough following that first hit? I still remember it. Why did I continue to smoke? It wasn't because I enjoyed it. It was because the nicotine receptors in my brain woke up after my FIRST puff and immediately began screaming for more. I was hooked from the get-go.

 

Smoking wasn't something I enjoyed. When I really think about it, smoking was something I hated. I hated the guilt and shame. I hated sneaking around whilst trying to hide my habit from my disappointed loved ones. I hated the dirty looks I got from non-smokers when I lit up in public. I hated the smell that permeated my clothes, my skin, my hair, my car. I hated cleaning foul, dirty ashtrays. I hated spending money only to watch it burn up. I hated huddling on the porch in the cold and rain, trying to stay warm and dry while puffing away like some kind of fiend. I hated coughing every time I laughed. I hated wheezing every time I climbed even a short flight of stairs. I hated the ulcers in my nose that wouldn't heal. And I hated the fear that each cigarette brought me a little bit closer to death.

 

So where does that sense of "enjoyment" come from? Because I thought for years that smoking was something I liked doing. That's why I threw away quits in the past--I thought I was missing out on something. But the more I learned about nicotine addiction, the more I began to realize the truth: smoking was something I did to fulfill a craving. That's it. That sense of enjoyment was actually my inner addict's sense of relief at getting another fix. Even that first cigarette of the day, which was always my "favorite," was not an enjoyable experience. It was simply providing a rush of nicotine after 8 hours of withdrawal. (Yes, even in sleep my body was always begging for another hit.)

 

Ok, so maybe I enjoyed the lovely quiet mornings spent on my porch with a cup of coffee. Guess what? I can still enjoy those. And I can breathe in lots of fresh, clean air while I enjoy them. Because now I'm truly enjoying them. I'm not simply satisfying a need. A need I created when I took that very first puff. (Isn't that sad?)

 

I didn't enjoy smoking. I do, however, enjoy being smoke free.

 

Attitude is everything in a successful quit. Change your thoughts about the habit itself, and it will save you down the road. Trust me.

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Oh Abby, I also was so ashamed of smoking.  I felt like such a weakling because I could not quit and knew that I was going to die of a smoking related illness.  I promise you that you will gain so much power as your quit keeps going and then one day, it is not even a thought.  You are doing great.  Keep that quit going.!

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The fallacy of enjoyment came from the release of endorphins that nicotine triggered.

Nicotine appropriated our brain receptors for pleasure, then they would only respond by administering nicotine.

 

One by one we claim these receptors back.  This is why rewards are so important.

 

Here is a great thread by MLMR with a super video Educational Video on Nicotine and The Brain


and a scientific study on Reward Processing and Smoking

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That post Abby, thank you for sharing. So many of us experienced those same feelings...

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Hi. I’m L4L and I’m a former “closet” smoker.  @abbynormal I know exactly what you are referencing in this great post.  Guilt? check. Shame? check. Embarrassment? check.  Joy?  I guess I was joyful my withdrawal craves were calmed by smoking...

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Great honest post ...

This is why this addiction is evil....it tricks the brain into thinking it's enjoyable ...which in reality it's the complete opposite....

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I too felt all of these feelings associated with smoking,, abbynormal, the shame was the worst thing. I have never been ashamed of much, but when society gives you the flick so to speak, then this really hurt me to the core. I have looked at the research given out from sazerac for the reward system and the brain function.. I believe in getting rewards for something you are proud of, the only comment I need to make is; that in my day the rewards were given out for smoking in oh so subtle ways. Like role models on movies which convinced you that it was "cool" to smoke, women especially were given the tag subconsciously of being emancipated if you lit up especially with a long cigarette holder, then you were truly emancipated and sophisticated at the same time.  That is no excuse, but in those days no education was readily available. Later on I developed the need for getting away from boring chit chat, which the cigarette gave me another excuse to use. Now, I know better of course, and I feel happier in society, and as far as boring chit chat is, I have taken the position of listening a lot more, and I think I have succeeded in this a whole lot. My life now is not boring, and I have so much to look forward to there is not enough hours in the day. I start buying candles tomorrow, no more cakes. 

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The enjoyment argument is destroyed in Allen Carr's book. It's big misconception that there is enjoyment involved because we confuse it with addiction. The best counter-argument for me is the glue-sniffing comparison. 

If we see a glue-sniffer on the street we don't think, "That looks so good, I'm missing out on a pleasure." Of course not, we see it for what it is, a sad and harmful addiction.

The glue-sniffer is probably thinking something else and is arguably 'enjoying' it.

I view smoking in the same light as glue-sniffing.

 

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