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  1. This is one of the ways I quit drinking. I told myself that I could drink anytime I wanted. It took a load off me and allowed me to get through the process easier. I've not drank anything in a long time. I actually don't want a drink anymore. I also told myself, if I never drink again, I had already drank more than most people do in a lifetime. I was going to AA meetings twice a week and working the 12 step program. Then almost all at once, something clicked and I was over it. Quit July 4th, 2018 and have never looked back. I have tried to apply the same principles I learned in AA to quit smoking. There is something different about quitting smoking. To me it's much harder to quit smoking! I think it's because I smoked all day. I only drank late in the evening. Plus I still had the cigarettes when I quit drinking. I will try to think that way about smoking. Thanks! I had a bad day today, but I didn't smoke! On top of the normal cravings and urges I've been having, we had to have our cat put down. My wife woke me up early and told me that she was going to take the cat to the vet. I got a call about two hours later and they had put her to sleep for good. Her lungs kept filling up with fluid and her breathing would get very labored. That cat was a part of our household for around 15 years. My wife and youngest daughter were upset all day. I dug her a nice grave out on the hillside. It is amazing how attached we can become to pets. I will miss that cat, especially when I'm here by myself. She was good company! Then later in the day we went to two graveyards and put flowers on the graves of family members who have passed. We do that every Memorial Day! Just seemed like there was a lot of sadness around today. I will go to bed and hope tomorrow is better! Take Care!
  2. I made it a week! I'm happy about that. I had some urges and cravings on day seven, but I was able to deal with them. I'm happy about that also. @Mac#23 I made a list like you are talking about back about two quits ago. I've got it right beside me on the end table and I put it in my wallet when I go out. I need to update it, add some things, then make a second copy. It's falling apart from being folded up small enough to be put in my wallet. I read it often! I agree with you! I've had a pretty smooth first week considering I know how that first week can be. Now I'm suspicious about when I will really be tested. I lost a quit years ago after over four months nicotine free. I lost a 20 day quit earlier this month, and many others at different lengths of time. So I'm waiting with my guard up. If I lose it this time it will be my fault, just as it was with all the others. I'm just thankful for today! All I have to do is get up tomorrow and not smoke for another day! Take Care My Friends!
  3. You People Are Awesome! Thanks for taking the time to give me guidance and encouragement. Maybe I will be able to help someone who is fighting this addiction, in the future. Worked outside most of the day. The weather was great. We have had a cold/rainy spring here. This was only the second day I've had the the central air on this year. Day six wasn't that bad. I had several urges and cravings, but was able to fight them off. My wife took a nap in the afternoon, while I watched all of Joel"s videos that have been suggested to me here. I had already watched some of them earlier in the week, but still had 10 or 12 to go. About an hour and a half! Tonight I read some more in the thread where past quitters talk about how they managed their urges and cravings in the early days of their quits. That helps me in more ways than one. I make notes of things I think might help me, and it reminds me of just how many other people have been right where I'm at now. That's a very long thread! My sleep in messed-up. I sleep well, but I go to bed late and sleep in late. I don't care about that much. I think my system is just adjusting. My stomach is cramping some and I'm gassy. I've had that problem on other quits. It will pass, so to speak. I have also noticed a ringing in my ears. I've had that before, even when I was smoking. I am having some of the normal junkie thinking from time to time. To maintain this quit I can't allow any bargaining with myself. I'll fool around make a bad bargain if I'm not careful! Take Care Everyone!
  4. Well I got through day five. It went relatively smooth considering. I had some urges and cravings, but they were manageable. I spent about two hours reading posts and watching videos. I plan to do more of that everyday. I think it is important right now. I know that there will come a time, maybe tomorrow, next week, or even next month when my quit will be challenged and I will need to be armed with all the knowledge I can take in. I also know that I've been trying to stay positive. But I can already feel some depression creeping into my mind. In order to stay quit I have to concentrate on it almost all the time I'm awake. I think the depression comes along when I get mentally tired of concentrating on staying quit. I wish I were stronger, mentally. I was very close to my grandfather. I remember the day he quit smoking. Cigarettes had went up in price another few cents per pack. He said he wouldn't pay that much and never smoked again for the rest of his life. I wish I had that kind of resolve. He was a very nice man, that enjoyed life. But when he made up his mind that was it. Enough about all that! I'm happy that I made it through another day and I plan to work hard to get though day six. Take Care! Jeff
  5. HI! I was reading back over the posts in this thread and this statement caught my eye. You are absolutely right about this! As I said, I read all the advice that everyone here gives me and I appreciate that everyone took the time to give me that advice. But to be honest, I have not been able to commit to following all of the advice I've been given. I'm not even sure that I have fully committed to Never Take Another Puff or to NOPE. I just take it one day at a time because that is all I can do right now. I will work on my commitment issues, but I'm not there yet. I know that anything less than a 100% commitment from me will cause me trouble with this quit at some point. Thanks for making me think about this! It's the most important part of any quit!
  6. HI! ALL! @Doreensfree Changing my routine is something I've never given any thought. I am a very regimented person. I think it came from all those years I was in the military when I was young. In fact, it has annoyed my wife, children, and other people over the years. I know because they have told me so. I also know that I would always smoke at a certain time or trigger point. After meals, after completing a task, etc.. Thanks for suggesting this! I will think about how I can change my routine around especially during those times of the day that I struggle the most. I've been reading a thread today about how others, that have quit, dealt with their urges and cravings. There are a ton of ways people have done it. Making a list of the ones I think could help me. If I tried all these different distractions, I wouldn't have any time to smoke. Thanks Again!
  7. Congratulations on your quit. 8 months plus is Great! I agree with the advice you have been given here! I didn't understand that when I quit smoking it would take a long term commitment, or even a lifetime commitment to succeed. I just thought I would quit, each day would get better and in a relatively short period of time it would all be behind me. It would be like I never smoked for 47 years. That's not true! I was living in a dream world. I couldn't resist suggesting to you that you concentrate on the psychological part of the quitting smoking process. I have had many quits for different lengths of time over the past 8 years or so. My mind has always tricked me into smoking again so that I would feel better. I know realize that there was never anything really wrong with me, except I wanted that fix and my so called health problems were a way to justify getting it. Stay here and read all you can, watch all the videos you can. Talk to others who have experienced health problems during their quit. Try to separate what is a real problem that needs medical attention and what is mental problem being caused by the change you have made in your lifestyle. It's a long bumpy road. But some of the bumps can be softened by educating ourselves. Good Luck! I hope you feel better Soon! Jeff
  8. HI Everyone! I just finished day four. It was a good day! A few cravings, but not too bad. I had a bad day six on my last quit, but that doesn't mean it will be the same this time. I'm sticking to my quit plan so far. I've even added a few things. I just have to get up in the morning and stay focused until my head clears. I don't wake up all the way at once in the mornings, and I always had that first Cig. right out of bed. I would get up, put my slippers on, and go straight to our partially closed in porch for that first nicotine fix of the day. I would do that even in really cold, snowy weather. Now that's an addict! I'm off to day five! Take Care!
  9. HI! Going through the material that you ask me to read and watch. I came across this part of a post written by you. It hit the spot for me. During past quits I have always bargained with myself. I have also said "if I don't feel better in X amount of time I will go back to smoking". I've lost quits this way because I actually thought that I was never going to feel any better. I was lost in a fog and my mind wasn't strong enough to ride it out, no matter how long it lasted Depression had taken me over and all I wanted to do was feel better. The unknown part about all this is how long it will last for me. As Joel says, everyone's quit is different. I'm just happy that I'm not feeling bad enough right now that I have to bargain with myself. It's early in this quit, so maybe I'll bypass that stage this time. Great post for all to read! Thanks!
  10. HI! Again the AM of day four has been alright. I had to go out this morning for about 4 hrs. No problems except some brain fog when I first started driving. I'm happy right now! @Sazerac that's a great video. I think I understand what it means. I will read and watch some more suggested links you have given me this evening. I'll post again at the end of the day. Hopefully Positive!
  11. Thanks for the info about how the site works. I will try addressing just one poster. I have known all along that my reply would remain in the same tread for everyone to read, just didn't understand how to make sure someone knew I was commenting on what they said. Day three is gone. It was about the same as day two. I had the worst cravings in the evening again. I was was quit for 20 days, lost it for 13 days, and now I am quit again for three days. Because of that I feel like I'm almost back where I was. That's scary and worries me somewhat. I'm glad that the first three days haven't been that bad. But on the other hand, I'm just as shaky and fragile as I have been on my failed quits. I've got to really pay attention and not let my guard down. I have quit four different times this year alone. Lost the first three and many others before that because I became complacent after awhile. I get tired of always thinking about not smoking and I end up letting my guard down. I know that I have to be stronger in my resolve this time and keep reminding myself what's at stake if I lit up again. I've got a list of reasons why I want to stay quit that I carry in my wallet all the time. I've just got to keep that agreement with myself and read that list anytime I think about lighting up again. I'm just exhausted from the fight. It's on to day 4! A good night's sleep should carry me through! Take Care! Jeff
  12. It's the middle of day three! I'm alright. Been reading here and watching videos. Some of the Joel Spitzer videos I have already watched in the past, but it won't hurt anything to watch them again. I don't pick up on everything the first time I read or listen to it anyway. I'm headed out for a brisk walk. I will post again at the end of the day. Thanks for the support! I have been trying to figure out a few things about the use of this site. Please help me if you can! How do I respond to a specific post made by one person. So far I have been submitting a reply at the end of this tread to everyone. Example; I get a message from jillar. How do I respond to jillar's message? I know that my relpy will be seen by others on the tread, but I'm not sure jillar knows I'm responding to jillar. This is the Introductions and About Us thread. Now that I have introduced myself, should I be posting in another thread? Thanks, Jeff
  13. Thanks to all who replied to my last post! I am taking in all the advice and encouragement that's being given to me here. I'm now done with day two. It wasn't as easy as day one. I had a lot of urges and cravings in the evening, after supper. They were manageable by creating distractions as soon as they hit. I use crushed ice, a walk around the outside of the house, etc. I also use a short straw at times, with a little cotton in the end of it to create some resistance on the draw. I've found that it sometimes fools my mind. Not always, but at least it is a distraction. jillar Thanks for the link! I will do that when I get through these first days or weeks of my quit. I hope to feel stronger about my quit by then. Sazerac Thanks for reminding me that this is a marathon and not a sprint. Sometimes in forget that. I think forgetting that leads to complacency which leads to losing a quit. Mee I understand what you are saying about being retired and dealing with health issues. I've been retired for five years and last year I had to have a pacemaker put in twice. It's a long story, but it all comes down to paying for those many years I've ignored my health. I fell very lucky that I don't have cancer or COPD. Well it's on to day three! Jeff
  14. HI! I hope everyone is having a great day while being smoke free. Thanks Sazerac for your links to info that might be helpful to me. I've been reading and learning. It will take me some time to get through everything in the link, 10 Ways To Effectively Use This Forum To Stop Using Nicotine. That's a lot to read and listen to, but I'll get it done. I'm going to try and think more positively about this quit and reflect this in my posts. I am in the middle of day two. I've had some cravings, but I have no doubt that I will make it through the day. I will tell you a little about myself. I live in the eastern panhandle of West Virginia. I am retired from WVU where I was a Theatre Tech for 31 years. I worked on sound and lighting for all types of stage productions and programs. I went in the Army straight out of High School for six years, then to college and graduated in 1983 with a degree in Electronic Technology. I live with my wife of 42 years. We have two daughters and two grandchildren. The oldest daughter is an elementary school teacher and the youngest in an RN. My wife still works in the office of a car dealership. We live in a very rural area. Thanks for Reading! Jeff
  15. Thanks to all of you for the Welcome and for the advice. I had a pretty easy first day, considering how some days can be early in a quit. As time goes along I will figure out how this site works. I haven't figured out how to reply to a single post, so I am replying to the posts above me as a group. I know that I lack the commitment to stay quit. That lack of commitment causes me to become complacent over time. I actually handle the hard part ( the first days or even weeks ) of my quits better than I handle what I think should be the easier part, staying quit. I don't have any excuses for the loss of any of my past quits. I was the one that picked them back up. In fact, I've thrown quits away for no reason at all. I wasn't under any stress, nor was I having any unmanageable cravings at the time I lit up. I don't believe there is any such thing as an unmanageable craving. I'm just an addict and nicotine is the drug I'm hooked on. I am really watching a few things that I can control. Cutting my caffeine consumption in half, making sure not to let my sugar level get low, and staying hydrated. I've experienced brain fog, been lethargic, and had these tired spells (where I couldn't move a muscle) early in past quits. Maybe paying attention to these things more closely will let me avoid some of them. I will read the links that the moderator gave me! Again Thanks!

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