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  1. So I'm nearing 9 months quit and I don't really even feel excited. 

     

    Don't get me wrong I love being a non smoker but it's draining. I have spent the best part of a year concentrating on quitting and I can't help but wonder when I'm going to feel normal again. 

     

    I want my life back. I want to spend a whole day where the fact that I'm quitting doesn't pop in my head. I'm bored of it but I can't imagine lighting a cigarette now. 

     

    I rarely post on here because everyone seems so positive about their quit and I don't want to be the only one who isn't but I need to get it out.

     

     

     

     

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  2. I rewarded myself a lot for the first three months. I used to pick things that I wanted and it distracted me from counting my quit time. I started waiting for my gifts rather than the months quit anniversary which made time speed up. 

     

    If I had a particularly bad time I would buy my reward and leave it in view. Then I'd tell myself if I smoked I'd have to take it back and not have it. Somehow it got me through. 

     

    Writing that out I realise how stupid it sounds :)

     

     

     

  3. On 12/7/2019 at 12:22 AM, BKP said:

    When you were still a smoker, how long, after you put a cigarette out, did it take for you to start jonesing for another?  For me, it was about 20-30 minutes.  What a crappy way to live life.  Always anxious about the next fix.

     

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    I smoked more or less when I wanted so never felt desperation until I quit. So for me the jonesing thing only kicked in as a non smoker. 

     

    I like being a non smoker just waiting for my brain to catch up.

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  4. Welcome Dylan. 

     

    If I were you I would ask for a second opinion or a referral. It could be something simple like acid but it could also be something that needs further investigation. 

     

    Were you still smoking when it started?  I only ask because I don't know how long you smoke for with champix. If you were how could it possibly be quit related. 

     

    Congratulations on 6 months quit but please don't try to find a diagnosis for your health on an internet forum. 

     

     

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  5. 8 hours ago, notsmokinjo said:

    Sitting with ice on me shoulder waiting on me dad to come strap me wrist...cos the wheel fell off the car goin' 80 on the roundabout. So handbreak stop in a 3tonne ute with 3 wheels and driving on the hub....biggest frickin insult got sunburnt waitin for the frickin towie. 

     

    Am I supposed to be driving...No!

    So I say to the kids dad, time to pick her up from the sleep over (4 suburbs away 40 min drive) .. no he can't be stuffed, chucks a frickin man tantrum wobbly so even though my BP is spaz and I'm not deposed to be driving I go to get the kid. Half way home, doing 80km/hr (50m/hr) in his twin cab ute there is a loud explosion, the steering is shot and I'm figgering the tires blown...then there is the grinding squeal of metal on asphalt an I'm thinking fruck now I gotta change the tire and the rims shot and I'm trying to change lanes and pull over using the hand break and steer the fruckin  tank  one  handed  and  calm the kid and what comes bouncing past me passenger window but the fruckin rear tire. ... How! How the fruck do 6 bolts snap and a whole wheel come off?

     

    If you shouldn't be driving why are you doing it?

     

     

  6. I'm so glad nobody was hurt and your daughter is safe.

     

    I relapsed numerous times before I had this quit. I can actually identify with Sgt Barney's post. The truth is that it isn't the incident that causes us to smoke, the incident just gives us the justification to smoke. 

     

    It's nice to get lots of hugs and understanding when you relapse, but you also need the tough love thrown in to balance it out. When children do something that is going to hurt them we protect them, but we also firmly tell them the dangers with a voice that makes them cry. If we only hugged them they would never learn. Every post is meant well. 

     

    I'm glad you're back to quitting :)

     

     

     

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  7. 11 hours ago, lartomar2002 said:

    I know I can not quit cold turkey, I will have to taper off. Has anyone tried using the nicotine gum or logenze  to replace ever other cigarette. For instance say you set your firstgoal of not smoking a cigarette for one hour and then increasing by 1/2 hour every 2 to 3 days and using the nicotine replacement when the urges become to strong until it is time to have your cigarette. Eventually you will reach a point where there will be several hours between smoking a cigarette. That will help with the psychological part of having something in your hands and other things. What do yoj guys think? I am open to suggestions because I have failed several times a just putting down cod turkey. 

     

    Welcome to the forum. 

     

    You either smoke or you don't - there is no half and half. You may not realise it but your addiction is just looking for a way to keep on smoking. 

     

    Choose a method and just go for it. 

     

    Lots of luck to you :)

     

     

     

     

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  8. Money brings happiness so I would go where the money is. 

     

    Loving a job is all well and good but the harsh reality is they don't love you back. You leave and they will replace you and in a couple of months they'll be like opah who.

     

    You may have less time with your family but the quality of life with all that money will be so much better. 

     

    You've got retirement to be with each other 24/7. 

     

     

     

     

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  9. 10 hours ago, Vivianne said:

     It was delicious!!! I really needed that :)

    I hope your breakfast is too!

     

    Goodmorning powerful people!! 

     

    Vivianne I have to say that breakfast was so simple but so gorgeous.  It's definitely going to be a regular for me x

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  10. Keeping yourself from buying that pack is pretty easy. As humans we can stop ourselves doing anything we want to whether it's addiction or not. 

     

    If your best friend was dating a real hot man and he made a pass at you then you wouldn't jump into bed with him (unless you really don't care).  It's the same tactic - just because it's tempting doesn't mean you have to go there.  

     

    There's people on this site who have sadly lost their lives to smoking. Go find some of those threads because believe me they really do put smoking in perspective. 

     

    There's a great Joel thread about a mum who's family are coming for the day, and another about a woman who leaves her baby sleeping and walks through a dangerous park to get her fix. I wish I could point you to them but I can't seem to post the links. 

     

    You can do this but only if you keep those cigarettes out of reach. 

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  11. 7 minutes ago, abbynormal said:

    Smoking is a selfish habit. No doubt. I think you were well within your rights to be irritated. Conversely, I can remember when I was still in the throes of addiction. I probably could not have waited 90 minutes to smoke. I would have had to go out at least once. Or I would have cut the dinner short in order to get my fix. (The ultimate in selfishness.) So at least your friend didn't do that.

     

    It's sometimes easy for us former smokers to forget how constant the cravings really were when we still smoked. Your friend probably waited as long as they possibly could before getting their fix. It's sad, but it's the reality of an addict.


    I hope you enjoyed the dinner in spite of the interruptions!

     

    Thanks Abby. You're right - I have forgotten how hard it can be and it's not really their fault. Dinner was great and the company was even better. 

     

    They did ask me a lot about my quit and kept saying how proud they were x

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  12. So I had dinner with someone I hadn't seen for 5 years tonight and they still smoke. 

     

    It was really pissing me off that they kept just "popping outside for a cigarette.". Our catch up conversation kept getting interrupted so they could go and get their fix. Each time I sat there on my own just waiting the 5 minutes for them to get back. 

     

    I still can't decide if I was being selfish or they were.  After five years of not seeing me couldn't they have waited 90 minutes to smoke.

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