February 11, 20215 yr I am struggling this am and think I need to back away from the forum for now. The group has been so supportive and shared their journey with me , but I need to deal with what is going on with the issue with me. Need to figure this out. Thank you all
February 11, 20215 yr So Sorry you are struggling, you do what you need to do to sort your problems out. We will be here when you need us. Take care and hope you come back soon.
February 11, 20215 yr I'm sorry you feel you need to back away @Linda, especially during these first few months quit. I hope that you will come back on if you're feeling like you may cave to a crave. Take care and I wish you the best 🤗
February 11, 20215 yr The early days can be tough ... I was the opposite ...I needed to be here 24/7.... We will be here ,if and when you need us Linda .... Stay well ...
February 11, 20215 yr Sorry, it sounds like you are trying to give yourself permission to smoke. Why leave your support group?
February 11, 20215 yr Author 9 minutes ago, Nancy said: Sorry, it sounds like you are trying to give yourself permission to smoke. Why leave your support group? Maybe not sure what I'm doing
February 11, 20215 yr Ask yourself Linda ... Are you strong enough to go it alone ... Over the years ,we have seen those who stayed close to the board ...are the ones most likely to quit forever . Only you can make that decision.... We can only give you the tools to work with .... Give it some thought Linda ....smoking kills ...this is your life were talking about ...
February 11, 20215 yr @Linda, you have the hardest month of all done. If you give in now you will be back at square one and have to do those horrible weeks all over again! Why would you keep doing that to yourself?!
February 11, 20215 yr Author I don't have the answer Jill, not sure where my head is today quite sure not where it should be
February 11, 20215 yr You're just having a bad day Linda, don't lose a month long quit because of one bad day! You REALLY need to trust us when we tell you it will be better, so much better soon enough.....
February 11, 20215 yr Jill is right Linda ....if you lose your wonderful quit ...you,ll only wish you were back where you are today .. FREE. Your body is going through some massive changes ...of course your all over the place ... We have all been where you are .... The only way it gets better...is sticking and working at it .... I'm sure you have said many a time ...I wish I was free .....you are ....All you need to do is stay free...
February 11, 20215 yr @Linda, one more thing-smoking won't make your day any better AND if you pride yourself on keeping your word like I do then you can't smoke today because you NOPED! 🤗
February 11, 20215 yr Your focus seems to be how miserable you feel. You should really be focusing on how much you want this. Hopefully you want it enough to get past any temporary hardship or discomfort.
February 11, 20215 yr Author 25 minutes ago, BKP said: Your focus seems to be how miserable you feel. You should really be focusing on how much you want this. Hopefully you want it enough to get past any temporary hardship or discomfort. Maybe your quitting experience was not miserable, good for you that it might not have been.But as far as hardships and discomfort you have no idea what mine are.
February 11, 20215 yr Author 2 hours ago, jillar said: @Linda, one more thing-smoking won't make your day any better AND if you pride yourself on keeping your word like I do then you can't smoke today because you NOPED! 🤗 Ok Jillar you have ME there I did NOPE FOR TODAY
February 12, 20215 yr 2 hours ago, Linda said: Maybe your quitting experience was not miserable, good for you that it might not have been.But as far as hardships and discomfort you have no idea what mine are. I can assure you that quitting was one of the most difficult things I've ever done and it was often miserable. I smoked for 39 years and was as addicted as anyone else on the planet. I was simply suggesting that you try rechanneling some the negative feelings you're having into all the benefits that will come from reaching your goal of a smoke free life. As far as hardships and discomfort go, you post every day how you're having a tough time. That's all I'm referring to. I actually wish you only success. Edited February 12, 20215 yr by BKP
February 12, 20215 yr @Linda, I agree that if you only focus on the negatives in life then you miss out on all the positives 🤗 And we can all attest to the fact that its easy to got caught up in the misery of those first days/weeks/months. But I tell you from being here for four years that the people who embraced the suck had a wayyyyyyyyy easier quit then those of us who didn't......🤗
February 12, 20215 yr Author 19 minutes ago, jillar said: @Linda, I agree that if you only focus on the negatives in life then you miss out on all the positives 🤗 And we can all attest to the fact that its easy to got caught up in the misery of those first days/weeks/months. But I tell you from being here for four years that the people who embraced the suck had a wayyyyyyyyy easier quit then those of us who didn't..... 46 minutes ago, BKP said: I can assure you that quitting was one of the most difficult things I've ever done and it was often miserable. I smoked for 39 years and was as addicted as anyone else on the planet. I was simply suggesting that you try rechanneling some the negative feelings you're having into all the benefits that will come from reaching your goal of a smoke free life. As far as hardships and discomfort go, you post every day how you're having a tough time. That's all I'm referring to. I actually wish you only success. Ok now that just irritating ,because I thought this was a place to share the struggles I guess I was wrong
February 12, 20215 yr Oh Linda, you're taking our posts all wrong. Of course this is a safe place to share your struggles. We're just trying to help you see the positives too. Please don't take it the wrong way 🤗
February 12, 20215 yr Author 2 minutes ago, jillar said: Oh Linda, you're taking our posts all wrong. Of course this is a safe place to share your struggles. We're just trying to help you see the positives too. Please don't take it the wrong way 🤗 Well after BkP comments about posting daily I'm not quite sure about that I have positive in my life has nothing to do with smoking
February 12, 20215 yr Author 1 hour ago, BKP said: I can assure you that quitting was one of the most difficult things I've ever done and it was often miserable. I smoked for 39 years and was as addicted as anyone else on the planet. I was simply suggesting that you try rechanneling some the negative feelings you're having into all the benefits that will come from reaching your goal of a smoke free life. As far as hardships and discomfort go, you post every day how you're having a tough time. That's all I'm referring to. I actually wish you only success. I thought this was the place to share my struggles with the quitting process. Evidently I was wrong. The positive in my life has nothing to do with quitting smoking
February 12, 20215 yr Yea I know. That's why we try to help you see the positives. Especially in the early quit because I also just saw all the negative and was pissy because other people "could" smoke and I couldn't. And I also took posts to me wrong. I remember telling one guy, who later became good friends, not to post on my threads anymore and I wouldn't post on his lol.
February 12, 20215 yr Author 3 minutes ago, jillar said: Yea I know. That's why we try to help you see the positives. Especially in the early quit because I also just saw all the negative and was pissy because other people "could" smoke and I couldn't. And I also took posts to me wrong. I remember telling one guy, who later became good friends, not to post on my threads anymore and I wouldn't post on his lol. Well all this is just pissing me off, there is not anything positive about not smoking for me right now and I don't think I would be comfortable posting my struggles so I don't see the point if not. Sorry
February 12, 20215 yr We always say take what you want and leave the rest. Everyone here is here to support each other, some with more tougher love than others. Hopefully soon you'll be able to start seeing some benefits of quitting. In the mean time we do have an ignore feature if you don't want to see someone's posts
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