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  1. I think anyone who's attempted to quit has felt the same way as you are feeling right now. Unsure at times if we could actually do it or not.

     

    The answer to that lies within you and you alone. The question is always the same; do you want to quit more than you want to smoke? You have a couple weeks invested in your quit now. Two of the toughest weeks you'll go through. Wouldn't it be a shame to waste those by throwing in the towel at this point? The more time you invest in quitting, the more reason there is to continue on with it because of that emotional investment.

     

    You don't know what's going on with you because your whole daily life as a smoker has been turned upside down by quitting. Smoking was tied to everything you did day to day so of course you feel lost now; anxious, angry and just plain uncomfortable. You're going through the process of learning to live your life without cigarettes at every turn. Doesn't it make sense to continue with that now that you've started the process? That's how you solidify your own quit by continuing to go through your daily routine without smoking. After awhile, that will become your normal state of being and you'll even wonder why oh why you ever smoked in the first place because it will seem so un-natural to you.

     

    The only way to get to that point is to carry on doing whay you're doing right now. All the quit symptoms you are feeling right now will slowly fade away as you become more and more established as a non-smoker. That process IS the same for all of us and that's why people are often moved to say; "If I can quit, anyone can!" The only reason any person would have to say that can't quit is if they choose not to. The ability to quit is within all of us unless we consciously choose not to.

     

    You've done much of the heavy lifting already in these first couple of weeks. Make that count for something and carry on!

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  2. Best thing you could possibly do for your future @Icandoit!

    As Jillar mentioned, have a look around the site and read as much as you can. Knowledge is power when it comes to quitting. 

    Small steps for now, one day at a time. Come here and ask questions you might have or just rant about the challenges you might experience. We've all been where you are and we've all had to do the same thing .... find our way through the quit process. It's possible for everyone including YOU!

     

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  3. Doing GREAT @Breath-of-Power!! 

    That first week is something else. You're getting everything thrown at you at once and have to develop methods of getting through it all that work for you.

     

    Keep up the great work! We're here when you needs us for asking and questions you may have or just for venting any frustrations.

     

    And remember, these tough early days WILL get better the longer you don't smoke!

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  4. 24 minutes ago, Gus said:

    Thanks everyone. I had a quiet reflective day. Within the past several weeks I found myself apologizing to my kids, grands, and those that I am closest to for having subjected them to my smelly and filthy habit. For not always being there or not being there 100% because I lived my life around my habit, not them. So many opportunities to live, love, and laugh missed and gone forever. But I can be here, now. I can help others gain and keep their freedom from smoking. Although we can’t regain the time we’ve lost, we most assuredly can ensure living without regard to nicotine’s demands on our time, mindset, health, and finances. I appreciate everyone here so very much. Thank you all again. 🤗

     

    Well said gus!

    Until we've been quit for awhile we just don't realize how many of life's precious moments we lost over the years being a slave to our addiction.

    Feels good & right that we can atone for that in some way now. Yet another part of the healing process we could not even have imagined when we took that first step.

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  5. 2 hours ago, Breath-of-Power said:

    Ok challenge ahead.

    Today was a good day.

    Can Not wake up to smoking tomorrow. Can not smoke tomorrow, or today for the remaining of the waking hours.

    Send NOPEs my way! And i can say to you all, or to You reading this: Not one puff ever.

     

    Not even one, friend. 

     

     

     

    That's the spirit @Breath-of-Power!!

    You can always pledge your very own nope on the Daily Nope Pledge Page as well.This is what some of us do just to remind ourselves each and avery day Not One Puff Ever!

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  6. There's absolutely NO reason you can't quit smoking! Many people all over the world quit every year. All of us go through similar struggles as we fight to recapture our non-smoking selves. 

     

    Why don't you just start believing that you CAN quit smoking? Then there's no contradiction created when you try to quit. Even though you may go through many struggles when quitting, that doesn't mean you can't quit. Anyone can quit ... it just a matter of pushing forward and not smoking no matter what comes you way. It gets ugly at times but it won't kill you; on the contrary, you'll be reclaiming your life by quitting.

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  7. Get rid of those smokes right away!!

     

    Drown them in water and do it as an act of victory because those damn smokes will no longer run your life! You have chosen freedom!!

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  8. 14 hours ago, Breath-of-Power said:

    hey all.

    im not in my best state now because relapsed aand here-I-am---- or should I say nevertheless I am here!

    I do want to say something. Everything is possible. & hardly we ever realize that we can cut anything out of our lives in the blink on an eye.

    It not about being doable or not doable. easy or hard. it is what it is . what is easy? what is not-easy?? blessing or curse? dualism type thinking.! just resolve to quit smoking, intend it, use techniques like throwing all apparatus of smoking away. 

    our lives never depended on smoking; never did, never will. - this might be a good mantra.

     

    Many, many people aren't successful on their first try or even more tries. There's no shame in trying and falling back unless you just stay there and you don't make a new commitment to quit once you've gathered yourself together again.

     

    The key is NOT to give up trying and you must learn from your mistakes and think about how you will make better decisions next time you find yourself in a simlar situation. When you're a smoker you're addicted to nicotine so yes ... throw away all smoking material so they're not within easy reach. Understand that what quitting smoking actually involves is breaking that link in your mind between smoking & all you're daily situations. That takes quite awhile and a lot of repetition before you are mentally over relying on smokes time and time again each & every day.

     

    Firstly you need to make that unbreakable commitment to yourself to quit. Then take things just one day at a time as you fight those cravings to smoke. Trust me, that intense craving for a smoke lessens over time. Staying smoke free each & every day MUST be absolute top of mind in order not to cave in to the cravings.

     

    Quitting is a marathon, not a sprint. Treat it that way and be patient, one day at a time!

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  9. 49 minutes ago, Doreensfree said:

    I was told by a smoker yesterday , a packet of her Cigarettes cost her £ 13 70 pence .

    This is crazy money ..

     So I agree that amount of money each day would pay for a great holiday 

    But 

    Being on a ship for 37 days ..

    Thirty of those days I would have my head down the Loo ..lol..

    I don't know what a pack of smokes goes for around here now but it was $12.50 when I quit 7 years ago so I imagine

    the cost is a lot higher now for sure! Yet one of many benefits to quitting :) 

     

    Doreen, the seas were very calm for most of our recent trip. You would have been fine I think. No motion at all could be felt. But yes, I can understand your concern. Nothing worse than bein sea sick!

     

     

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  10. Cheapest smokes I ever saw while on vacation was in St. Martin. $19.00/carton for U.S. cigs. I remember thinking; Wow! If I was still smoking, I'd be all over that!

    2 hours ago, Paul723 said:

    What we used to spend on cigarettes now pays for vacations!  Lots of rewards for quitting.  Great vacation photos.

    Absolutely true!

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