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#4832 ***NO MORE EXCUSES***

Posted by babs609 on 06 April 2014 - 02:39 PM

I'm 16....right now I'm a teen, i'm having fun. I enjoy smoking. I can quit at any time. So, I'll quit when......

I'm 20.. but life is a little stressful right now...I have 2 babies, working full time..saving to buy a house....I'm still young and won't be affected long term by this smoking...no big deal...right? I'll quit definitely by the time...

I'm 25.....still a lot of my family and friends still smoke...they seem to be okay. That must mean I'll be ok..My parents both smoked for years and they are both still healthy and vibrant...look at all these people outside..taking a smoke break with me...we are all ok right???

I'm 30.....starting to get a little nervous...my dad quit, my sister quit, handful of friends are jumping ship,. I've had 15+ years of smoking now and fear is creeping in a little. Fear of quitting..and never enjoying life as I know it...and fear of never quitting and suffering a horrible disease and feeling the effects of smoking. Time to dig that hole in the sand deeper and put my head in there...I'll quit when...

I'm 36..Dad is diagnosed...Stage 4 lung cancer..inoperable. :blink: :( My smoking has now doubled! I know...he's dying and I'm smoking more...what is wrong with me? As dad lie in a coma taking his last breaths...I whispered in his ear "I promise daddy, I'm going to quit smoking". I purchased a copy of Allen Carr's easyway to quit smoking and I did it...I quit smoking!! Yay me!!!! :) 3 months later...I start getting restless...cravings are coming left and right...I read the book again but the words aren't jumping out at me like they did when I first read it...I felt like I was losing my mind. I looked at the back of the book and called a number they listed as support...It was in London. The book was old and the number was for the publishing company, not a support line. I was losing my strength...and ultimately relapsed. :( I will probably be a smoker for life....I can't do this again....

The next 8 years are a blurr....that book remained on my shelf collecting dust--every once in a while I would glance at it with guilt and say...some day...maybe in the spring when it's nice out, maybe the summer, maybe the fall, after christmas,...new years resolution, after my birthday....ok..after spring again..one excuse after another. I was smoking more than ever. I did quit a few times during that time...few days or weeks..only to smoke again...always started with one puff.

Finally...at the age of 44...after all that struggle, relapse, disappointment, denial, and thousands of excuses....I finally picked up that book..knowing this was it...I was either going to quit for good this time...or I was going to remain a smoker till my death. I knew I just didn't have another quit in me otherwise. I can't keep going through the torture of quitting over and over..it's exhausting..and the pain from relapse is too distressing.

So, my final quit began. Only this time...I knew that the quitting journey was a roller coaster and even though I feel strong in my quit one day...doesn't mean I will still feel that way the next. I proved that on my last quit. I Googled quit smoking support and got it. Best thing I ever did to ensure that I would never smoke again. I introduced myself and became a member.

Point of the story is....time moves so quickly..and the excuses are just that....excuses. Before you know it...nearly 30 years have gone by. The best time to quit is TODAY....tomorrow has a way of always being that carrot that dangles out in front of you...never able to reach it. Addictions are design to hook you for life. I do wish I quit sooner, I do wish I never smoked. But wishing for something that is in the past, is a waste of time. The only thing I can change is what I do from now on.

My quality of life is so much better today. I am healthier, happier, and confident. I have quite a smoking history and am full aware it may come back to bite me in the ass...however I will not die a smoker chained to addiction. No matter what. I am free.

If you are reading this and still smoking, please.....sign up...join today. Read all the information here and in the blog and educate yourself about nicotine addiction. Don't just read once..read again and again and again until you "get it".

You will never regret that you quit smoking but there is plenty of regret when you don't.

Quit today....no more excuses.
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#66997 Think you need just one?

Posted by Nancy on 18 September 2014 - 01:36 PM

I found this here.


I have to have a cigarette, RIGHT NOW  
By tahoehal  on November 26 2008 at 10:17 pm 



Picture yourself a second or two after you stub out that quit-breaking cigarette. The one that you just had to have because the craving was so strong you couldn't hold out any longer, when that voice inside you was saying.. "Go on, life sucks, you may as well smoke a cig.. y'know for your nerves.." or the other one.. "you've got this beat now.. you are in control.. you can have one just now and again.. go on have one for old time's sake.." So you bum a cigarette, and smoke it and in 2 and 1/2 minutes, you stub it out.

Now what. Your mouth feels like crap. Your lungs are tightening up. You managed to stifle the coughs .. but barely. You began to squint again because the smoke hurt your eyes. and your fingers and clothes smell again. You either want to throw up, grab some mouthwash, take a shower, or have another.. maybe buy a pack.

But then you realize what you've just done. After all those times when you said you were going to quit, and then when you finally did, and your family and friends were so happy for you - but not exactly over the moon, because after all they've been hopeful before only to see you relapse - all that enthusiasm is now smashed to pieces on the floor. And all the pressure that drove you to grab that cigarette in the first place - it's all still there. Nothing has changed, except now you've added one more problem: you just blew it. 

And then you realize what you've really done. You had invested days, maybe weeks and months, in this quit. You had made a great decision, one of the few things you really and truly felt proud of in your life, and you just blew it. You just blew the quit that you swore to yourself was the last one. You were so positive, so motivated, and encouraged, you were really on top of it, ahead of the game for once, you had taken control of your life and it felt like a whole new beginning.. and you just blew it.

You look at that stub in the ashtray. The grey ash and the brown edge to the burnt paper, and the tar stain on the end of filter. You remember the thousands of cigarettes you have stubbed out and think about the tar that came into your lungs as smoke. And you think if smoking that one cigarette was worth it. Nothing's better. You feel a little dizzy now as the nicotine hits your body, even a little nauseous - certainly don't feel the pleasure that you remember the adverts and billboards were promoting during your early years as a smoker. In fact it's hard to remember any time when you felt that pleasure.. just another tobacco company lie.. They helped you to become an addict the first time, but when you smoked that cigarette after you quit.. well that was a whole new decision. You made that one all by yourself - there's no pointing fingers now, you know that cigarettes kill, so when you lit that one cigarette, the choice to smoke was all yours - no-one else to blame. And you just blew it. 

It wasn't worth it.. time after time the slippers' and relapsers' lament how they feel like crap, how ashamed they are, how they have lost confidence and hope, how they hate themselves, how much it hurts, how depressed and they cry and hide and cry some more. And now you are one of them.. the quit losers. Lost in the wilderness, not quite a smoker.. yet and not sure you are a quitter, searching for some dignity, some self-respect out of this. All because of that one cigarette. Because you blew it. 
One Puff
One Cigarette
One Pack
One Carton
One Oxygen tank
One Lung
One Chemotherapy
One Funeral
One less.

Hal 08-20-2004
A puff is too much, a thousand cartons are not enough. 

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#109635 How to prevent a relapse

Posted by Chrysalis on 06 January 2015 - 01:50 PM

Subtitle: The Romance Is Dead!



This is the time of year when many people quit smoking. Most especially, people who quit before but relapsed are trying again. I think that is wonderful (that they're coming back, not that they relapsed).


Reading their posts has made me realize that in very many cases, people relapse because they are still romancing the cigarette. That means that they still WANT to smoke even though they know that smoking does nothing good for them. They still remember those quietly satisfying evenings on the deck smoking. They remember that a-a-a-h-h-h! of satisfaction with the first long draw on a cigarette. And they want that again. And so even if they are weeks or months into a quit-- even though the PHYSICAL addiction is long gone-- they essentially choose to go back to smoking because of the pull of these romantic fantasies about how good smoking was.


Well, I was the poster child for romancing the cigarette. Throughout this quit and all my previous quits (of which there were several) I always wanted to smoke. I didn't smoke-- I controlled myself-- but I wanted to smoke. All the time. Almost every day. It seemed to me that after 4 or 5 months quit, almost everybody on the board was way done with smoking and happy about it. I still missed it. And that was frustrating because my rational brain KNEW that the "pleasure" of smoking was vastly over rated and mostly imaginary. I KNEW that I was romancing the cigarette and I really did not want to go back to smoking. But the seductive thoughts were there. Maybe not every day, but often enough to be very annoying.


I'm here to tell you that today, more than 9 months after my quit, I realize that I am not desiring a cigarette hardly ever! This is a first for me. And this death of the romance is not just a matter of time-- I quit smoking before for periods of up to a year and still suffered from romancing.


I think that the difference this time is that I educated myself about Nicodemon's lies. It's as though my rational brain has told my junkie brain over and over and over again "No, smoking is NOT pleasurable! And such small, brief pleasure as you feel when you smoke comes at way too great a cost! Forget it!" and finally, FINALLY junkie brain is quieting down. What a relief!


Now I do admit that during these "romancing episodes" that I'm talking about-- those days when I really, really wanted a cigarette-- I had to remind myself over and over again about why I quit smoking in the first place and remind myself over and over again that I wanted to quit more than I wanted to smoke. I had to FIGHT to keep my quit many, many times over the months. The urge to smoke wasn't constant, but it was frequent. Sometimes it was quite miserable.


I'm still jealous of people who seemed to have it easier than I did. I often thought that I was a "special snowflake" and I had it harder than other quitters-- few people admitted that they still wanted to smoke many months after a quit. But whether I had it worse than anyone else or not, I hung in there, reminded myself about why I quit, and that I was DETERMINED not to smoke.

Now, at last, I can look back over the last few weeks and realize that the romance is dead. I finally, finally am at the point where I do think about smoking once in a while but it's like a vague thought that is easily dismissed, not a serious desire. I have heard others describe this "vague thought" phenomenon many months after a quit and I finally understand what they are talking about.


So I guess I am writing this to say that if you are many weeks or months into a quit and you still want a cigarette, you are not alone. What you are experiencing is real. It does happen to some people (like me, for example). You are romancing the cigarette and you have to use your rational brain, your smoking education, and your strong desire to quit to fight the urge. And eventually, sooner or later, you will turn around one day and realize that the romance is dead. You really don't have to fight to keep your quit anymore-- you just have to remain vigilant and committed.


Hang in there, folks!  You can DO this!

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#43651 You don't just 'Get off the Quit Train....'

Posted by IamDoingIt on 16 July 2014 - 01:12 AM

I do not care who you are! You do not just 'Get off the Quit Train....'


You throw yourself head-first off a speeding train to land in the track bed below the train. You bounce down the railroad ties, bumping, flipping, twirling after the train.


A few of the train's car wheels run you over and you may stick to the steel wheel....spinning 'round and 'round as other riders in the car sit comfortably in their quit. Soon, you are flipped off the wheel. Whew, thank God you didn't die! Well, since you're off the train, may as well have a smoke to get over that horrifying ordeal of hurtling yourself off the quit train. But wait!!!!! The quit train is continuing on without you! WAIT QUIT TRAIN, W A I T ! ! ! ! "I'm back here," you scream at the top of your lungs. Hmm....may as well light up again. This is getting out of hand!


You keep taking puffs of cigarettes as you desperately chase after the train. With each puff, you see that train that you were once comfortably setting on, pull a little further away from you. You trip on a rail spike and split your chin on the rail. You dust yourself off and start chasing that train once again. The train is further down the tracks, almost out of sight.


You struggle so hard to catch that train but each time you stop to light that cigarette, the train just keeps getting further away from you. Soon, the train is out of sight.


You get tired of chasing after the train, so you decide to go back to the depot and wait for the train to pass on the next round. While waiting for the train (what's wrong? It should be here any minute), you buy another pack of smokes. You soon hear the train approach. You hear the whistle in the near distance. You are so excited!!!! To celebrate the arrival of the train, you pull out what you say will be your last cigarette and just as you inhale the first puff, the train amazingly flashes right by the depot without stopping to pick you up!!!!


Why?!?!?! Why didn't the train stop for me this time? You ask yourself. Feeling defeated, you go home. On the way home you stop to pick up a carton of cigarettes. If the train will not stop for me, I sure as heck am not going to run out of smokes! You think to yourself. Every once in awhile, you will hear the Quit Train's whistle off in the distance. You remember how nice it was to be on the train. You wish you were still setting with your quit friends talking about every subject under the sun with them. You are envious of the people still on the train.


Sometimes, you walk down by the tracks. When the train whizzes by, you get glances of the people inside. Look! There's MarylandQuitter, the Sarge, and Nancy. El Bandito, Beacon, Bakon, PetraD, ChristaC! So many faces you see, you cannot name them all. All the friendly faces who cared about you. You see each and every one of them. They flash by looking so comfortable. You don't see a few faces you expect to see. You wonder where they are. You suspect they did the exact same thing as you. You feel sad for them, but you feel sadder for yourself.


A few of those riders (Marti, Ava, and MarylandQuitter) actually reach a hand out to you. As you reach your own hand back out to grab hold, you realize you can't grab hold because that would mean dropping the cigarette you are holding. You drop your head and turn around to go back home, wishing desperately you were on that train with them. You feel so bad you light another cigarette. Perhaps tomorrow, you'll grab hold.


The next time you hear the train whistle, you are on the way to the convenience store to get another pack of cigarettes. You listen for a second and continue to the store as the Quit Train whistle dies off in the distance.


When you are in your favorite smoking space, you often think of the Quit Train as you take a puff on one of the many smokes of the day. You remember what it was like on the train. You remember the freedom from nicotine you had. Oh, why, OH, WHY did you through yourself off? You ask yourself.


Everything starts repeating, over and over....going to the station, watching the train pass, seeing the riders, all while holding a cigarette.


Then one day, in whatever manner that happened to work....the stars aligned, the magic spell was cast, the dice were tossed, 7's came up, the moon was full....no matter the reason, things worked to go to the station without cigarettes.


You once again make the trek to the station. You anxiously sit in the depot, perhaps even with the lingering smell of smoke on your body. Then you hear the whistle.... It came up very quick. Much quicker than when you were just dreaming and wishing to get on board. The train engine whizzes by the depot. Oh, no! The Quit Train is not going to stop for me again, you think to yourself. Then, as soon as the thought enters your mind, the train slams on the brakes and comes to a screeching halt with the door right in front of you. As soon as you put your foot on the step to enter, the train takes off again. You are back on the Quit Train. Finally!!!!!!


You tentatively step through the doorway. Inside you see many faces you know, a few new ones and a few you expected are not there. The emotions on the passengers faces, as they look at you, range from sheer elation to see you, to frowns, and questioning. With a few pats on the back, a few hand shakes, and a few swift kicks in the ass, everyone welcomes you as you set down in a seat.



Yes, folks, that is pretty much the journey I took in these last few months, but I am back.


I did not get off the Quit Train, I hurled myself off by taking a puff.


IamDoingIt is now back.

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#13084 this little girl.........

Posted by babs609 on 15 April 2014 - 03:28 AM

will never know her Mom-Mom as a smoker. My granddaughter Kaylee  :wub:


Feels so good to be able to say that!!





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#6330 You Just Don't

Posted by Soberjulie on 07 April 2014 - 11:07 PM

some days are harder than others.

but you don't pick up that first cigarette

you just don't.

it's less about willpower than it is about making a decision not to, in advance of the thought or the desire, no matter how scared, angry, jealous, happy, bored, horny, depressed, anxious, elated, insecure, arrogant, lonely or silly you feel.

some days it seems that although yesterday life looked good, today it doesn't, and although you know the only thing that's changed is your attitude, it's hard to shake.

but you don't pick up that first cigarette

the one that always leads to all the others.

you just don't.

even though you might think about it for a minute.

(but you're too smart to let that thought linger. Still ... for just a minute, the idea is there

it feels like the Universe is leaning on every.



so you make some phone calls

but all you get is voice mail.

but you don't pick up that first cigarette

you just don't.

you leave messages all over Quit Train and Facebook pretending to be doing a little better than you are, but sort of alluding to the idea that, gosh, if they could get back to you that would be cool...

You feel stupid about what could amount to spamming your social networks but you log on and do the same thing again.

and that thought from before, the one about smoking didn't leave, exactly. it's like a piece of food stuck between your teeth, or a little splinter on the bottom of an unimportant toe (not the big one, that you'd feel with every step -- this is there/not there -- uncomfortable enough to feel but not so much that you stop and do something about it.)

so you get busy, and try to write, or read, or do that whatever-it-was you've been putting off, but that just feels futile or irritating.

and you dare the universe to dazzle you with some amazing "coincidence" -- a call from your quit buddy right now -- a knock on the door right this moment, a particular song on the radio the second you turn it on -- a Sign you can share about at Quit Train then everyone will smile warmly and nod, and you'll feel all "right" with things and wise and connected ... but ...

nothing happens. no call. no knock. an ad for discount mattresses on the radio.

and you don't pick up the first cigarette

you just don't.

you judge yourself an ingrate, a poser, an impostor, a spoiled/wounded ass/sadsack, pathetic

you judge yourself for judging yourself,

you go to the refrigerator you look at porn you click through channels on tv you wonder if you need medication,

you suspect you should try deep breathing and meditation

but you don't.

but you don't pick up the first cigarette

you just don't.

and it gets better.

it passes.


If you Just Don't.
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#16859 Executive Assistant

Posted by Stuart on 20 April 2014 - 12:26 PM

The below is a repost of a repost of a repost...


It is a post that I have found invaluable. I posted it somewhere else today - and LB suggested it have a thread of its own....


Triggers: Reminders From Your Executive Assistant 

Original post : Kattatonic Gold/ Freedom member. 

"It's all in your head" has developed a really bad rap in our culture. What's up with that? The power of the brain is remarkable. We should marvel and be impressed. 

Has anyone told you that since physical withdrawal is over... get a grip... or get over it... or something like that? 

What about patience with yourself? You've been informed that it's psychological after 2 weeks . Do you think the impulse to smoke should stop now, now, now? 

Do you think impulses after you have quit for a while indicate you are weak? 
Quite the contrary, actually. Your brain is working as designed. 

Okay, listen up. Your brain is amazing. Every time you do anything, one function your brain performs is to try to save you time and prevent you from repeating past mistakes. So quickly and subconsciously, your brain scans the memory banks for similar circumstances whenever you do anything. When it finds comparable history, it compares that with what you are doing now and alerts you to differences, just like an efficient little assistant. 

Yesterday I pulled on my day pack, went out the front door and turned left to walk up the street. Suddenly I am hit with a trigger. Why? Because I haven't turned left off my front stoop since before I quit. I quit in the winter and I have either gone out the back door to my car, or turned right to walk to the subway. Turning left means I am going to bother to walk to the grocery, which I haven't done since I quit. 

The part of my brain that tries to save me time, let's call him the Executive Assistant (the EA), recalled past left turns from the stoop. He went down a checklist. What did she need / what did she use on previous excursions like this? Wallet? Check. Keys? Check. Bags? Check. Smokes? NOPE. "Ah, ah, ah, excuse me!" I could imagine him running up behind me yesterday as I set out and picked up pace. "You've forgotten your cigarettes! You're going to need your cigarettes when you get to the café!" (I treat myself to a special coffee when I bother to walk to the market.) 

Remember all those times you forgot your cigarettes and kicked yourself? It was such an inconvenience when you were an active using addict. Back then, your reaction went something like this: "Memo to self. Don't forget the cigarettes!" What I'm calling the 'EA' function in your brain monitors these memos. He got the memos and he's acting on them. He got thousands of memos like that! 

The poor guy is just trying to do his job. So I thanked my EA for trying to save me frustration, reminded him that I no longer smoke and that he should refer to the new Never Take Another Puff memo. 

After my coffee up the street, I paused to listen to the Let's-Smoke trigger, a little different and a more uncomfortable than the Forgot-Your-Cigarettes trigger. There he was again, but this time trying to get me to actually smoke! What a guy! His reasoning? "You've eaten, walked and coffeed, you're about to shop... you are going to want a smoke before you know it and you'd always rather smoke here than while walking home. Always! Always!" 

This guy is no dummy. I did in fact send him that memo many, many times. For heavens sake, I smoked for 25 years. The filing cabinets are full of those old memos. 

How to teach an old dog new tricks? Well the EA in our brains can and does learn new routines all the time. We may learn slower as we age but we do still learn and adapt, especially if we do it consciously. We have to note new memos to ourselves, sometimes several times and we have to be kind to ourselves... or our ‘EAs’. The kinder and calmer you are, the more chance you have of him 'getting it' each time. So what to do in the café? 

I said to my EA, "Thanks! I appreciate the reminder but you have to look at the newer One = All memo again. I am not going to smoke today or ever. Please remember that coffee time is no longer smoke time." 

He will get it; I know he will. It will just take a while and a walk through all my various scenarios. He is really very, very good. He learned so well the first time -- I have to give him time to learn the new mandate. 

Thanks for reading my ramblings. You are doing it,! It is doable! It does get better and it is worth it... wait! Make that, YOU are worth it. Yes, you are.The factor that really shows the addiction is not how hard or how easy it is to quit. What really shows the addiction is how universally easy it is to go back. One puff and the quit can go out the window.UCanQuit 


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#55320 Why are we here

Posted by beacon on 20 August 2014 - 11:49 PM

Today while leaving work in a funk I saw two smokers and had the typical half thought that they were lucky to get to smoke and I do not. However, my following thought came unprompted, which was, look at them; they do not care about themselves. How sad.

I thought about this board and how each of us is trying to better ourselves, to live a better life. For some members it is really hard but they struggle and struggle to succeed.

I am very proud of all of you. It is so easy not to do anything, to let things ride, to ignore. Instead we as a group have chosen to be better. We spend time here reinforcing , stock piling strength, to be better. And we have succeeded.
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#39960 It has all certainly changed...

Posted by scottinpa on 30 June 2014 - 07:39 PM

Note: wasnt sure where to put this, so mods please move where it is appropriate.  thanks!


Well I am taking a couple minutes to give you all an update. I said I would in a thread a couple days ago, so here it goes.


First of all, I do still check in every so often but I rarely post anymore... not for any particular reason, its just seems my time has passed with the forums. I was never the one with the insight and strategies etc in regards to smoking and quitting smoking. I was the behind the scenes guy trying to keep a group together and getting to a full year quit. Posting on behalf of others and trying to keep everybody positive. I made a lot of internet friends.  I was on the forums all day and a good part of the night for about a year. It consumed me, but it got me through it and to where I am today.....


My quit smoking journey started in january 2013 and it was the beginning of a huge list of firsts for me. It was the reason for me to join my first ever forum. I had never been in a chat room before, didnt know what a PM was... lol! I am still techinically challenged. Those first few months were a serious ride, and I remember people talking about how their lives had changed because of quitting smoking. I thought I understood what they meant, but let me tell you, now I know I didn't . Change is not a strong enough word,, it is more like evolving.


I have a totally different outlook on my life now. I am now in charge of a bike group of about 20 people ( it is still growing ). I ride approximately 80 to 100 miles per week on average. I go to a gym at least 5 days per week and pilates once a week. I have lost 50 pounds  and am now the waiste size I was 30 years ago when I graduated high school. In addition to operatining my store, I was recently asked to be an auctioneer for one of the local auction houses, I also work on an as needed basis with two other auction companies.


I am enjoying my smoke free life...  I am so grateful to so many of you for getting me here, wether you knew you were helping or not! 


Tomorrow I will be 18 months smoke free!!!  :)


Life is good!!!  You all need to stick with this quit, Its a wicked ride in the beginning, but what a great ride when you look back on it!


You are all going to love it!!


I will be watching!  


Happy 4th of July!

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#116453 Anyone know where the stairs to the Lido deck are?

Posted by Stuart on 27 January 2015 - 08:49 AM

Well, here we are. Not a finishing line, more of a staging post. Tomorrow will be January 28. One year and a day since I quit smoking. for the first time in three decades, I will pass two 'January 28s' without smoking a cigarette.

I have a feeling that I will find it much easier to not smoke on this January 28th than I did on the last one. January 28 2014, I awoke in a hotel room on the Riviera Maya committed to not smoking again.

Like many planning a quit, I had "power smoked" on the last day. I finished the evening chain smoking on the terrace outside my room, determined to finish the pack, either by smoking them or destroying them. Naturally - I finished them. Taking total for the day to a round 50. I also finished reading Allen Carr's 'The EasyWay to Stop Smoking'.

The plan had been to finish the book, and the last of my cigarettes at the end of the holiday (or vacation for my American friends). I would smoke my last cigarette outside the airport at Cancun - the forced abstinence of travel giving me a running start.

I had read the book before, and even managed a 9 month practice quit. As I read the closing chapters, I felt an increasing confidence that this time I could quit for good. I brought the day forward to three days before the flight. The confidence quite literally went up in smoke that final night. I drew deep on every cigarette, feeling the hit of the smoke on my throat, the metallic taste in my mouth.

Did I really want to quit? Was this the right time? Surely it was better to stick to the plan? Maybe just another pack? It would me mean on my lovely wife to ruin the last few days of our trip away...

Finally - I decided to quit. Just for a bit. I could always decide tomorrow to use one of the excuses above - but why not follow the advice in the book, stop and be happy that I have stopped.

Still smiling.

It was a few weeks until I came across Quit Forums. One stormy night, I responded to a comment from an English poster about the expected winds...so I met a guy called Action. Over the coming days I came across threads that seemed to cover exactly the way that I was feeling. People took the time to give me advice, to direct me to resources that might help me in my battle.

I started chipping in where I could. I began to learn a little about more and more people and began to understand the dangers of communication on the Internet. I came across some amazing people sharing freely of their experience in quitting smoking. Many of those amazing people are posting here every day. But one or two are not.

So - Cristobal - it was destined that Mexico would be central in my quit. Thank you amigo. Anna - I will drop you an email anyway - and I hope some of our mutual friends will name check you for me elsewhere. Markus. The vigilant quit is surviving - and remains vigilant.

The Invisible Man. RIP sir.

Paul, TAC, KSMedic, I miss you.

You lot. From every corner, of every age, of every interest - I have been fortunate to have been held up by the strength and support of wonderful people, many of whom I may never meet.

Bakon - (he never gets past 4 lines, so someone will need to tell him) You are superbly nuts.

My little gang was probably Joolz and the Comrade - both safely over the line and the Lady Bug - who I believe is still quit. Emma (Amberdawn) dropped by the other day, a healthy new Mom.

The Sarge. I took a while to get it. But. Got it.

The Lace Quit Team (or was it the Rez and Tracey date Team?). You guys know who you are - and you are all awesome. Even the upsidedown one.

I feel sad for the few that I remember that have fallen by the wayside - I hope with all my heart that they can be persuaded to come back. Jackie, Amy, Rachael (maybe) Juan Martin, Sooz to name just a few.

MQ. Thank you.

For the site - and for the team. Redser, Babs, DD, Ava, Jen. Unbeatable.

Old timers, Old Phartes, Engine Drivers - I'm with you on the Lido deck now. I'll squeeze in between Frez, Fay, Nancy, Doreen, Petra and Leanna talking to Joe and Jengels about birth control. Jimmy, Wiley, Chrispy and I are discussing whether Bakon can ever be saved. Beacon and I are chatting about catching money launderers. Is Justsomeguy one do you think? And all these dodgy Antipodeans? What about that Northerner down in Essex? Suebedoo. Fancy a pint? Scott, let's go through that weight loss plan again. Armed...Aruba eh? Beacon and I will need to talk about that too.

Those who are following us old folk along. I remember looking at people who seemed SO far ahead...I had a couple of weeks, they had 3 MONTHS...they seemed to have cracked it. They seemed so far ahead. Now, they are next to me on the Lido deck.

To some, it might seem that we oldies have it all sorted out. We don't. We read and post because we know that posting helps firm up out own quits as well as help with another's. Shouting along for Jess, Chrysalis, Kristin, Sexy Sarah, DF, Humbled, Sandar, Iam, Jeffrey, Sonic, Wendy, Mason, Laura, Lots of Jens, Rob, Brenndy, RF, Oneistoo helped me remember what is important. For determination, Evelyn, you are an inspiration to me every day.

Quit buddies. I have two of the best. Karen the Mastergardener writes honestly and gently. She grits her teeth and holds on tight. Marti has carried me through many a wobble (unknowingly half the time), has made me smile, laugh, cry and apply a bit of perspective. God bless both of you.

I have name checked a few of you. There are many more whose names I have not mentioned. Thanks to all of you and all of them. The strength of this place comes from its breadth. Every post, whether a long rambling one like this, or a digit in the counting game is important. It helps.

Smoking is a horrible addiction. We are addicted because we fell for a deliberate confidence trick played upon us for profit. The scandal is that the trick continues to be played.

Quitting is doable. If I can do it, anyone can.

Personally, I believe that understanding the nature of the addiction is the key. I take my hat off to anyone that quits without understanding that smoking is a con. We never liked it. I am not abstaining from a fun activity because it is bad for me: I quit doing something that tasted horrible, looked horrible and purposely addicted me. I freed myself.

Quitting methods? Me, I went cold turkey. That was the way for me. Make a commitment and stick to it. But It doesn't matter. Vaping, NRT, Champix, hypnosis....all perfectly valid. The Quit is personal. It doesn't matter how you quit. As long as you quit.

Newbies, Lurkers, Ponderers: For your family, for your friends, for yourself, Quit.

If I can help at all, I'll do my best.

I have to name check the most important quitter of them all. La Bandita. As I entered Day 5, she said "Oh. He is serious. I had better quit too". She has put up with me every day and just quietly got on with it. Love you Amore.

So Quit Train. Today, I will raise a glass to every single one of you, and thank you all for being here.

Big Brackets all round...

Then tomorrow, I'll go back to normal length posts. ;-)

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#9991 Will I ever stop wanting to smoke?

Posted by Aine on 11 April 2014 - 01:20 AM

Yes. It finally happened for a few hours today. 6 weeks quit, and each day slightly better, with a few hiccup days occasionally. But, still most of my brain has been caught up with "not smoking." Today I worked in my new office (got a promotion, too, that actually came with some more money--doesn't usually happen that way. lol!) and then went to the gym after work. Either it was just time and/or the new office, where I had never had any smoking triggers occur, but I actually felt at peace as a non smoker. You all said "wait." I didn't think it could happen for me; after all, I smoked a lot, for a very long time. . .
I'm going to keep waiting. For more hours, more days, of not killing myself.
I'm starting to think that maybe I can do this.
Thanks, all of you. I couldn't have done this alone.

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#67229 Did Not Even Think Of It yahoo

Posted by tracey on 18 September 2014 - 10:35 PM

For the first time in my quit I did not think of a smoke when emotionally upset and had wine :)


Yahoo I think I hit a break through :)


I did not even think of it until later today when I smelt someone elses and thought I did not even think of it last night!


now this to ME is massive


keep ploughing through your quits people there is light at the end of the tunnel 







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#6375 Anyone ever use affirmations?

Posted by leahcaR on 07 April 2014 - 11:50 PM

I don't really know where this post should go.  I feel like it might help here.  


I know a lot of people mention anxiety, nervousness, panic feelings or just not thinking you can do something or will fail at it (smoking)... I know a lot of people have this to say about life in general but also a lot of people use these words when talking about quitting smoking or thinking of quitting smoking.  I know I used to.  ALL the time.  each one of those words I associated to quitting whenever the thought of quitting popped in my mind.  or even thinking I may fail at it.  


We talk ourselves out of so much in life.  So many good things.  not just quitting smoking.  But anything that might be good like opportunities or chances we could/should take but don't because we let negative thinking get in our way.  


I havent really mentioned this to anyone here since I quit because I figured some might find it strange.  But the more I thought about it recently I realized it is not strange or new agey.... we have inner dialogue with ourselves ALL the time.  You don't even realize you do it because you do it so much.  And if you stopped and thought about it you would realize that most of it is negative.  "I can't stop smoking"  "I would fail" "it would be too hard"  "it makes me anxious just thinking about quitting" or even day to day things like "I cant get that report done in time"  "no one likes me"  "I could never succeed at that"  


Think about it and be honest... you say those things all the time and hardly realize it.  You say something enough times to yourself you will believe it.  Constantly reinforcing the negative thinking/talking to yourself and you will believe it.  But no one thinks its strange that we do this. We don't find it strange that we do this because we are so used to it.  But someone says they use positive affirmations and everyone stops and stares at them secretly wondering what voodoo they are up to.  


If it's okay to talk to yourself negatively it shouldn't be weird to talk to yourself positively.  And if we know anything we know the more times we say something to ourselves we start to believe it.  It's something to think about.  


I have started using affirmations during random times in my life since I quit.  From when I feel like I might want a cigarette to other items related to work or peers.  And I have found them to really work.  Calm me down when I am on the brink of anxiety (and I also suffer from anxiety attacks as some others) and I have used them to calm down about the smoking desires when they used to creep up or if I think I might end up in a trigger situation.


Repeating something to myself over and over for about five minutes or however long I feel necessary really helps me and gets me to start believing what I am saying.  At first of course you wont believe it but give it a chance.  After all,  repeatedly telling yourself you are going to fail at quitting makes you believe it doesn't it? So why should this be counted out?


Here are some good ones for not smoking:


I cancel smoking out of my life.

I am smoke free and craving free from nicotine.

I love fresh air and abhor cigarettes.

I love myself more than I love smoking.  

I honor and respect myself always.


And then here are some for anxiety which we know comes along with those nicotine withdrawals and cravings.. and other situations in life:


I transcend stress of any kind; I live in peace.

All is well in my world and I am safe.

I am at peace.  I am calm.  All is well.

When this is over I will be glad that I did it.

This may be hard now but it will become easier and easier.

I let go of all the lies I tell myself. 

There is a great reason this is unfolding before me.



and this states how best to use affirmations and other info:


Affirmations work most effectively when they are recited repeatedly and while giving your full focus to them. Not only should you say the words, but you should also do your best to feel the corresponding FEELING associated with the words. For example, if you say, "I feel so strong and empowered" you should actually take on the feelings of being strong and empowered. This does take practice if you are not used to controlling your emotional state, but it does get easier the more you practice it.

Constant repetition many times a day is important also, because you are attempting to override existing beliefs in your subconscious mind. A belief is nothing more than a thought you have thought many, many times before, until eventually your subconscious mind takes it as "truth".

For example, many people believe that smoking calms you down. Physiologically, smoking does not have relaxation benefits but many smokers have convinced themselves that it does. Because they believe this, they create the experience of feeling more relaxed after smoking. To override this belief, it's important to replace it with an opposing belief - like affirming that you feel calm and relaxed already, so there is no need to smoke in order to relax.



You can do google searches for different kinds of affirmations.  There are TONS of websites with many listed by category.  :) 


I thought this might help someone as it has helped me for quite a few months now to get rid of all the lies Ive told myself or continue to tell myself.  Enjoy.... or skip along elsewhere.  <3 :)

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#51078 Back in Black

Posted by bakon on 11 August 2014 - 04:33 PM

All gone-results were all good.... got 5 weeks of radiation and follow up (like chemo but 1/2 hour and no side effects)treatments for year every three week. But its all gone- got phone call today and meet with Dr on Thursday. Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers, pink days and candles. They worked.

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#46464 The Gradual Return of Cute Lungs

Posted by Colleen on 26 July 2014 - 02:35 AM

Went to see my allergist today for an allergy issue, but the breathing test is always done.  The nurse who administered it, said:  "Every time you take the test, your results are better every time".  Goes to show you how the benefits keep on coming.  Okay, so I might never have cute lungs again, but they are so much better than I ever imagined they could be.  So, to all you lurkers thinking about quitting with a diagnosis of COPD or some other lung disease it can get better and it will...your life is not over.     

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#44225 Guard the Quit Always

Posted by Markus on 17 July 2014 - 10:09 PM


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#4171 Too Late to Quit

Posted by Stuart on 05 April 2014 - 07:12 PM

I have smoked for 30 years, Man and Boy. 


I started at 13 years old. Usual stuff - I wanted to be cool, grown up.


I quickly got into my stride - comfortably putting away 2, 3 packs a day throughout my twenties and thirties. I had a couple of goes at quitting - the usual stuff - girlfriends nagging, a health scare or two. A couple of times I was quit for months at a time.


Then, change of girlfriend or emotional trauma and I was back to a pack a day and more.


In the back of my mind, I knew that I was a smoker for ever. My family all smoked.


Some people are non-smokers who smoke - and some are proper smokers. I am a proper smoker. A cigarette looks great in my hand. It suits me. Bad cold? I can smoke through it. Freezing outside - I can go out in a tee shirt - a man has got to smoke.


As I moved into my 40s, it was getting harder to be a smoker. Bans everywhere. Hell, I didn't even smoke in my house!

But quit? Nah - it's too late for me. I'm a proper smoker. I have a stressful job - and need to have a smoke. 






Nobody is a proper smoker.

Nobody looks good with a cigarette. They just look addicted.

Nobody suits a cigarette.


Cigarettes cause stress - not relieve it.


There are many many way ways to quit smoking. Information on pretty much all of those ways can be found around here. Here you will also find people just like you - people who quit years ago, months ago, weeks ago, yesterday. We help each other. It's what we do.


So - if you are here for the first time, are just having a browse, or believe that you can't quit - because you are a 'proper smoker' - do yourself a favour read some more. 


Two final things.


1. Every successful quit starts just like yours. Decide to quit. Believe - And you will

2. I'm a proper non-smoker. Check my signature below...


Anyone can quit. Why not do it?

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#103013 My Sticky Quit

Posted by Colleen on 13 December 2014 - 02:40 AM

I went for a quick walk in the crisp 38 degree weather earlier today with a piping cup of hot Pumpkin Spice coffee and I had this crazy thought.  I thought, "If someone, walked by and offered me their cigarette - I would take it".  WHAT?! was my next thought.  Are you out of your mind?  Do you realize how much time and effort you would be tossing out the window?  Quickly my thoughts went to how much better shape both my body and lungs are in now.  Next, I thought of people that stink like a terrible ashtray.  You know, the ones that smoke in every room in their house and can never get rid of the stench.  As I walked up the four flights of stairs back to work, I thought back to how I'd be out of breath after only one flight when I was a smoker.  Remember using that nebulizer all the time?  I don't want any of that ever again.


At first, quitting was some sort of game I played with myself.   My quit was almost on a whim.  I told myself when I quit, I would give it one shot, if it didn't stick no big deal.  Well, something happened, it became such a big deal early on that it changed my life - if only I had done it sooner.  That doesn't matter, what's done is done.  I was given a second chance at life and there is not a chance I'm throwing that away.  It's NOPE for life as far as I'm concerned :)

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#50342 My journey......and what it means to me.....

Posted by Doreensfree on 07 August 2014 - 07:56 PM

1year ago,I knew I was in deep doo doo,doc told me....stop smoking or you risk losing your two feet...
My ankles were very sore and covered in black bruises,I looked like I had been battered with a bat...
Nicky was with me....when we got home...she sat me down ,with tears running down her cheeks...
She begged,mum please,do something ,try and quit....fight....I made my promise.....
Knew I couldn't do it alone....I smoked 52 years....I knew I had a job on....
I couldn't have imagined the support I have had....with the board help....I fought like hell.....
Doc has given me the all clear,my bruises have gone,so has the pain....I love my quit....
I love....the proud grin on my 6ft strapping son,when his 4ft 11 ins 63 year old mum says....
I'll race ya....slow coach...when we go on our bikes....
I love......doing the same qi gong and chai chi class as nicky.....not quite got the belly dancing thing yet...
I love.....playing football with my young grandson......because he knows granddad has oxygen mask and carnt play....
And I'm sure I have lots still to do....
Thanking you guys.....doesn't sound much......
But I do and it comes from the heart.....
Love to you all xxxx
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#208651 Friday May 5th 2017

Posted by beazel on 05 May 2017 - 04:18 AM

I would like to dedicate today's NOPE to my husband, who is so excited that I quit smoking (he quit in 1980)!!


We are celebrating our 41st wedding anniversary today.....May 5th 2017......100% Smoke Free    smileys-love-699505.gif



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