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Yes! It will pass Betterbreathing! It's actually pretty common to have a rough patch right around the 3 month mark. It's kind of a weird time. The early days of quitting are behind you and all that excitement  from the early battles is over but you're not completely on solid ground yet with your quit and, you think you should be by now. Time to double down on your resolve to protect that quit you have nurtured for so long now. Remember the reasons you wanted to quit for. Focus on all the benefits you've seen since quitting. Spend time here around other quitters for support. You're entering stage two of your quit. You may need a hand up here and there. Plenty of peeps here to do that for you :) 

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Hi Matt, yes it will pass I promise you that so hang tight and good on you for posting and getting it off your chest. What you're experiencing is what we call No Man's Land. A lot of us go through it and there's an excellent post here about it https://www.quittrain.com/topic/10000-no-mans-land/

 

Stick close and let's get you past this hurdle 😊

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Thank you so much guys. I will never give in but it helps to know others understand! I want to be here for others too and despite being a grown man I am almost crying! Nicotine is a poison I am going to fight all the way. Lets make sure it never gets us again!

By the way this facility where people can come if they need sos is amazing. Lets do this together

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Yes, we do have an amazing place here filled with members from all over the world and in all phases of their quit. And as we all know, no one knows better than former smokers just what we go through when quitting so for me the support was invaluable. 😊

Stick close, read or watch videos about our addiction or if you just want to give your mind a break from the constant thoughts of smoking, head over to our Social forum. Lots of different things to do there 😊

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A lot of us have been at the same place you are at currently, Matt.  Believe us, it does get better.  Stay focused on not taking another puff. 

 

Nicotine addiction is both physical and mental.  The physical part ends fairly quickly (usually the first three days....they are tough but doable). 

 

The mental part can cause you to struggle longer, though.  I didn't see how long you had been a smoker but I assume it was for a number of years (like a lot of us).  It takes a while to get the mental part out of your head.  Smoking was a routine, a crutch, etc.  Over time, you grow more used to being smoke free, mentally, but smoking thoughts and craves sometimes pop out of nowhere during this "no man's land" time.

 

Keep going strong.  I know it is frustrating but it does get better.

 

It may not feel like it but at 95 days nicotine free is great.  Keep up the great work.

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It can be a tough road at times for quite awhile in different ways as we struggle to adjust to our new lifestyle but your are well on your way to becoming comfortably free of your addiction. Carry on! It's manageable now but a bit of a slog at times. It will continue to get better just as it has these past 3 months. As long as you adhere to NOPE, it will always continue to get better!!

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This too will pass.  Your addiction will always be there and moments of weakness do happen occassionally!  You have made it this far and are strong enough to keep going!  Take a deep breath and concentrate on how your body is healing.   

Wow Betterbreathing, 95 days is awesome.   Keep that wonderful quit going!!!!! 

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It really will pass. Try to focus on the fact that you likely are (or soon will be) breathing better as your name says, rather than romanticizing an alternate universe where you are killing yourself. 95 days is great! Keep the Quit!

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One of my favourite slogans .....

It's Ok to Wobble ....Just don't Fall Over ....

 

You smoked for a long time ....your brain has to get used to the idea ...your a fabulous Non Smoker ...

Remind yourself ...just how amazing you are ....your kicking Nicotine,s Butt.....

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Stay strong BB You are at a time when the Nicodemon is whining heavily! Pay it no attention. Cry , scream, shout it down and it WILL go away with its tail between its legs.

 stay determined, much better times are ahead.

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