Let's get this out there Gabby, smoking will not fix anything

When I have problems, in my head I think back to what Allen Carr said, (paraphrasing) 'ok you've got a problem, fix it if you can, if you can't, move on.  If you've got a problem and you smoke, well, now you have 2 problems.' 

 

If you start smoking again over a problem it will never, ever, solve it.  It will only add a HUGE problem to the one you already have.  And then all the problems that come with being a smoker come back, and my gosh, now you really have problems.

 

Stress rules so many people's lives, and it is indeed something to be dealt with, but smoking makes everything even worse.

Ummm... Who's SOS is this, Gabby's?

 

I guess maybe I missed something!

Yes

She updated her status

Gabby, messaged you.  Some days are tough chick. Smoking never fixed a damn thing. It only gives us a new health hazardous problem.Aww baby girl. Just breath through it. You'll be cool. xx

Gabby gabby gabby!!!

 

Talk us through your situation hun, are you stressed, tired, socialising, drinking, just romancing???

 

Please post and work it out, if too personal PM me or anyone I have been where you are right now, it sucks butt for sure but you can and will get through it

 

Vent,scream, kick something or someone ;)

 

Come on gabby hold on to that beautiful 5+ months xx

Oh, Gabby!  You don't want to throw away your over 5 month quit!!   You know it will not fix anything...just wait it out, the feeling will pass.  (((Gabby)))

Gabby, I see you say that you want 'a smoke so bad'

 

Well, there is no such thing as 'a smoke'... There is one smoke, followed by a second smoke, then a third, a pack, a carton, and EVERYTHING bad that comes with it... You get the idea. The only thing smoking a cigarette will do is make you want to smoke ANOTHER cigarette! It will not make you feel better in the slightest! I know that you already know this, but it's good to get a reminder sometimes :)

 

Please can you tell us what is wrong Gabby? Maybe sharing will help?

 

Come on Gabby, you can do it!

Its so hard today, I just want everything to go away.  My expartner Bob's dad is being so mean to him.  And I can't stand watching him do it to him

He gives him everything in the way of what money can buy and then says horrible degrading things, I've asked him to cut him off, but he says dad's been so good to me.  He is starting to take panic attacks when his father rings.  He is right in the middle of his exams and his father does the same thing every year. If he's angry at me he starts on him, because he can't affect me anymore.  

Ah Gabby, you can't fix the world my love, nor can you stop a child (no matter how old) looking after an ungrateful parent (trust me, I am experienced!!!).  Bob will cope just fine and he won't appreciate being the reason you threw yourself off the proverbial cliff, DON't DO IT!!

 

It's what, 11am there. Go and walk this shit off Gabby. You have an example to set if nothing else. More then that, I adore you and your quit. I know how hard you fought for this, I helped in the early days and smoking is just so pants mate. No matter our addiction side, we know it just sucks to be "that" smoker and we are setting an example etc.

 

Hold on baby girl!! x

Its so hard today, I just want everything to go away.  My expartner Bob's dad is being so mean to him.  And I can't stand watching him do it to him

Oh Gabby... You poor thing. But you know that smoking will not make any of that better!

Hey Gabby, sounds crap.

 

Smoking will not help at all.

 

Hold tight Gabby, you can get through this.

Gabby, I just bumped a thread for you in the Quit Smoking Discussions forum...

Thank You Nancy

Gabby,

Im sorry I've only just seen this...

Smoking won't change anything sweetheart....it won't suddenly make that guy a different person....

If you smoke he's won....he's ruled your life.....

You have a wonderful quit....you know you would be angry with yourself....

It's took me a long time to understand...smoking won't make things better ...only worse...

Stay strong...

Keep posting .....

Hugs xxx

It's ok I know smoking won't change anything I've been down the relapse road too many times.  Thank you for picking up how really close I came to smoking.   I will be ok now.  I won't smoke I promise.

Brilliant gabby......your quit is to precious to just throw it away.....

I'm so happy .....you are feeling ...in a better place.....

Please keep posting ....it does help to let your feelings out.....we have heard it all.....

Xxxxx

I am going to have a cup of tea and go and mess around in the garden for a while and do other things to take my mind off things. 

 

Once again thank you so much :unsure:

Ata girl gabby, your father in law sounds a real duche bag, the way is for your hubby to do well in his exams and for you to quit, the pair of you will have so much pride and confidence some people even parents are afraid of change and can get jealous. It not how it's supposed to be but it is what it is, my mum puts me down at every opportunity, took me years to figure it out.

 

A such a is a duche but you are a beautiful non smoker, with guts, take deep breaths find your gusto and say to yourself right I got this! You mf :)

 

Xx

Tracey

 

Bobby is my son and it's his own father doing it to him.  If it was the father inlaw I would just tell him to piss off.  He father is just a F$#k wit.

 

Sometimes I don't make myself clear sorry

Ahhh I see sorry well he is a double duche bag!! Bobby is lucky to have you hun xx

Ps start a thread in the basement then we can really say what we think of him ;)

Bobby, your son will cope just fine Gabby, as will you. Parents...sometimes they are a tough breed hey!!  It's all about balance babe, be the normal and he will do just fine. x