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A lovely post Abby x

You are a very strong person. Living with an abusive partner takes so much strength and courage. 

You dreamt of two negatives from your past but the important piece is you left them both behind. They ruined your life and your quit but they are gone. 

You have to keep your mind in the present and focus on your quit and your awesome partner. That is all that matters and all that is important. 

Don't give either of those two past negatives in your life any power. Be glad they are both gone. 

If you smoked under these circumstances all you will do is give your ex that manipulating abusive power back. You're worth so much more x x

This made me laugh so much because it is just typical smoker thinking. Having a heart attack and switching to organic food was my favourite lol. 

You are so right in that the real test is when you feel better. I didn't smoke for a week once bed ridden with a cold. When I recovered it was only a matter of time (I'm talking 2 hours max) before I forgot how I'd been feeling and was back to smoking. 

My advice is to reach out here when you feel at your weakest. That is when you find out how powerful this place is. 

Awww Solo we need to be patient. 8 weeks is barely enough time for a broken leg to heal so a lifelong smoking habit is definitely not going to be sunny and rosy this quickly. 

I come here for inspiration BUT I also come here to know that others find this as hard as me.  I let the golden oldies be the inspirations so that I can get on with being the "woe is me" you talk about. 

You're probably not depressed - you're just pissed off with how hard this actually is. Your rainbow will come just like all those before you. 

I think you should deal with quitting before you take on any dieting plans. 

I would give it at least until the six month mark.  

Kate I felt like you at the beginning of my quit. Every day I'd be like "man I would kill for a smoke now".  

I changed the way I thought and it really helped. When I thought about a cigarette I would say out loud "oh f**k off you f**king annoying b*****d. I don't have time for your s**t  today." It took about two days for my brain to get the message but it really worked for me. 

I found that the more I tried to analyse why I had a crave and what triggered it the more the thoughts took over.

I also bragged a lot on here for the first week. The 'well done you" posts really pushed me on. 

Run through the forum waving your pants in the air and tell everyone how great you are as you quit smoking

You need to speak to a professional. 

You can only bury your feelings for so long. Eventually there's nowhere for them to hide and there's one hell of an explosion. 

Don't put on a brave face - get some help xx

Don't apologise Tammy. Shows just what a great piece of writing it was as it made me think and most definitely reflect

Tammy this entry made me really sad.

I wish the world would just live in peace.