Marti - are we trying to out mother each other? ;) You are going to win - lots more experience than me.
So - let's set your logic back on you:
Your frightened Mum has, by following your example wiped out 90% of her smoking. Your 8 year old can see why that might be worth celebrating! "Out of the mouths of babes" they say :P
You know and I know that cutting down like this demonstrates:
1. Your Mum is still scared.
2. She has not entirely 'got it' - the junky is strong
3. She is incredibly strong. She is living Day one - EVERY day.
Jesus wept - I know that I don't really fancy day one one more time - let alone every day!
It must be incredibly difficult for you - she has come so far (CELEBRATE that) and is digging her toes in before taking the last step to freedom (which only SHE can take) - really frustrating!
The dishonesty thing.
Marti.
Let it go.
It was her inner junky, her fear, her wish not to disappoint her little girl. She was lying to herself as much as to you.
Don't be tolerant - recognise it for what it was - and get through it.
Perhaps she can take the final step. You must try not to give her junky any excuses!! :wacko:
You and Chris are doing brilliantly. Absolutely fantastic. Your 8 year old must be SO proud of you all.
Me? Ach...I'm only whinging.
Lovely words from you though. Thank you :wub:
I am incredibly lucky with a fantastic wife, decent health, great house, job - life is one big treat for me!
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