Still winning

Firstly, hugs tracey, tough times for sure. Yes you will survive it, yes it will make you stronger, no you won't smoke - sometimes people are just tougher than even they believe, you are one of those people. I wouldn't dare try and guide, you make your own life decisions and absolutely right too. I will say this though, once the guilt and grief is over the sheer relief from walking away from a toxic relationship is immense. Hang onto that through the grief. xx

Fantastic 5!! Massive congrats. x

brilliant news laura, really made me smile to read this :) xx

Massive congrats for your two month mark MHK. Be good to hear how yourdoing but pleased you still use the board whether you post or not :) xx

Massive congrats to Jake who now has his first quarter in the bag!! xx

I am sorry you had to face a crave like that. If it helps I like to think those bigger weird craves are the last hold of that trigger - if I imagine it as a battle it can help. Drinking makes things harder too. Pleased for you that your quit is intact. x

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Aww this has made me smile :) Fabulous work mrs. May your orchids grow beautifully too! Pretty plants. x

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Why can't people just run there own f*cking life and leave me the hell alone. I also do not want to be owned by sodding captain caveman. Meh need a deserted ******* island to just get some space!!

Morning Sin, Today looks like a brilliant day to quit :) I think educating yourself is key. Now not only do I not want to smoke, I would be pretty fearful health wise to do it again. The addiction of nicotine clouds our view. It helped to know that those cravings would pass and it wouldn't always feel so intense if I just held on... These guys here said the following things that I kinda repeated like a mantra when the cravings came NOPE - not one puff ever (just for today). That bracket bit was important. I couldn't quit smoking, that felt huge, but I could not smoke for one day. The only rule is don't put something in your mouth and set fire to it. This still makes me smile, the simplicity stuck, it seemed crazy to light things on fire near your face with chemicals involved when I thought about it. Smoking is not on the table. If I knew smokes were not going to answer the question, I had to set about finding new things and better habits to replace the smoke breaks with. I would not presume to tell you how to quit, ie e cig cold turkey etc. I think a lot of folks get hung up on this. I tried all of them if it helps to know ;) What works is educating yourself, especially if health fear is your starting motivator. Play on that, you are basically going to trick your own brain until it catches up with the NEED to be heathier now. Read the newbie pinned stuff. whyquit.com gave me some powerful ammunition. Keep talking and posting too. For a lot of us the change and success is because there were others with answers and empathy willing us forward. xx

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Sending positive thoughts for you both. x

Jackie, our babies hurt push all the buttons! No matter what age! You did it without the crazy focus that would take us away from them. Game on! Hope your lad is ok Jax. x

great post action. A quit buddy keeps us sane, although not sure some poor geezer who listens to me ramble inanely would agree lol. But I absolutly will not let him smoke, or he me. So all is well in the world. My 2nd quit buddy I can't help and it breaks my heart :( I get it. Please quit guests, we genuinely care and will do all we can. xx

I am not scared to die, I have looked at it so I know. But.... I am scared to miss things from my girls. Your post rings my bell so to speak. My Nan, emysema. My Uncle (like a dad) lung cancer. My mum, already has copd. I had cervical cancer and am not risking anything more. We will stand together for those we love :) No more!! Nope. xx

Sue, calling all irish beauties!! x

My little one has an illness that makes her immune system not work as well. She is sick again at the moment (on the mend, not a bad one) and she always wants to sit and cuddle. I remember getting hyper stressed when I was a smoker as I needed to calm her and get away for my fix. Now it helps I can just sit and relax whilst comforting her. That's my biggest win I think. Going to stay in a flash hotel this weekend for a wedding. Won't have to leave the event or the room to go outside and have a smoke, that will be lovely!!

Happy 1st quarter Lace :) Massive congrats to you. x

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Aww Gabby, pleased you are hanging in there. Be feeling better very soon now honey. xx

you already have one week, you did that yourself!! You deserve this freedom and this feeling you have now - it will pass! It always passes and then you have kept your freedom. Click, shuffle your feet, sing, listen to music, talk, post, cry, whatever it takes to make it past. I always mopped the floor if that helps, it was really clean for weeks! Keep going Evelyn. You are already doing it, just hold on!!

Massive congrats on 3 months, amazing achievement Aine. x

That's mean that they offered you a cig, or do they not know you quit? Can you tell them not to offer you as it would make it harder I think? Congrats on saying no.

Aha, well I love you all over again then - I'm fickle like that haha.