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Owning Your Relapse


jillar

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jillar

Quit Date: May 29, 2016

 

Posted June 19, 2020 

 

Over my four years of being on support forums I've seen a few people who just couldn't seem to get their sticky quit the first time. They start so gung-ho and post daily getting and even offering support from and to fellow quitters. Then one day they are gone...……..

When they resurface it's usually with tail between their legs hoping for the same support they received before they relapsed. And with the exception of some tough love, because some people just need that, they get the same level of support as they got the first time. We get it, quitting is hard for a lot of us and it sucks.

Some even make new accounts out of embarrassment of their failed quits thinking too that perhaps a new account will help them get their forever quit. The problem with this is two-fold. One, you MUST OWN YOUR RELAPSE. It's the only way you can look back and see what you can do differently to help get your sticky quit. Two, it's not fair to the members who welcome you as a new quitter instead of who you are. 

You see the support you are going to be offered as a relapser compared to as a new quitter is quite different. Yes, we may get short at times but it's only because we care and don't want to see anyone have to continually put themselves through the hardest first few weeks of quitting over and over again. Yes, it may be embarrassing but we can offer you tips and clues based on our own relapses or on how we saved our quits from a relapse.

There is nothing better for me than to see a chronic relapser finally get their forever quit. So own your relapse, come back on and lets get this done!

 

Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/14023-owning-your-relapse/

 

 

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Thank you @jillar... this is an importnat message for me. Yes, I was a serial quitter in the past and then I became a serial nicotine patch user.

 

I am not making any grandiose statments about where I am going but I want this to be my forever quit - nicotine free. And I I will do this one day at a time.

 

Awesome post. 

 

Thank you.

 

Gene

 

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