Found this Daily Om in the archives and had to share....relates to addictions of all kinds...

 

Enduring Discomfort
Missing Our Old Habits

Whenever we make the effort to free ourselves of an addiction or a habit we no longer need, we are often surprised to find ourselves missing the old pattern as we would a familiar friend. This sounds counterintuitive, because we think we should instinctively gravitate toward what is good for us. Yet, it makes a lot of sense when you consider that we humans are creatures of habit. This is why we gravitate to people and places—and patterns of behavior—that make us feel comfortable. Therefore, many of the habits we form are not conscious and are based instead on learned behavior from role models who were not always making the healthiest decisions.

Most addictions begin as a way of avoiding feelings that are extremely uncomfortable, so it makes sense that stopping the addiction means a fair amount of discomfort for a time. The same is also true of habits that we have developed over time that we are ready to release. Just knowing that this is hard, and having compassion for ourselves as we work through this process, can help us to stay the course when we feel the urge to backtrack. It’s also helpful to remember that in time we will establish new, healthier patterns, and the yearning for the old ones will disappear. Eventually, we will instinctively reach for things that are good for us, and the longing for positive change may form the basis of a new habit.

The only way to get to this new place is to endure a time of difficulty, which is a challenge we can confidently handle, if we remember that it will lead to the change we seek in our lives. Our bodies, hearts, and minds always need time to adjust to a new way of doing things, but they will adapt, and even become our allies, if we remain true to our vision of a new way.

 

http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2008/12412.html

 

 

Just in time Jersey Girl,, I needed that-    I,m "watching" smokers now,, all my guys smoke- dang,, in the morning.. everybody's got one going,, but me.

 

No I dont want one- it stinks,, yukk,,     I,m learning to not  "miss my old habit" right now- the article is real pertinent,

 

Hope your well,

RC

Thought this might relate to holding in a fart in church

Thought this might relate to holding in a fart in church

omg I can't believe you said that. I was just out with friends tonight and I said "that will go over Iike a fart in church". He looked at me like I had 3 heads. He never heard that expression before. too funny

Enduring discomfort is *The KEY* to everything. EVERYTHING.

 

The more you can Embrace The Suck and drive on ... the better off you are in almost everything in life, right?

 

Job. Diet. Exercise. Quitting. Relationships. School. Family...

 

Almost anything you can think of, the more discomfort you can cope with, the better off and that much farther you'll be ahead of everyone else.

 

Learn to Embrace The Suck. Endure the discomfort. It puts you waaaaay ahead of everyone else.

In everything.

 

 

Easy Peasy

Enduring discomfort is *The KEY* to everything. EVERYTHING.

 

The more you can Embrace The Suck and drive on ... the better off you are in almost everything in life, right?

 

Job. Diet. Exercise. Quitting. Relationships. School. Family...

 

Almost anything you can think of, the more discomfort you can cope with, the better off and that much farther you'll be ahead of everyone else.

 

Learn to Embrace The Suck. Endure the discomfort. It puts you waaaaay ahead of everyone else.

In everything.

 

 

Easy Peasy

 

Good Lord, no!

 

I mean, yes, you should embrace the suck when you quit smoking, but that's because it's TEMPORARY. The same way that when you fall asleep on your arm, you should accept the pins and needles that comes with waking it up again - because the sooner the pain starts, the sooner it will stop again. But seriously, no one who's quitting should believe that they're being asked to embrace a lifetime of unrelenting suck! How awful. You must embrace limited suck, so that you might surpass the limit, and emerge suck-free into a new and better existence.

 

If your relationships, family, or life in general require you to submit to an eternity of unrelenting suck, you need to take that left turn at Albuquerque.

Good oldie