On 10/19/2024 at 12:10 PM, notsmokinjo said:

@Gus .. sorry you're dealing with this. Not much i can do from down here but srnding prsyers and energy that you get the help you need soon and your back home. 🫂

 

in the big scheme of things my current hardship is nothing. Dealing with the kid having an emotional crisis has never been a strong point. Not being able to fix her problems always makes me feel like I'm failing.

My kids best friend at TAFE is a missing person, has been for over 3 weeks. His family didn't report it for 2 weeks. The kid has had to deal with police questioning on her own (18 now) and it's been a tough week. So many hours at night searching for him in the hopes she can flush him out or trying to convince her its not because she missed a sign or clue. Mental health sucks people, ask your mates R U OK? And be there to listen if they need.

 

But in a week full of way more downs than ups my little niece miss3 told me her new knock mock joke..

Knock knock

Who's there?

Imabig and itsa

Imabig and itsa who?

I'm a big sister and it's a boy!

So after 2.5 years of ivf baby #2 is on his way. And so the cycle of life continues.

 

 

Hi @notsmokinjo.... has  your kids best friend been found? Hoping for the very best outcome. Kind Regards, Gene

On 10/27/2024 at 5:39 PM, Gus said:

Update: I got the $750 FEMA was issuing to practically everyone affected by Helene. Yesterday, I received an additional $1800 to get the tree off of my house. I still have so many trees that need to be cleaned up. I’m considering applying for an SBA loan also to help take care of this. I’m short on time and just really don’t know a lot about it. I figured I would apply and see what they offer. I can always decline. I just WANT and NEED to go home. Thanks everyone for the kind words. This has been such a slow process with hardly any progress. 

Happy to hear that you are receving some FEMA help @Gus and hoping you can get home soon. 

Edited October 31, 20241 yr by Genecanuck

15 hours ago, Doreensfree said:

Last week with my Nicky , 

I'm thinking  a group Hug is needed ❤️

 

Hugs @Doreensfree

 

Good morning everyone,

 

Sometimes I overthink things. Today, just going to take things one minute, one hour and day at a time and trust that things will all work out.

 

Have a fantastic day everyone.

 

Gene

 

Good morning and Happy Friday to everyone.

 

I am doing ok. Grateful it is Friday today.

 

Not sure where I would put this post so Doreen or Jill please move it, if it doesn't go in this section.

 

Anyway, I wanted to mention something good that happened last night.  Last night my husband and I went out for dinner and on our way out to go home there were people smoking in front of the restaurant.  I didn't really notice, but my husband did and he said to me, look at those people smoking.  I turned and looked, and said, yup that used to be us but it isn't anymore. 😃 I didn't even notice them smoking so that is really good. But, I sure do remember those days standing out in the cold or rainy weather smoking.  I'm so glad I don't do that anymore!!💪👍  After I eat I don't think about smoking, which is great because I think my after dinner cig used to be my favorite.

 

I hope everyone is having a great Sunday! 😁

Great post QG 

Sorry we carnt move it to the Main Board

which is where I think it should have been 

It’s been great following your journey 

Well done 🐸

 

8 hours ago, QuittingGirl said:

Not sure where I would put this post so Doreen or Jill please move it, if it doesn't go in this section.

 

Anyway, I wanted to mention something good that happened last night.  Last night my husband and I went out for dinner and on our way out to go home there were people smoking in front of the restaurant.  I didn't really notice, but my husband did and he said to me, look at those people smoking.  I turned and looked, and said, yup that used to be us but it isn't anymore. 😃 I didn't even notice them smoking so that is really good. But, I sure do remember those days standing out in the cold or rainy weather smoking.  I'm so glad I don't do that anymore!!💪👍  After I eat I don't think about smoking, which is great because I think my after dinner cig used to be my favorite.

 

I hope everyone is having a great Sunday! 😁

 

That's what we all notice sooner or later. That sense of Freedom! No longer controlled by our addiction to nicotine! It's the most valued thing I've gained from quitting, as I suspect may be the case for many! 

 

Under stressful situations, after completing a task, or a seasonal trigger ... we no longer have to worry about lighting up in those situations. It's just no longer a part of our lives!

4 hours ago, Doreensfree said:

Great post QG 

Sorry we carnt move it to the Main Board

which is where I think it should have been 

It’s been great following your journey 

Well done 🐸

 

Thanks!! 😃

 

 

I thought it should be on the main board too but didn't know where I should put it, and I didn't think I should have started a separate thread.

 

 

1 hour ago, QuittingGirl said:

too but didn't know where I should put it, and I didn't think I should have started a separate thread.

You should absolutely start a separate thread on the main board quittingGirl so others newly quit can see it really does get so much better!

17 hours ago, QuittingGirl said:

Not sure where I would put this post so Doreen or Jill please move it, if it doesn't go in this section.

 

Anyway, I wanted to mention something good that happened last night.  Last night my husband and I went out for dinner and on our way out to go home there were people smoking in front of the restaurant.  I didn't really notice, but my husband did and he said to me, look at those people smoking.  I turned and looked, and said, yup that used to be us but it isn't anymore. 😃 I didn't even notice them smoking so that is really good. But, I sure do remember those days standing out in the cold or rainy weather smoking.  I'm so glad I don't do that anymore!!💪👍  After I eat I don't think about smoking, which is great because I think my after dinner cig used to be my favorite.

 

I hope everyone is having a great Sunday! 😁

Awesome @QuittingGirl... thank you for sharing 

Good morning,

 

I have been feeling... off... not sure what is going on with me emotionally. Just had lots of change this year. Death of former partner, re-location, new job, and a new relationship. Life feels a bit surreal with lots of loss and change.

 

I will be ok. 

 

Cheers,

Gene

 

 

Hi, Gene. It sounds like you are coping with a lot. 

 

A similar thing happened to me early in my own quit: I got slammed by multiple deaths in my family over a short time span. Plus there are the losses of quitting smoking, too. Despite how terrible smoking is and my deep ambivalence toward it, I still missed it and felt deeply unmoored and sad through the first several months of my quit. So I went through a grieving process about that, too. 

 

It was a new experience to go thru hard times without the crutch of smoking to emotionally withdraw or pickle my feelings. But it got better. I suppose that coping with feelings more directly is part of the healing and recovery process as we become nonsmokers. 

 

In any case, hang in there! Sending hugs your way. 

 

 

22 hours ago, DenaliBlues said:

Hi, Gene. It sounds like you are coping with a lot. 

 

A similar thing happened to me early in my own quit: I got slammed by multiple deaths in my family over a short time span. Plus there are the losses of quitting smoking, too. Despite how terrible smoking is and my deep ambivalence toward it, I still missed it and felt deeply unmoored and sad through the first several months of my quit. So I went through a grieving process about that, too. 

 

It was a new experience to go thru hard times without the crutch of smoking to emotionally withdraw or pickle my feelings. But it got better. I suppose that coping with feelings more directly is part of the healing and recovery process as we become nonsmokers. 

 

In any case, hang in there! Sending hugs your way. 

 

 

Thank you @DenaliBlues I appreciate your kind words.