Sandi that sounds great tbh 😂❤️, comfy.  I did a little weed and watching Hulu w hubs,  ordered pizza. Even if it’s a small thing or a big thing, it’s good you came here to get it out and chat with your support friends ❤️

@Sandi149I'm home too lol.

I hope you are celebrating your hard work at being  a quitter and choosing not to smoke during a meltdown.  And awesome that you reached out. How are you now? Did it pass? 

@jillar how does one have 1 gummy?? I had like a whole bag of those sour air head gummies yesterday😂

Robin I think she meant a ✨*special*✨ gummy 

3 minutes ago, Brioski said:

Robin I think she meant a ✨*special*✨ gummy 

Ohhhh!!! Lol!!! I should be doing that instead of eating bags of sugar! Although ...then I'd be eating more omg

Edited July 9, 20233 yr by robin0212

@robin0212, past experience tells me to only eat one 🤣

Great job Sandi ..

The Gummy Quit ..Lovin it !!

Thanks everyone!!  I guess lots of us were home last night and we didn't smoke!!! Yay!!!!😄  I have noticed my meltdowns are much less frequent and definitely not as bad as the first couple of weeks.

As I recall, through my foggy memory, quitting ... I mean really being quit to the point where there's no more challenge to pick up that one smoke that will "make you feel great again", takes a lot longer than I imagined when I first started but I was truly committed to the task and that's what really made the difference for me.

 

Quitting truly is a process, albeit a very slow one and a challenge to your emotional self at times. During the entire first year of your quit process, patience really is a virtue!

25 minutes ago, Reciprocity said:

As I recall, through my foggy memory, quitting ... I mean really being quit to the point where there's no more challenge to pick up that one smoke that will "make you feel great again", takes a lot longer than I imagined when I first started but I was truly committed to the task and that's what really made the difference for me.

 

Quitting truly is a process, albeit a very slow one and a challenge to your emotional self at times. During the entire first year of your quit process, patience really is a virtue!

 

It's too bad I don't have much patience! LOL!!! 🤣😬

Sometimes I still want to have a smoke....is this normal? Am I normal? Yikes, maybe I'm not!!!🙄

 

When do the urges, even though they are not big urges, when do they finally go away?  How many months, or will it be many years before I can finally say "I have no more urges anymore", and wake up in the morning and not even remember that I smoke?  I can't wait for that day!!!!

Yes normal .......... I thought the same early on, all the sudden I wanted a smoke and was like, something is wrong! The urges got less frequent with time. I do not think about smoking now, just the occasional feeling that I am supposed to be doing something. Then I am like NOPE and continue about my smokeless day. 

 

You are doing great @Sandi149 and it is worth the struggle to quit for a better smoke free life. 

 

Edited July 13, 20233 yr by overcome

7 minutes ago, overcome said:

Yes normal .......... I thought the same early on, all the sudden I wanted a smoke and was like, something is wrong! The urges got less frequent with time. I do not think about smoking now, just the occasional feeling that I am supposed to be doing something. Then I am like NOPE and continue about my smokeless day. 

 

You are doing great @Sandi149 and it is worth the struggle to quit for a better smoke free life. 

 

Thanks Overcome!!  I'm glad I am normal...LOL!!!🤣  Sometimes I wonder about me....Haha!!!!  I know I'm only a little over a month quit but shouldn't I be more advanced, especially since I had quit before for 6 years.?  And this is gonna be the last time I will quit...I'm done smoking!!! 

 

@Sandi149, you are totally normal like overcome said.  Remember you smoked for years and with that made a lot of smoking triggers so it takes time to get through those. But as you progress with your quit they'll be like an annoying fly, easily swatted away. We have a One Year Pledge pinned to the top of the forum that most of us take and it's to stay close to your support (us) for at least a year so we can help you get past any craves you need help with.

Was your first quit easy? The reason why I ask is your relapse because my quit sucked for months and I don't ever want to relapse and have to do it all over again! 

I think it was about 6-7 months before I was so done with smoking that I actually began to feel sorry for people who were chained to their cigarettes. That's when I knew I was done forever with smoking! It has only grown from there to the point now where I'm one of those who are considered by smokers as an annoying X-smoker and I actually consider that a compliment; not an insult  

 

In terms of the feeling of wanting to have a smoke; the timing of when that urge dies varies from person to person and is often governed by events going on in any person's life. It's a much slower process than any of us thought it should be. As @jillar mentioned, we all need to stay close to a great support group during our first year because seasonal triggers often affect new quitters differently and we can be blindsided by them unexpectedly. That's not to say your whole 1st year will be a struggle. Far from it but, there may be times you will need to come pour your heart out to those who really understand what you're going through so; hang in there and rely on the commitment you made to yourself when you quit & us ... your support group. It's been proven a winning formula many times over  

Hi @Sandi149 Normal!! My first quit took 4 months before I was able to get into the car without panicking, and 6 before I really started to feel a little less jumping out of my skin-ish. But the whole first year sucked for me. 

But you are doing amazing work and reaching out when you need to is key to recovery! Before you know it there will be fleeting moments smoking doesn't even come to mind 😉

Someone here mentioned the seasons I think. I was taught the first year was about experiencing everything for the first time without smoking. Weather, holidays, anniversaries etc, and it was definitely awful. It only got better from there.

Until I relapsed. And now it sucks again lol. But you can do this!!!

Edited July 13, 20233 yr by robin0212

Hey Sandi, 

I would say totally normal too, but I’m still a newbie here too lol.  At almost five months I have urges still, just this morning actually. I like how you put it….we should be in “advanced” mode 😂. I bet when we reach it we won’t even realize it bc we’ll be cruising in our smoke free life ❤️  How are you feeling today?

11 hours ago, jillar said:

@Sandi149, you are totally normal like overcome said.  Remember you smoked for years and with that made a lot of smoking triggers so it takes time to get through those. But as you progress with your quit they'll be like an annoying fly, easily swatted away. We have a One Year Pledge pinned to the top of the forum that most of us take and it's to stay close to your support (us) for at least a year so we can help you get past any craves you need help with.

Was your first quit easy? The reason why I ask is your relapse because my quit sucked for months and I don't ever want to relapse and have to do it all over again! 

Thanks Jill, I am definitely gonna stay close to all of you in the forum!!  All of you are great people!! 😄  My first quit was so much easier because I used Chantix and it makes you forget to smoke.  It's a 3 month program so I was taking those pills for 3 months, twice a day.  The only bad side effect I had from Chantix was nausea in the morning.  It lasted about 30 minutes so I would lay down and then it would pass.  After about a month or so, it went away.  This time I couldn't go on it, so I had to do the weaning method.

10 hours ago, Reciprocity said:

I think it was about 6-7 months before I was so done with smoking that I actually began to feel sorry for people who were chained to their cigarettes. That's when I knew I was done forever with smoking! It has only grown from there to the point now where I'm one of those who are considered by smokers as an annoying X-smoker and I actually consider that a compliment; not an insult  

 

In terms of the feeling of wanting to have a smoke; the timing of when that urge dies varies from person to person and is often governed by events going on in any person's life. It's a much slower process than any of us thought it should be. As @jillar mentioned, we all need to stay close to a great support group during our first year because seasonal triggers often affect new quitters differently and we can be blindsided by them unexpectedly. That's not to say your whole 1st year will be a struggle. Far from it but, there may be times you will need to come pour your heart out to those who really understand what you're going through so; hang in there and rely on the commitment you made to yourself when you quit & us ... your support group. It's been proven a winning formula many times over  

Thanks!  I don't get the urges as often anymore thank goodness!  But once in a while they do sneak up on me and decide to attack....LOL!!  I will definitely be hanging around this board! 😃

9 hours ago, robin0212 said:

Hi @Sandi149 Normal!! My first quit took 4 months before I was able to get into the car without panicking, and 6 before I really started to feel a little less jumping out of my skin-ish. But the whole first year sucked for me. 

But you are doing amazing work and reaching out when you need to is key to recovery! Before you know it there will be fleeting moments smoking doesn't even come to mind 😉

Someone here mentioned the seasons I think. I was taught the first year was about experiencing everything for the first time without smoking. Weather, holidays, anniversaries etc, and it was definitely awful. It only got better from there.

Until I relapsed. And now it sucks again lol. But you can do this!!!

Yes, definitely a year of firsts....it's similar to losing an old friend because smoking was with us day in and day out for so many years.  I'm glad I don't get the cravings all the time like I did the first couple of weeks!  That was just horrible!! But, I'm hanging in there and plugging along, just like the little engine that could....HAHAHA!!!!😁

1 hour ago, Brioski said:

Hey Sandi, 

I would say totally normal too, but I’m still a newbie here too lol.  At almost five months I have urges still, just this morning actually. I like how you put it….we should be in “advanced” mode 😂. I bet when we reach it we won’t even realize it bc we’ll be cruising in our smoke free life ❤️  How are you feeling today?

Thanks Brioski, I am feeling better today.  The urges come and go very fast thankfully.  You are doing great too!!!😃

9 hours ago, Sandi149 said:

Yes, definitely a year of firsts....it's similar to losing an old friend because smoking was with us day in and day out for so many years.  I'm glad I don't get the cravings all the time like I did the first couple of weeks!  That was just horrible!! But, I'm hanging in there and plugging along, just like the little engine that could....HAHAHA!!!!😁

I hear you..an "old friend" for sure. So comforting but who wholeheartedly wanted us to die a slow and uncomfortable death! 

You're doing amazing Sandi!

1 hour ago, robin0212 said:

I hear you..an "old friend" for sure. So comforting but who wholeheartedly wanted us to die a slow and uncomfortable death! 

You're doing amazing Sandi!

Thank you Robin!  You are doing amazing as well.  Hey, we all started somewhere and we all had a "first quit day"!

 

I remember when I was down to my last cigarette....I took the pack and gave it a kiss and said, "goodbye my old friend, I am going to miss you"!  A non smoker would probably say that I'm crazy for kissing a cigarette box and talking to it, but I know all my ex-smoker friends on this board will totally understand.  So that is why I'm not ashamed to say it, but I am so happy to be quit now!!! 😁

@Sandi149 You must be crazy for kissing a cigarette box and talking to it 😁

Edited July 14, 20233 yr by overcome

3 minutes ago, overcome said:

@Sandi149 You must be crazy for kissing a cigarette box and talking to it 😁

HAHA!!!!  Yeah, I am crazy!!! LOL!!!!😁🤣

33 minutes ago, Sandi149 said:

Thank you Robin!  You are doing amazing as well.  Hey, we all started somewhere and we all had a "first quit day"!

 

I remember when I was down to my last cigarette....I took the pack and gave it a kiss and said, "goodbye my old friend, I am going to miss you"!  A non smoker would probably say that I'm crazy for kissing a cigarette box and talking to it, but I know all my ex-smoker friends on this board will totally understand.  So that is why I'm not ashamed to say it, but I am so happy to be quit now!!! 😁

As a newbie I'd say I'm crazy then because I still kind of miss that friend ugh!!!