You can be the example to your husband for sure.
I want to be the example to my 10 (almost 11) year old niece. All the adults in her life are smokers who've been unable to quit. She thinks it's literally impossible. I will show her otherwise. I love to hug her even more now because I know she won't smell smoke on me. For some asinine reason she looks up to me! Poor girl. :)
Maybe his words felt profound because they're true, true. The choice is yours alone. Like REZ says: all the help in the world means nothing without your commitment and desire. You can use anything as an excuse to relapse..."whaa, the forum didn't care about my milestones, whaa, my attitude is effecting others, whaa, my friends & family don't 'get it', OR whaa, my Husband still keeps them around. Any justification and/or rationalization is ONLY a trick your thoughts use so your brain can get its nicotine fix. That's it. Nothing more. See all these tricks for what they are and make a solemn VOW to yourself. Then honor your vow.
Cigarettes will be available forever. There's no avoiding them. Any one of us can smoke at any time. It's our choice.
You have 10 days right now. Don't throw this away. Blessings are coming.