January 19, 20251 yr On 1/17/2025 at 4:18 PM, DenaliBlues said: Every tug of war requires two opposing forces to make it a battle. The thing with quitting is that you win when you drop your end of the rope Love this! @Kdad, please make this your forever quit before your health starts suffering irreversible damage. You just don't know which cigarette is going to put you on oxygen for the rest of your life......
January 20, 20251 yr Hey @Kdad.... You received a lot of good feedback from our amazing Quit-train family. There is another way to look at what we have to move through to overcome this addiction we have: the underlying causes of nicotine withdrawl. Here is a post from Dan1, someone I admired from Quitnet Cravings do not exist. Dan 1, March 18, 2007. Cravings - that tightness in the gut, the lungs, the throat. The moodiness, anxiety, and irritability. Those things that seem to be your body and mind SCREAMING for a smoke - they don’t exist. Oh, the symptoms are real, but they are the symptoms of stress, not a `craving`. That stress might have been caused by withdrawal, maybe by fighting a desire or `craving`, or often enough by the puts and takes of everyday life. We’ve come to call it a craving only because we’ve been self-medicating our stress for so long with nicotine that we don’t properly recognize stress when it smacks us in the face. It’s time to learn more effective, much safer methods of stress management. Apply them here, and the `cravings` disappear in short order. Edited January 27, 20251 yr by Genecanuck
January 20, 20251 yr Author I’m so sorry. I bought a pack, smoked one, and then threw it away. God damn it this is hard.
January 20, 20251 yr I’m gutted …. Gutted because you never posted a SOS How can we help , if you don’t give us that chance to get you through the rough time . Was that one cancer stick worth it , to lose your fabulous Quit … @Kdad we can give you all the tools we can , but the work has to come from you You have to ask yourself , do you want to remain a smoker or truly want to rid yourself of this killer addiction . 🐸
January 21, 20251 yr Sorry you smoked, @Kdad. But thanks for telling us. Please stay around and try again! What can you learn from this experience to help you next time?
January 21, 20251 yr 16 hours ago, Kdad said: I’m so sorry. I bought a pack, smoked one, and then threw it away. God damn it this is hard. Hello @Kdad.... I hear you. I had many slips in my past. You made the right decison to throw the pack away. Good for you for not giving up on your quit and coming right back here. You've got this @Kdad. Here is what my friend Dan1 had to say about a slip.... RE: See you at a later date From danl1 on 11/5/2004 9:02:23 AM I did the exact same thing. Several times, in fact. Then I tossed that pack, joined up here, and got on with things. That was 487 days ago. It's not about strength, ultimately. It's certainly not about being worthy. It's about understanding that they really don't have anything to offer you. If you will listen to you heart, you will see that you've just learned a big hunk of that. You simply need to pay attention to your higher angels. Yes, there are the times when it seems that we 'just want to.' That is not about being weak, or stupid, or anything like that. It is simply about being confused - on a level and in a way that makes it seem that you don't have control, because it's a non-verbal part of you that feels that way. Maybe you are not in a place to be here for a while. But still, be quit. If things go the wrong way, don't be disappointed, be constructive. A diet group I sat in on once had a phrase: "There is no failure, only feedback." It's a tough way to find things out, and I don't believe that it's necessary to smoke in order to learn how not to, but while you are in that place, you may as well look around and see what there is to see. -Didn’t do much for you, did it? -Made you feel pretty crappy physically, didn't it? -Didn’t make you feel all that great about yourself, either. And so on. Bottom line, smoking simply isn't worth it. There is not a single thing to be had from smoking that can't be had better, simpler, safer, faster, and cheaper in another way. There are just a few parts of our brains that take a little more convincing than others. All it takes is patience. It doesn't take strength, willpower or perseverance. In fact, those are the exact qualities that find you back smoking after you have already decided to quit. The amount of energy we expend fighting with ourselves to smoke after we have quit is simply amazing. That's right - you haven't been fighting to quit these past weeks - that, you had already done. You've been fighting to smoke. Stop that. Be kind to yourself, and pay attention to what's really going on in and around you. There's no bit of life that smoking can improve. You know it, now you need to work on believing it.
January 21, 20251 yr I'm sorry you smoked again @Kdad 😥Please stay close to this forum, as I believe if you come on here every day or at least every other day in the beginning of your quit, you will have more success. We can and will help you when you are in those situations. So please don't smoke any more cigs! They won't help you. Stay close to us! We are the ones who will help. 👍
January 21, 20251 yr Author Thanks! It happened so fast I didn’t have time to post. I’m back on the train. Hopefully this time sticks.
January 21, 20251 yr Good to see you back @Kdad Learn by what happened , so your more ready if it happens again Lets get this done 🐸
January 27, 20251 yr Author I've been watching Joel videos. I like what he says that we can't be stronger than the smoke but we can be smarter.
January 27, 20251 yr Glad you're still at it @Kdad. Keep watching them. A lot of what he talks about is just common sense but as smokers, we didn't h=seem to have a lot of that. Keep checking in here with us to let us know how you;re doing. We really do care about getting you quit for good!
January 29, 20251 yr Author Hanging in there. I went to the gas station for a soda and didn’t even think about buying a pack
January 29, 20251 yr 36 minutes ago, Kdad said: Hanging in there. I went to the gas station for a soda and didn’t even think about buying a pack Well done!
January 29, 20251 yr 2 hours ago, Kdad said: Hanging in there. I went to the gas station for a soda and didn’t even think about buying a pack Just think about the time ahead after you've been quit for some time and you rarely if ever think about buying or having a smoke! That's Freedom my friend; real Freedom!
January 31, 20251 yr On 1/29/2025 at 12:38 AM, Kdad said: Hanging in there. I went to the gas station for a soda and didn’t even think about buying a pack It just occurred to me, @Kdad, that after I quit, I had to avoid any venue where smokes were sold. These days I can go into the local shop around the corner or the liquor store and get what I need without even thinking about the smokes, but in those first few months I bought anything I needed from the gas station elsewhere. If you ever find the temptation rising up again, you may consider cutting out any venue where smokes are sold, just because it'll be less available to you then.
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