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Marti, anyone who does anything outside the norm will encounter derision, fear and resistance. If you believe in what you are doing and it feels "right" to you, keep doing it and keep talking about it. Slowly but surely you will connect with a circle of people who do (or who come to) agree with you and appreciate your talents. Nurture those relationships. The best thing about getting older is that you become more comfortable in your own skin and stop caring what other people think. And, man, is that a blessing! Yes, it would be nice if the whole world (or at least a big chunk of it) came to understand and appreciate your gifts. But that's not going to happen. However, as you gain in wisdom you will find yourself shrugging your shoulders and ignoring the nay-sayers and embracing those people you connect with. Notice and enjoy how you are changing and growing in that regard. And speaking of changing and growing, If you are channeling energy and healing, I can't imagine how much more effective you are now that you don't smoke! When you smoked, you were poisoning your own body and mind all day every day. Your energy currents must have been totally screwed up. Now your body and mind are healing. That must make a heck of a difference to your effectiveness! Tell us how that is going for you.

Paul you are so right, I was advised not tell anyone I was planning to give up and I managed that. I think I just got over excited hitting the one month bench mark and wanted to shout it out! But as you all have wisely said; this is a personal journey and as long as I know what I've achieved then that's all that matters. I am going to be humble and be proud!

Just a bad day, not a bad life. My "go to" saying when things feel hard. Thank you for the thoughts. x

Jules- Congrats ! Outside of whatever support groups or tools we use, I believe there is something spiritual and humble (not pious) about keeping goals to ourselves. I have to ask myself, what's my motive behind letting this one or that one know? I have all of you , my personal Higher Power and a dear friend or two and a huge bag of tools to use. That's enough for me, I don't want a bleacher full of onlookers. I blew a two year quit because I couldn't get that "inner" resolve. It's all an inside job, but true friends can be there, too. Just my slant...everyone's quit is different. All My Best, Paul

Never give up.....don't wait for the scary health risks.... I was faced with having my both feet amputated..... Jump right back on.....I didn't think it would happen to me either.... If I can quit ....you can....I promise.....

I agree. You don't need strength. You just need time. You get through some how day by day unitl the craves die down,

Hey, I just saw this. Before you give up (and I am not trying to sound harsh, but this is your very life we are talking about) please read every article you can get yours hands on. This thread is a great place to start, if you have read it all, read it again please http://www.quittrain.com/topic/11-how-do-i-quit-smoking-the-newbie-database/ Please don't give up! Strength has NOTHING to do with it, I am not strong at all. If I can do this, I promise you can too. Nothing's done that can't be undone yet. You can still do this.