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  1. jillar

    General
    cpk
    Quit Date: 02/04/2015
     
    Posted March 3, 2015 
     
    I've been doing some research online - various sites - and one thing I've noticed is that all those into new quits are extremely impatient, including me. All the newbies are asking, "When will this fatigue get better?" "I feel like crap...when will it go away? "My sleep is all off..." and I won't even go into the weight thing. The general sense I have is newly quits are a pretty impatient lot.
     
    I think part of it is what I'll call the "freak out" ---
     
    There are so many changes going on, good and bad. It's almost like being a teenager. It's just a general freak out, at not having a handle on what's going on with the body, the mind, the emotions, one's responses and reactions to the outside world.
     
    As well, teens have more social pressures, increasing responsibilities, heavier workloads...
     
    When my son was a teen he'd open the refrigerator door and just stand there...
     
    I'd say, what are you doing?, if you want something, get it and close the door...why are you standing there...?
     
    He'd act like he was just waking up, would say, I don't know what I want...and he'd close the door, but would be back 20 minutes later and do the same thing all over again.
     
    That about sums up this experience for me. I'm like a teenager. I don't know what I want.
     
    I think patience would help me see this isn't a bad thing. I'm freaked out because it's all new.
     
    I'm uncomfortable a lot. Like a teenager. But hey, being teenager-like at my age is okay for now.
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/4664-patiencei/
     
  2. jillar

    General
    Doreensfree
    Quit Date: 7 /8/2013
     
    Posted July 12, 2019 
     
     
    Women Who Smoke At Risk of Vulval Cancer
    27 June 2019
    By Frances Hardy
    In the UK, 58 women are diagnosed and 21 die each day from gynaecological cancers. Here a doctor explains the impact smoking can have on a woman's body
    For many people, the idea of developing cancer is hard to comprehend. 
    Yet young female smokers are at particular risk of developing the disease – in parts of their body they might not even know could be affected by their habit. 
    Dr Jeff Foster, a private GP based in Leamington Spa, explains: “Smoking is a serious risk factor for many cancers including lung, breast and throat. But it’s easy to forget it is having the same impact all over the body.”
    What Does Smoking Do to Your Reproductive Organs?
    The Impact of Smoking on Male and Female Fertility
    Gender and Smoking: How Men and Women Differ
    In particular, smoking is a risk factor for gynaecological cancers. In the UK, 58 women are diagnosed and 21 die each day from one of these cancers, which includes womb, ovarian, cervical, vaginal and vulval.
    This last is probably the least known type - yet vulval cancer is diagnosed in 1,000 women each year, according to the Eve Appeal, the charity which specialises in gynaecological cancers. 
    Mostly found in women over 60 – although younger cases are becoming more common – vulval cancer has been linked to the human papilloma virus (HPV) infection as well as a weakened immune system. It can also be due to a skin condition called lichen sclerosus.
    And according to Cancer Research UK, researchers have found a clear link between vulval cancer and smoking.
    Researchers have found a clear link between vulval cancer and smoking
    This is partly because smoking weakens our immune system so that it’s harder to get rid of infections such as HPV which cause cancer.
    It is also possible, says Cancer Research UK, that the harmful substances in tobacco damage cells in the vulva directly and so lead to the development of vulval cancer.  Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) is a risk factor for vulval cancer as well as cervical cancer. It is possible that being a smoker may mean that you are less able to get rid of the HPV infection from your body.
    One of the dangers of this type of cancer is that its intimate location means women may not notice early symptoms, so diagnosis comes later than it should.
    “Many women will only be diagnosed with vulval cancer,” Dr Foster explains, “when they are examined for something else, like a repeat smear test.”
     
    However, there may be earlier signs, including a new itch or sore patch, a lump or swelling on the labia, or a burning pain when you pass urine. "Women should never be embarrassed to contact their GP if they experience any of these," he adds.
    Treatment is surgery, Dr Foster says, unless the cancer has spread into lymph nodes. “Vulval cancer doesn’t usually spread too far so chemo is not often needed although a course of radiotherapy may be used.”
    Survivors of vulval cancer are grateful but tell of operations which have left them feeling less feminine as a result. 
    Clare Baumhauer, in her 40s, from Kent, explained in her blog that radiotherapy had sent her into an early menopause, saying: “In May 2016 I had the surgery to remove a tumour from my perineum, but they couldn’t get clear margins so I had radiotherapy but unfortunately it had spread to my lymph nodes so I then had two further operations on my lymph nodes and more radiotherapy.
    Giving up smoking is essential
    "Which put me straight into the menopause and I now have lymphedema in both my legs, pelvis and abdomen, among other side effects.”
    On the whole, survival rates are good. According to Cancer Research UK, for all women with vulval cancer more than 80 percent will survive their cancer for five years or more after diagnosis.
    "Giving up smoking is essential," says Dr Foster, to "prevent further cell damage and to help your body recover faster."
    “Better still,” he says, “young women could be encouraged to give up smoking before cell changes make cancer inevitable.”
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/12727-interesting-article-for-the-ladies/
     
  3. jillar
    Aine
    Quit Date: 2-26-2014
     
    Posted May 4, 2019 
     
    The Law of Addiction
     
    Most quitting literature suggests that it normally takes multiple failed quitting attempts before the user self-discovers the key to success. What they fail to tell you is the lesson eventually learned, or that it can be learned and mastered during the very first try.
     
    Successful recovery isn't about strength or weakness. It's about a mental disorder where by chance our dopamine pathway receptors have eight times greater attraction to a nicotine molecule than to the receptor's own neurotransmitter. We call it the "Law of Addiction" and it states:
     
    "Administration of a drug to an addict will cause re-establishment of chemical dependence upon the addictive substance."
     
    Roughly half of relapsing quitters report thinking that they thought they could get away with using just once. The benefit of fully accepting that we have a true chemical dependency and permanent priorities disorder can't be overstated. It greatly simplifies recovery's rules while helping protect against relapse.
     
    Key to arresting our illness is obedience to one simple concept, that "one is too many and a thousand never enough." There was always only one rule, no nicotine just one hour, challenge and day at a time.
     
    Navigating Withdrawal and Reclaiming Hijacked Dopamine Pathways
    Like clockwork, constantly falling nicotine reserves soon had hostage dopamine pathways generating wanting for more. Sensing that "want" thousands of times per year, how could we not expect to equate quitting to starving ourselves to death?
     
    Again, the essence of drug addiction is about dependency quickly burying all memory of our pre-dependency self. Thus, the first step in coming home and again meeting the real us is emptying the body of nicotine.
     
    It's amazingly fast too. Cut by half every two hours, our mind and body become 100% nicotine-free within 72 hours of ending all use. Extraction complete, peak withdrawal now behind you, true healing can begin. While receptor sensitivities are quickly restored, down-regulation of the number of receptors to levels seen in never-users may take up to 21 days.
     
    But within two to three weeks your now arrested dependency is no longer doing the talking. Quitting fears and dread are gradually thawing and melting into "like" or even "love." You're beginning to sense the truth about where you've been.
     
    It's critical during early withdrawal to not skip meals, especially breakfast. Attempting to do so will likely cause blood sugar levels to plummet, making recovery far more challenging than need be. Why?
     
    A stimulant, nicotine activates the body's fight or flight response, feeding the addict instant energy by pumping stored fats and sugars into the bloodstream. It allowed us to skip breakfast and/or lunch without experiencing low blood sugar symptoms such as feeling nervous or jittery, trembling, irritability, anxiousness, anger, confusion, difficulty thinking or an inability to concentrate. Minimize or avoid those symptoms. Eat little, healthy and often.
     
    If your diet and health permit, drink some form of natural fruit juice for the first three days. Cranberry juice is excellent. It will aid in stabilizing blood sugar while accelerating removal of the alkaloid nicotine from your bloodstream.
     
    Also, heavy caffeine users need to know that (as strange as this sounds), nicotine doubles the rate by which the liver eliminates caffeine from the bloodstream. One cup of coffee, tea or one cola may now feel like two. While most caffeine users can handle a doubling of intake, consider a modest reduction of up to one-half if feeling anxious, irritable or unable to sleep following caffeine use.
     
    One caution. While we need not give-up any activity except nicotine use, use extreme caution with early alcohol use as it is associated with roughly 50% of all relapses.
     
     
    The above is an excerpt from John Polito's article, "Nicotine Addiction 101". It explains the science behind why it is so darn difficult to quit nicotine and to stay quit.
     
    The full article is here: https://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/12338-the-true-nature-of-nicotine-addiction/
     
  4. jillar

    General
    Nancy
    Quit Date: 07/07/2013
     
    Posted April 7, 2014 · IP 
    Bonnie, I looked and it did not originate there, so here it is...
     
    THE SMALL DARK ROOM;
    an analogy of a quit
    (Reposted from Laurap414 from The QuitNet )

    Once, my existence was confined to a small, dark room. In the room was a button. When I pressed the button the room was filled with light. It was a warm, sunny light, which filled every crevice of the room with its brilliance. The light made me happy, and made me feel safe. The problem was, after a few minutes, the light would begin to fade. Soon the room would be completely dark again and I would have to press the button again. My life consisted of always getting to that button when the darkness began to fall. The darkness was scary. It was tiring
    getting to that button hour after hour. And in this life, it was always, always night.

    I heard people say that if you could endure one night in the dark, without pushing that button, you could experience Day. In Day, the button would not be needed. It would always be light, and there would be no dark to be afraid of. People said that when it was Day, you could actually leave the room. The button was still there, but you would not be reliant on it anymore. I remembered my life before the button, and looked at my friends who lived in the Day. And I knew that was what I wanted, more than anything. I hated it always being night; even though I had my button to light the world it was still depressing living from brightness to darkness, never being free, and never seeing the sun. And so one day I decided to stop pushing the button, to try and be free.

    At first, the darkness was a little uncomfortable. I could not see a thing, but then again the light had only been out for a short while. I knew what was in the room, no monsters there, right? Just the dark. But then, as the night progressed, scary things began to happen. I heard strange noises in the dark. Sometimes ghosts and apparitions would appear to me. And each time, no matter how much I wanted to be brave, something scared me so bad that I would reach for that button again. I never made it for more than a few hours in the dark. I would run screaming for the button, and give it a good smack. Thank God!!! The light would be warmer and more lovely than it had ever been. But then, as always, the light would begin to fade. And I would realize to my horror that it was midnight again. And I was even more afraid of the encroaching dark than ever.

    One day I heard of a group of people who had made it through to Day. I wanted to get out of my terrible night, and so I asked them how they made it to dawn, and then to sunrise and Day. And they told me some secrets. They told me how to deal with the ghosts who would appear in the dark, how the room would change and how all sorts of horrible things would happen. They warned me that it would be worse than a nightmare at times, but that I could do it. Best of all, they said they would help me make it through the night. This is the story of how it happened, one minute at a time.

    11:59 pm. I push the button for the Very Last Time. I am very afraid..

    12:00 midnight. The room is dark. Not so bad. I can do this.

    12:15 am Hearing scary noises. Scared, but Im ready for this. I can do it.

    12:30 am A man appears out of nowhere.

    "Push the button!!!!" he screams. "Arent you afraid of the monsters? Arent you scared of the demons? Push the button! It will be light again!!!! Just do it!!!!". He is scaring me.

    I look at him fiercely. He goes away. He comes back many times during the night.

    1:00 am The floor has turned to snakes. I am horrified. I can hear them slithering around. I want to turn on the light. I need to see them. I need them to go away. I ask my friends and they say this is normal, that it will get better.

    1:30 am I can hear moans in the dark. The snakes are still here. I think this room is haunted. I am so scared of the dark. I want to push the button so the light will make the ghosts go away. I keep telling myself I am headed towards the dawn.

    1:45 am Something cold and dead brushes my face. I scream. I reach for the button. My friends tell me Im doing a great job. They tell me the noises are just phantom noises. They tell me to think of the coming dawn. The snakes are still around my legs. I think the floor is getting wet and sticky, I cant tell. The noises are getting stranger. I am shivering with fear and revulsion.

    2:00 am If it werent for my friends I would have gone insane or hit the button hours ago. I begin to think that the floor is wet and sticky with the blood of people who have killed themselves in here. My friends tell me its just my own sweat. I know that if I hit the button it will all go away. The noises are unbearable. My only comfort is knowing I have made it this far. I tell myself I can make it a little longer. I break down in tears from exhaustion.

    2:15 am Its getting a little better now. The dark is still filled with bizarre monsters and strange sounds.

    2:30 am I look out the window to see if the sun is coming up yet. It is still pitch dark. I cannot see a thing.

    2:45 am The scariest part of night. I sense that I am surrounded by ghouls. I am trying to be strong even though I am beside myself with fright.

    Suddenly a woman appears in the room. She is holding a candle. She looks like a very competent lawyer or something, and looks very kind. I am so relieved to see her, and I invite her to sit down.

    She explains that she has contacted the owners of the room and that they have agreed to make an exception for me. Since I am experiencing so much fear, they will let me push the button once without setting the clock back to midnight (right back where I started). She said that they have been watching me, and since Ive been so brave, they will allow me a little bit of light to "get me through the night".

    "I thought that once I hit the button, I go right back to where I started no mater what", I say.

    "No, no, we have made a special exception in your case," she says, smiling. She looks so caring and professional. I begin to believe her. She seems completely trustworthy.

    I look over the contract she has brought. It all looks very legal and above-board. I get to push the button once, and the clock is not set back to midnight. It sounds extremely sensible. I am listening to the noises in the dark. There is a big bump from the darkest corner.

    "What was that?" I say.

    "That was a ghoul," she says pleasantly. "It will rip your throat out and kill you if it gets you. So not to rush things, but perhaps you want to sign the contract right NOW".

    I look into her eyes. I want to believe her. I reach for the pen. And then I see behind her smile, this evil green glimmer. And I smell death on her clothes. With horror, I realize that she has been sent by the Nicodemon. She is pure evil. She leans in closer, and hands me the pen.

    I pull back. "Get away!" I scream. "Get out of here at once!!!!".

    "Oh no, sweetie" she says in her pleasant voice of death. "You asked me to sit down. You read my contract. Im going to stay a while". I know she is in league with the Demon but I cant seem to move or scream. I am transfixed with her voice, her glinting eyes, her tempting smile. "Why dont we sit and chat awhile my dear?" she smiles sweetly. It seems like two hours pass. I cannot move. I have never been so scared. Crazily, I still think about signing the contract she is holding. I think of how hitting the button would make her go away.

    Finally I summon all of my strength, and with great effort I am able to make myself realize that she is evil and full of lies. Finally, when I admit this to myself, she stands up to leave . "Ill be back for you!!!!!!" she shrieks as she leaves. I smell her horrible stench after she goes and I want to vomit.

    I am shaking with the effort and terrified, but I realize I have won a battle. I am slightly proud.

    3:00 am Still afraid but hanging in there. Telling myself Ive made it this far. Trying to ignore the snakes and ghouls. When I ignore them they are not so bad.

    3:15 am The man keeps coming back. He is not as scary anymore.

    4:00 am I think I can finally see the dawn rising in the far distance. I am completely exhausted. But I think , this is it! I have made it to Day! I am very excited.

    4:15 am A little old lady appears. She is very sweet looking and gentle. "Hi honey!" she says.

    "Hi there" I say, glad for some company.

    "Rough night, huh?" she says.

    "Ill say", I agree. I feel relaxed, relieved, happy, so proud of myself.

    "And youve done such a great job," she says. I thank her for the compliment. "Such a great job, " she says, "that you deserve to hit that button one more time. Just to see it once before its gone. It was such a lovely light wasnt it?" she says sweetly.

    "It was a lovely light," I say. I look fondly at the button, and then look outside to the greying sky, which is filling with a dirty pale light. I think of my brilliant warm light and how it used to cheer me up instantly.

    "You do deserve it," she says.

    We chat for some time about what a great job Ive done getting through the night. She is a very sweet and understanding lady. We stroll around the room for a while, and then I look down. When I do, I realize my hand is on the button. I look into the nice ladys eyes, and suddenly I see the glint of evil green grinning back at me. "Why dont you push the button now?" she growls, in a voice that sounds like the grave.

    "AARGH!" I yell. I jerk my hand off the button. The lady vanishes in a puff of noxious fumes. But her words were powerful poison and it is a while before I can walk away from the button. I am terrified by the close call.

    4:15 am Its getting brighter now.

    5:00 am Things are going OK. I have survived a few more close calls. The old lady came back, and so did the lawyer lady, but I fought them off. The snakes and ghouls I realize were only in my head. Things are looking normal. I can see again!

    6:00 am Sunrise! I never thought I would see it. Its only a matter of time before I get to see the Day. I realize I will never need my horrible button again. I am so relieved I could just cry. I am full of gratitude and thanks. I am so proud of myself, so humble. Ive come so far.

    And then I hear the voice. It is icy cold and gravelly, and sounds like a thousand monsters whispering together. It comes from everywhere and nowhere, it echoes through my brain.

    "There are monsters everywhere, my friend," it says. "There are monsters which can attack you in the grey light of dawn, monsters under the bed at sunrise, and monsters which will haunt you invisibly during the Day. These monsters can only be conquered by pressing that magic button. Did you think that daylight would protect you? Oh no. Never forget that the monsters are ALL AROUND, my friend. And the button is the only thing that will keep them away FOREVER. So watch out where you step, and listen wherever you go".

    I am chilled. I am terrified. I look to make sure the button is not far away. It is still there, and I am slightly comforted by this. The sunrise is not as safe as it seemed.

    6:15 am I look around for day-monsters. Sometimes I can see them lurking under the bed. I had no idea that I would be afraid after sunrise. I miss my brilliant warm light. Just waiting for Day to come.

    7:00 am. Sun keeps rising. Doing much better now. Monsters are less frightening. Really beginning to feel positive.

    7:15 am Getting very bright. Feeling great. Knock at the door. Its the neighbour.

    "Hey lady," he says. "Howya doing in here? Listen, I dropped off because I noticed your light wasnt on. I just wanted to let you know that if you push that button over there, you can see a whole lot better!"

    "Yeah I know", I say, "but when you push the button, it stays night. The longer I leave it off, the brighter it gets, and eventually itll be as bright as Day."

    "Well, I hate to tell you this," he says, "but you know, it never really gets as bright in the Daytime as that light was. I mean, I tried that whole Day thing and it aint what its cracked up to be. Sure, the light gets kind of bright during the Day, but then there are cloudy days, and whatnot. And you can never really read a book with the same amount of clarity as you get with that button".

    "Really?" I say. "I did not know this. Because you know, I am a big reader".

    "Oh, yeah, that Day light, its never the same! You cant read by Day light!!! Not the way you can with this baby you got right here. I tell you what -if you want, I can jimmy this light so that it doesnt get dark at all! That way, itll be on all the time, and youll NEVER know its night outside. What do you think?"

    "You can do that?" I say. "I mean, I tried that before. I tried a LOT of different things to make it not seem so bad. But I still knew it was night. That light still kept going out."

    "No, no, no -- that was last time. I guarantee you I can fix it so that you will never feel scared that its night, and that light will always be on. Believe me, it beats the hell out of Day. I promise you. I mean look at this crappy light", he said, jerking his thumb towards the weak sunrise.

    "Well, OK" I said. "What do I have to do?"

    "Just push the button once, so I can get it going, then youll be all set," he said. "And if you dont like it, you can always try this Day thing another time, right?" He grinned pleasantly, and gave me a friendly wink.

    I looked him over to size him up. He was really a good-looking guy, so friendly and polite. It was obvious he knew what he was talking about, and he had a very honest face. Perhaps, I thought, my friends were wrong about this Day thing? I mean, here was a guy who could just rig up my button to fix it up just like that. And it sounded like he knew from experience that the button light was better and brighter than Day. Plus he had promised that it would work. Why would this guy lie to me?

    He was still standing there, smiling at me.

    "OK" I said, "What the heck". And I reached to shake his hand.

    "Excellent" he grinned. But as he smiled I got a glimpse of what was between his lips, and saw that his mouth was full of maggots. Suddenly I realized that he reeked of rotting corpses and death, and when I touched his hand, it felt like cold icy death. I looked into his eyes and saw that I was staring face-to-face with none other than the Nicodemon.

    "Nicodemon!!!" I shrieked.

    "Yes, my dear" he growled, and as he grinned at me, moving his face closer to mine, his breath smelled like ashes and cancer. "Just push that button and Ill fix that little button for you RIGHT AWAY". The maggots were still spilling out of his mouth, and to my horror I realized that his body was made up of decaying flesh. Every surface of his body was covered with sores, and from the sores leaked pus and phlegm. I looked down and saw that I was still clutching his rotting, deadened hand.

    "Argh!" I yelled. "You are a LIAR!!!!!! That stuff is not true! What you say is never true!!! You cant fix that button! If I push it Ill be back in the night! The button will not make the monsters go away! It never did! All it did was keep me in eternal night!!!!! NOW GO AWAY AND GET OUT OF HERE!!!!!! YOU BASTARD!!!!!"

    And I kicked him right in the balls.

    "AAAAAUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!" shrieked the Nicodemon. With a cloud of poisonous fumes and toxic gases he began to melt into a puddle of phlegm, until nothing was left of him except a small pile of ash.

    "Ha". I said. I swept up the ash and put it outside. I had won this battle, and I deserved to be proud. I had outwitted the most clever villain of all. And I had done it all by myself (with a little help from my friends).

    But I knew he would be back.


    Epilogue


    Sometime Around High Noon

    Well the sun has finally come up and its Day. Its everything my friends promised it would be. The sun is out, the birds are singing, and its simply glorious. Eventually, I even walked out of that small dark room, and left the button behind.

    The best part about it is, the sun never goes down here. It just stays high noon all day long, and the sun is shining almost all the time. My friends are here with me, and we never have to go back into that horrible night.

    The Demon came back a few more times, in a few more disguises. He almost fooled me that night that I went through the dark, and he might fool me again. But Ive got my friends behind me and they tell me about the different tricks he likes to use. He is a crafty, conniving, horrible, evil spirit, and I know that he will always do everything in his power to try and get me back.

    But I will be ready, and waiting. And God willing, Ill keep outwitting that son-of-a-bitch.
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/343-the-dark-room/
     
     
  5. jillar
    Sazerac
    Quit Date: October 23, 2013, A Good Day to be Free.
     
    Posted June 4, 2016 
     
    Please, Take Your LIVES Seriously
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    In 'real' life and here on the QTrain, I see people being careless
    about their lives and their quit,
    like they have all the time in the world !
    'I'll quit next week, maybe tomorrow, I'll quit again sometime'.
    Are they not understanding how dangerous smoking is ?
    It's a friggin' Slow Suicide !
    The ramifications are Horrible.
    This is no joke.
    Ask our beautiful friend, Doreen !
     
    I, too, used to be casual about quitting, casual about smoking.
    so, it is no surprise to see others in Denial.
    I wasn't listening to any kind of Sense, or Logic, or TRUTH, either.
    Then, suddenly, I 'got it'
    and thanks to the information here,
    I educated myself about Nicotine Addiction.
     
    After that, there was simply no other choice
    except to Quit and be Quick about it !
    I would no longer live as a Slave, or die as one either !
     
    I wish I could give that Eureka moment to everybody struggling with addiction
    but, I don't know what happened or why.
    At a certain point, I listened and Understood
    and I give this to you,
    Understand your addiction, and Be Free of it.
    Your Lives are Precious.
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/7092-please-take-your-lives-seriously/
     
  6. jillar
    Sirius
    Quit Date: May 27, 2014
     
    Posted July 12, 2016 
     
    The following was some of the more weird things I did
     
    while going through the stress of decompress.
     
     
     
     
     
    Sharpen knifes.  Oh Vay!  scrape, scrape, scrape....
     
    Take your time with it.  Focus on getting the sharpest edge.
     
    All my knifes are very sharp.
     
     
     
    Emptied out my ashtray into a glass jar (with lid).  Added a 
     
    bit of water to the mix.  When I feel the need I take a good 
     
    long look at this stuff.  If I still feel the need I unscrew the
     
    lid and take a long deep whiff.  Really brings back the whole
     
    smoking experience - to include the gagging, retching, and 
     
    full body coughing.
     
     
     
    If the time and place allows for it; a good stiff drink.  
     
    One shot only!  
     
    Purely for medicinal purposes.  
     
    Bonus points for Barcardi 151.
     
     
     
    A personal favorite.  Chopping Wood.  Nothing like swinging an axe 
     
    to work out the aggression and utter unfairness that constant 
     
    denial piles onto my little psyche.  Plus, I'm doing something 
     
    constructive!
     
     
     
    Hold your breath until the desire to breath meets and exceeds 
     
    the desire to smoke.  While holding your breath contemplate
     
    how each cigarette you consume brings you closer to holding your
     
    breath involuntarily. Breathing is far more satisfying then smoking.
     
     
     
    Enjoy a fresh Jalapeño. Pop the whole thing in your mouth and 
     
    chew slowly.  mmmmmm...  Bonus points for not having water 
     
    near at hand.  
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/7287-the-weird-things-i-did-to-quit-smoking/
     
  7. jillar

    General
    babs609
    Posted February 13, 2015 
     
    Quitting smoking is often referred to a roller coaster ride, and with good reason.  While one minute you are feeling confident and strong that you finally "beat" that sucker.  Thinking.."Yes!  I'm doing it..I'm gonna make it"..only to be followed by feelings of doubt, fear, anger, frustration, sadness, lonliness..and these feelings can change within just moments.  This is the part that would beat me down in prior attempts.  I just was tired of the ups and downs.  I think having the "ups" was actually a deterrent to my quit because it would set me up...when I would feel restless...it would piss me off because I thought I was done with all that.
     
    Please please please...keep in mind...these thoughts that just pop up out of nowhere are not YOU.  Any thoughts that pop in our heads are not actually us.  We aren't controlling them...we are just going about our business and them BAM!  there's a thought.  Now....you have a decision to make.  If you are someone who normally runs with their thoughts...this could be trouble for you.  You actually may believe these thoughts to be true without question.  You give these thoughts power by believing they are true when in fact.....they are a complete lie all made up in your head. 
     
    Being an ex-smoker in the early days or weeks of quitting without truly grasping the reality that your thoughts are not true...then you may be not only heading for relapse but are in danger of becoming a chronic relapser until you change your thought patterns. 
     
    No matter what...don't believe you are a weak person.  This kind of thinking re-enforces to your subconcious that other quitters are stronger and you are weaker and therefore....quitting is harder or even impossible for you.  That's total BULL$HIT.  That just gives the addiction more power.  It's already powerful...more powerful than you.  Otherwise..you would have quit long ago or maybe not even started.  
     
    Although the addiction is stronger than you....it's not smarter. 
     
    "Keep your friends close and your enemy's closer"....that saying couldn't be further from the truth when referring to the addiction.  Learn all you can about the addiction.  Don't just read....absorb it...live it...taste it....feel it...and most of all...believe it.  Learn all the tricks it will try to play on you...learn what fellow quitters have done when faced with these challenges. 
     
    Believe with your whole heart that you are no different than anyone else.  You are not weaker than us...your addiction is not stronger than ours... 
     
    Until you understand that...you will either struggle and continue this fight and give up quitting altogether until illness or death forces you to quit....OR..you will struggle and fight and relapse after relapse after relapse until you either finally absorb the teachings of fellow quitters...wasting months or years in the meantime and just making it harder for yourself than it really has to be.
     
    I wish this could be a post where a lightbulb goes off in your head and you say "aha! I got it!!!  I finally got it"  But that lightbulb moment is different for everyone and that's why I just ask everyone lurking and reading and contemplating quitting...to just keep coming back here...keep reading...keep reading...keep reading.  Lots of posts and video's to help you "undo the brainwashing" that has been planted in your head from the years of being a smoker.  It takes time......it takes patience..it takes re-enforcement... In short, it takes work...but it is sooooooo worth it.
     
    When you finally are ready...and you put down your final cigarette...
     
    Keep your arms and legs in at all times...put your buckle on...and enjoy the ride.  You might as well because even though we enjoy when we feel good...it's the hard times that strengthens you.
     
     
    ONE DAY AT A TIME>>>ONE MOMENT AT A TIME
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/4460-the-roller-coaster-ride/
     
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    Peter_is_in
    Quit Date: 11/22/2003
     
    Posted January 26, 2019
     
    For me personally and what I have seen, I reflect on the word "Struggle" . . .
     
    To watch a loved one die from cancer while all you can see is the whites of their eyes. The pain and frustration only shows in the wrinkles of their face, because they cannot talk . .. that's a struggle.
     
    That cannot be undone  
    To hear about a roadside bomb hitting a convoy of peace keepers in Afghanistan . . . and your child may be in that convoy . . . communications are automatically cut for several days . .. that's a struggle.
     
    You have no control  
    To give up on planning yearly fishing trips with your best buddy, because cancer just stole him away from you. . . that's a struggle.
     
    That cannot be forgotten  
    To hear the last words of your sister in moans and groans because the pain before dying of cancer is so much. . . that's a struggle.
     
    That cannot be erased  
    To see a family member taken off life support. . . that's a struggle.
     
    That cannot be erased  
    To learn about others who have no food to eat tomorrow, and likely will die . . . that's a struggle.
     
    That cannot be ignored  
    To have a strong crave to smoke a cigarette . . . that's not a struggle . . . That's an inconvenience.
     
    That can be undone That can be controlled That can be forgotten That can be erased That can be ignored  
    You can do it!
     
    Peter: Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/11825-i-reflect-on-the-word-struggle/
     
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    Markus
    Quit Date: 02-19-2008
     
    Posted April 4, 2014 
     
    It's all very personal.
     
    Even though the methods used to quit are the same with slight variations depending on an individual's preference it all is a very personal thing.
     
    You always choose what works for you or just wing it. You do that on your own, always. Some plans I see I just cringe, but you know it usually ends up that it works for that person.
     
    A step-wise plan to quit is a good idea but doesn't need to be complex, and a fallback plan is even better. You can start by acting like a nonsmoker; see yourself a few weeks and a few months from now. What do you look like, what are you doing?

    Get to the reading and the writing. Post and become a part of this forum and pay it forward to cement your quit in your mind. You will do this on your own with a little help (minimal) assistance from your friends here. Nobody can quit for you, but you can learn how to stay quit here.

    Any or all of items 1-7 below, will make it better.

    (1) Commit to Not One Puff Ever (NOPE).
    (2) Commit to Never Take Another Puff (NTAP).
    (3) Educate yourself about your addiction. Read, post, learn, overcome. Lather, rinse, repeat.
    (4) Decide that you do not want to smoke more than you want to smoke. This may save you from relapse.
    (5) Take control of your life, reclaim your mind and body, and get it straight about who owns you. Is it you? Or your addiction?
    (6) Realize that you'll always be an addict, a puff away from a pack a day, but you choose not to smoke. That's all of us.
    (7) Start acting like a non smoker, like you never smoked, walk the walk. A cigarette is never the answer to anything but disease.
    ( 8 Have a plan B if Plan A that you are using now fails. Make your plan B from steps 1-7, above.
    *(9) Celebrate your quit! Talk it up, be proud of what you have accomplished!

    Alright, enough with the steps and commitment to this and that already! Look at this logically if you will. 
     
    How else can you possibly quit smoking by any other means than stopping using cigarettes? The addiction to nicotine cannot be overcome by administering the same thing to yourself that you are addicted to, (nicotine).
     
    What that means is when you are at 5 days, 7 days, 10 days, 28 days quit, and you find yourself craving a cigarette (your delivery device for nicotine), you cannot beat that crave/association with a cigarette.
     
    You might fix a bad hangover with some hair of the dog that bit you, but you can't fix a cigarette crave with a cigarette and still expect to quit smoking. Can you? Now go look at the items again, you have the desire.
     
    What is missing if anything? You decide along the way, revamp the plan if you need to, adapt to your conditions, if something isn't working, get rid of it. Anything to keep the quit.

    You have to be fair to yourself, but firm. It will get better over time, but you'll only see it if you commit to it.
     
    And so you will.
     
    Welcome to a new life!
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/221-welcome-to-a-new-life-your-quit/
     
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    Soberjulie
     
    Posted April 23, 2014 
     
    Sometimes
    it takes every last bit of you to keep your balance
    and not do something self destructive.
    I'm not talking about willpower, I'm talking about
    something else.
    I'm not sure how to describe it.
    It's like the part of you that wants to live,
    the part of you that is committed to not smoking,
    is connected by only the most slender of threads to
    the part of you driving the car,
    making the decisions.
     
    Sometimes you just hang in there,
    a minute at a time.
     
    You ask for help, but you know
    if you choose to
    you can turn away from that pretty easily,
    or even accidentally
    on purpose.
     
    Sometimes
    not sliding backwards
    counts as moving forwards.
    Sometimes not actively trying to die is
    living large.
    Sometimes holding your ground
    is a fragile miracle.
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/926-hey-my-fellow-newbies-hold-your-ground/
     
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    Colleen
    Quit Date: 6/2/13
     
    Posted June 13, 2015 
     
    I was scared too.  Thought I had this super addictive personality and all those who had successfully quit before me weren't really addicted to smoking.  Shortly after you quit, you are going to figure it out, but I'll let you in on the secret now...it's a bunch of baloney.  Nobody is more addicted to smoking than anyone else.  It's the monster otherwise known as nicotine playing tricks on you, kick his ass to the curb because once you let go of that illusion everything seems to fall into place.  
     
    Remember sticking your toe in the pool and thinking it's much too cold to swim in?  Do you also remember once you jumped in (or were pushed in) you realized it wasn't that bad at all?  That is exactly what quitting smoking is like.  It's 10 times more easier than you thought it was.  Okay, so it's not always rainbows and unicorns, but it's nowhere as bad as you think it is.  Trust me, this is coming from someone that couldn't go 3 hours without a cigarette.  Or trust my ticker, it doesn't lie 
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/5481-are-you-scared-to-quit-smoking/
     
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    General
    gonfishn21
    Quit Date: 11.15.15
     
    Posted March 1, 2018 
     
    For Nancy
     
    Mental Balloons
    Posted by gonfishn21 on 16 January 2015 - 06:17 PM
     
    As I'm now chasing the tweenie label, and have been thinking a lot about the concerns I have had regading No Man's Land, its got me thinking again.
    As most of you know, that means I'm going to ramble.

    Although I am not one that needs a lot of kudos, it seems that it is a necessary part of this process for a while.
    We make it through day 1 HURRAH!!!!!!!!!!
    We make it through hell week HURRAY!!!!
    Heck week over, " I feel better" HURRAy!!
    Two weeks, wow, learning to get through the craves, HURRay!
    Three weeks, can be around my friends and family without committing a felony, HURray
    Four weeks, nerves under control, waistband a little tight, not bad, HUrray
    Five weeks, walking, eating right, digestion shut down, but not smoking, Hurray
    Six weeks, no craves, no moods, no smoking, digestion shut down, HUH?
    Seven to eight weeks, no one wants to know but you, how you are doing. By the way, my digestion is shut down!
    They really stopped wanting to hear weeks ago, you just kept talking about it. You can see it in their eyes when you walk up. They probably have a pool about how long it will take you to bring it up. Or even worse, the day your digestion works!
    Yeah, wow woot woot yippee, big deal.
    Hello No Man's Land'
    How am i going to keep going with this?
    I need to bring my own ballons to the party. I know my friends and family care, but they dont get it.
    Even as firm as I have been since day one, this is one of the hardest things I have ever done. I know it, thats all that matters.
    As i reach the little milestones ahead, I need to be the one who says HURRAY!!!!!.
    I need to be the one who acknowledges the accomplishments. Afterall, in the end, I made the decision to quit, I made it through hell week, heck week, and i am the one who may never digest food again.
    I need to remind myself everyday, how much I have accomplished, BEFORE I have a chance to get weak. In that way, I can stay ahead, be ready to face any challenge with a strong defense.
    Smoking is no longer an option for me. Smoking is just something I used to do. I control my actions, and smoking is a choice. I choose not to smoke, even if I never digest food again.
    I found a website the other day, that actually teaches you HOW TO SMOKE. I couldn't believe it. It takes you through lighting it, drawing on it, how it feels.......Holy Crap I was feeling it!!!!! Two flipping months into this, and I was feeling it, and then I knew. I had to make mental ballons and carry them with me at all times.
    Everyday is a celebration, everyday needs reminders, and everyday has its challenges. There is no one here, that can not do it. I'm not special. I'm just going to carry my own balloons.
    Just sayin,

    Gon
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/9819-mental-balloons/
     
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    General
    Nancy
    Quit Date: 07/07/2013
     
    Posted September 18, 2014 
     
    I have to have a cigarette, RIGHT NOW  
    By tahoehal  on November 26 2008 
     
     
    Picture yourself a second or two after you stub out that quit-breaking cigarette. The one that you just had to have because the craving was so strong you couldn't hold out any longer, when that voice inside you was saying.. "Go on, life sucks, you may as well smoke a cig.. y'know for your nerves.." or the other one.. "you've got this beat now.. you are in control.. you can have one just now and again.. go on have one for old time's sake.." So you bum a cigarette, and smoke it and in 2 and 1/2 minutes, you stub it out.

    Now what. Your mouth feels like crap. Your lungs are tightening up. You managed to stifle the coughs .. but barely. You began to squint again because the smoke hurt your eyes. and your fingers and clothes smell again. You either want to throw up, grab some mouthwash, take a shower, or have another.. maybe buy a pack.

    But then you realize what you've just done. After all those times when you said you were going to quit, and then when you finally did, and your family and friends were so happy for you - but not exactly over the moon, because after all they've been hopeful before only to see you relapse - all that enthusiasm is now smashed to pieces on the floor. And all the pressure that drove you to grab that cigarette in the first place - it's all still there. Nothing has changed, except now you've added one more problem: you just blew it. 

    And then you realize what you've really done. You had invested days, maybe weeks and months, in this quit. You had made a great decision, one of the few things you really and truly felt proud of in your life, and you just blew it. You just blew the quit that you swore to yourself was the last one. You were so positive, so motivated, and encouraged, you were really on top of it, ahead of the game for once, you had taken control of your life and it felt like a whole new beginning.. and you just blew it.

    You look at that stub in the ashtray. The grey ash and the brown edge to the burnt paper, and the tar stain on the end of filter. You remember the thousands of cigarettes you have stubbed out and think about the tar that came into your lungs as smoke. And you think if smoking that one cigarette was worth it. Nothing's better. You feel a little dizzy now as the nicotine hits your body, even a little nauseous - certainly don't feel the pleasure that you remember the adverts and billboards were promoting during your early years as a smoker. In fact it's hard to remember any time when you felt that pleasure.. just another tobacco company lie.. They helped you to become an addict the first time, but when you smoked that cigarette after you quit.. well that was a whole new decision. You made that one all by yourself - there's no pointing fingers now, you know that cigarettes kill, so when you lit that one cigarette, the choice to smoke was all yours - no-one else to blame. And you just blew it. 

    It wasn't worth it.. time after time the slippers' and relapsers' lament how they feel like crap, how ashamed they are, how they have lost confidence and hope, how they hate themselves, how much it hurts, how depressed and they cry and hide and cry some more. And now you are one of them.. the quit losers. Lost in the wilderness, not quite a smoker.. yet and not sure you are a quitter, searching for some dignity, some self-respect out of this. All because of that one cigarette. Because you blew it. 
    WITH JUST ONE 
    One Puff
    One Cigarette
    One Pack
    One Carton
    One Oxygen tank
    One Lung
    One Chemotherapy
    One Funeral
    One less.


    Hal 08-20-2004
    A puff is too much, a thousand cartons are not enough. 
                       
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/2719-think-you-need-just-one/
    *Edited to remove broken link to outside source
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    General
    Colleen
    Quit Date: 6/2/13
     
    Posted April 21, 2014 
     
    This can't be a complete list, I am sure.  There's a good chance you weren't aware of at least one of the diseases.  I would have never connected blindness to smoking.  
     

     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/833-smoking-affects-more-than-your-lungs/
     
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    General
    Jenny
    Quit Date: 05/24/2012
     
    Posted March 30, 2014 
     
    Throughout your quit you are likely to be faced with events that bring thoughts of smoking back to the forefront of your mind.  I've been quit nearly two years (28 year smoker)  and while it does not happen often, it still happens. Not like when you first quit and craving a cigarette can be a whole body experience, but more of a thought.  Your mind after so many years of smoking has been conditioned to think that a cigarette is what you need when you are stressed, mad, sad and even happy.  We told ourselves lies for so many years to justify the need to get our fix.  We allowed ourselves to believe that a cigarette helped us in these situations.  Of course it didn't.  It was just the addiction talking.  We just needed nicotine and no justification for that was deemed ridiculous, even though it was.   In the words of a wonderful woman named Susan, a thought to smoke is never a command.  Remember why you quit and push those thoughts away.  Always keep the quit.
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/19-triggers-after-you-quit/
     
  16. jillar
    Martian5
    Quit Date: 01/04/2018
     
    Posted May 29, 2019 
     
    We all know the more known problems from years of smoking (Cancer, COPD, Heart problems and such) but their are some problems that are lesser known.
    Today I am going to the dentist to start fixing my mouth.  Most of the problems are tied in with my smoking over those many years, something I really did not think about. For the past year it has been very difficult for me to eat and also a lot of pain. Now I have been dealing with COPD (at this point stage 1 and has done much better since quitting and not really advancing at this point) but now I have to deal with all these upcoming dental appointments to include 3 different appointments for oral surgery (first this morning) then several appointments to replace several missing teeth.  I do not enjoy going to the dentist but most of all I do not enjoy what this will be doing to my wallet.  At this point it is going to be close to $20,000.00  (there goes all the money I have been saving from my quitting).  The main point here is not sympathy for me but to let others know to include those that are lurking and have yet to make the choice to quit is that you really need to understand everything that smoking cigarettes can do to you.  It all sneaks up on you and will cost you both to health and to your wallet.  I have done this to myself and I must take accountability for my actions but hopefully others will see this and do some serious thinking!!!!!!!
     
    Quit now so that you can live a better life in so many ways!!!!!
     
    Sorry about the long post but I get really anxious about going to the dentist, oh alright -- scared, and it is about an hour before I can take the sedative -- anyway good day to all.
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/12490-lesser-known-medical-problems-from-smoking/
     
  17. jillar

    General
    JackiMac
    Quit Date: 1st November 2018
     
    Posted February 9, 2015 
     
    I was sitting thinking today, that over the last year I have had two relapses, and this is my 3rd attempt in a year to quit, now I am seriously beginning to realise that way back last year I would not have even attempted to quit if it had not been for finding, joining and taking part in this Forum, being able to see that I am not alone, that there are different ways to quit, that not everyone's quit is the same, that it doesnt matter if you relapse the support is here to help you re- quit, seeing so many quitters who have been committed to keeping the quit, helping others that are struggling, offering support and advice its amazing, being part of this forum has certainly prompted me to keep on and get to my sticky quit.  Outside of the forum we have our Doctors, leaflets, internet advice, not quite the 24/7 help and support we all need, and the beauty of it is, all it takes is the touch of a button and we can interact with someone, talk out our quit, socialise, laugh, share things and connect.  Pretty amazing isn't it.  I can honestly say that if I hadn't stumbled across my little family in the corner of the internet my relapse last year would still be my relapse now, it was the thought of everyone here, that pushed me that little bit harder to come back and to try again.  So glad I did.  Quitting smoking is one of the most amazing things that you can do, one of the others is joining this forum.  Quitting is no longer a scary and lonely trip but more of an adventure with people who care and support, leading you to live a better, healthier stronger and more fulfilling life.  
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/4421-why-being-part-of-a-forum-helps/
     
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    sharonsiff
    Quit Date: 12 June 2013
     
    Posted January 12, 2015 
     
    I have added this video I found to Chyrs relapse post but I'll put it out here too. Explains the 3 stages of a relapse Emotional, Mental and Physical. This would have been a fabulous video for me during my first months and hopefully will be of use to others who may need it now.
     
     
     
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/4154-a-relapse-prevention-plan-the-tools-of-recovery/
     
     
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    General
    beacon
     
    Posted November 22, 2014 
     
    Good video. This is what I struggled with. Still if I get a thought about smoking it is when I am relaxed and doing nothing and not when I am stressed.
     
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/3552-how-to-do-nothing-without-smoking/
     
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    General
    Doreensfree
    Quit Date: 7 /8/2013
     
    Posted October 14, 2018 
     
     
     
     
    This is a crippling illness.... Slowly getting worse....
    My hubby has suffered for years....needs oxygen regularly for 16 hrs a day....
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/11235-emphysema-explained/
     
  21. jillar
    jillar
    Posted November 30 
     
     
    *A lifetime of freedom from nicotine.
    *Worldwide support from members in all phases of quitting and who know and can relate to what you may go through at any given time in your quit.
    *Tons of educational material about our addiction to nicotine. Be it by reading, watching videos or asking other members. We have it all 
     
    So what do you have to lose by becoming a member?
     
    ACT NOW and you can go into the New Year COMPLETELY SMOKE FREE! You heard that right folks. No more burn holes everywhere
     

     
     
    No more stale smoke stink on you and all your stuff
     

     
     
    AND we already told you about all the extra CASH
     

     
     
    All this and there's STILL MORE! Yep, we've saved the best for last. Quit now and enjoy better health and less colds. Better circulation, pinker gums, the list goes on and on... 
     

     
     
    So give yourself the ultimate gift this holiday season. You won't regret it 
                                              
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/14789-free-to-all-new-members-who-register/
     
     
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    General
    Sunnyside
    Quit Date: 02/01/22
     
    Posted December 2, 2016 
     
    We all chose to smoke and stick to it. When you first started it never became easy to you.
     
    You had to work to make it feel natural. You had to work to become a full time smoker.
     
    All the discomfort of coughing, head spinning, feeling sick didn't stop you from carrying on. Going around and around with the constant cravings never stop you.
     
    Now years of conditioning later you have now decided the you want to quit. Now it's about pay the price for the choices that you made because you smoked or pay an even bigger price later on for not going through this now.
     
    It sounds harsh and brutal but this is completely true! Which price do you want to pay?
     
    You had to retrained your brain and body to smoke. Now put that same effort into retraining yourself to stop. You can do it. Just put the same effort in.
     
    Just as it got easier in time to smoke and it became natural,a part of you and you could never see the end.
     
    IF you stop you will get to the point that you will look at smokers and it won't look natural or right to you.
     
    Further along it does get easier. Life becomes normal again.
     
    Remember it's your choice. It always has been.
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/7786-the-choices-we-make/
     
     
  23. jillar
    MarylandQuitter
     
    Quit Date: 10/07/2013
     
    Posted October 4, 2014 
     
    is that you may not ever quit again.  This is a very realistic outcome if you choose to smoke again.  We've all heard that smoking doesn't make anything better when in fact it makes it worse.  It's doesn't calm you down, solve your problems and instead costs a small fortune and kills you.
     
    If you've started again, quit and right the ship.  If you're thinking about smoking again, quickly get that thought under control and make a decision based on facts, not emotion.  Emotion is what has always caused me to relapse.  I was pissed off, stressed or in some funk. 
     
    Here are a couple of videos to give you some things to think about work through this.  Just hang on, before you know it these rough times will pass.  Stay positive and stick around here.  With the nuts we have here (I'm the lead nut, thank you very much) you can't help but stay at least a little bit positive.
     
    The Power Of Nicotine Addiction
    Video explains the full power of the grip that nicotine can take on an individual and the consequences that can be faced if a person does not quit smoking.
     
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TpYRrZG5l8A
     
    Who Wants To Go Back To Smoking?
    This video discusses how former smokers at times think they want to go back to smoking, but if they really remind themselves of the package deal that goes along with being a smoker, it will be easy for them to stick to their quit.
     
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DG9qGjf2hd8&list=PL76365B6CE2DA076B
     
    Are You Stronger Than Your Cigarettes?
    This video discusses the importance of understanding that you won't be able to quit smoking and stay free by becoming stronger than cigarettes but rather by becoming smarter than nicotine.
     
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uxLxDuTOCT0
     
    "It's Inevitable, Some Smokers Are Going To Relapse" 
    If you are a member of any quit smoking support group, whether it be online or a live program, it is likely that some members of your group are going to fail. You should not interpret this fact to mean that it is likely or inevitable that you are going to fail. Video spells out the major difference between people who relapse and those who don't.
     
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ego_dpPmfOk
     
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/2942-the-thing-about-relapse-or-considering-it/
     
     
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    General
    Jenny
    Quit Date: 05/24/2012
     
    Posted November 9, 2014 
     
    Cravings are the most feared in a quit and we all know they can be uncomfortable. It's this fear that keeps many of us from even attempting to quit smoking. The fear of being uncomfortable.  We feel this way even though we know that smoking related disease is probably not terribly comfortable either.....addiction is so not rational....
     
    The addiction wants to manipulate you into believing that there is no way you could ever survive quitting.  No way you could ever get through a minute, hour or day feeling like you want to smoke and not give in.  
     
    Seriously.....Pffft.  We're tougher than that.  It's all just hype designed to keep you smoking.  A crave is not a command to smoke.  Just because you feel it, does not mean you need to act on it.  Acknowledge it and move on.  As time goes on, those craves will fade away and in it's place will be a person who stood up and took control of their life.  There is no greater feeling than that.  No greater feeling.
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/3385-fearing-the-crave/
     
  25. jillar

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    Soberjulie
     
    Posted November 7, 2015 
     
    I dunno if Sarge still posts here but some of his no nonsense, shoot from the hip, tell it like it is words helped me immensely in my first days...weeks...months.
    The best:
    Embrace The Suck.
     
    You'll have moments, many moments, where quitting just plain sucks.
    If you're anything like me, you'll think of throwing the towel in....because...."the way I feel sucks!"
     
    Embrace the suck.
    Accept it.
    Head down and power through it!
     
    Wherever you are Sarge.....thank you.
    I've earned them stripes!
    I'm coming up on 2 years.......and I never ever have to 'embrace the suck' in regards to nicotine anymore.
    But Embrace The Suck has been instrumental in many areas of my life
     
    Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/6233-wise-wordsembrace-the-suck/
     

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