Saw two respected people get a little touchy here. The other place got full of that and went bad for multiple reasons. But it all started with someone typing something that someone else didn't like. Want to give a reminder not to be so serious or get hurt too easy, because it might not be what the poster was trying to say and maybe it was misinterpreted in the translation. I am not referring to the Islanders jiberish either. I mean something can be read more than one way. And something can be posted back only looking at it one way, then a tone is set. That tone will then continue to grow or fester.
This can happen at home, work or with friends, but happens on boards a lot. People feel insulted by someone disagreeing with them. Since it was written it has to be "stuck to" and opinions cant be changed. Bullshit. I will say it again. Its Bullshit. We are not published writers in a book. We are people hiding in basements with cat pictures on the wall and nobody cares what we wrote a few days later. Nobody but the people we insult in here. Then the festering starts
Pay attension everyone on the little bus...this is the main point and reason....
Emails, notes and threads on boards are the cause of reactions because they only contain the verbal part of communications. When speaking to someone in person, 75 percent of the meaning can be found in non-verbal parts including gestures, tone, volume, eye contact and body positioning. 75 percent is missing in here
I find that reading something that gets my temperature up I should not post for at least an hour. Sometimes half a day, other times no response at all. Or I try to picture the person yelling it with arms crossed and then picture it with someone like Nancy saying it with a warm heart. Can it be read differently? Probably. SO if I am not sure, no comment or I make a joke on it, to lighten the load.
We are a team, so act like it and give the other person a chance to be mistaken without pointing it out. Or you, yourself, might be mistaken as to the real meaning. So don't lash out. Enjoy the conversation and the different points of view.
Except for cat avatars- they are the only exception to this rule and the board should take every opportunity to point out the flaw.
I am bakon and not to be taken serious, ever.
I typed this slow, so everyone would read it slow and get the meaning right the first time. But read it twice, to practice reading the emotional/argumentive post twice and find another meaning.